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I ate all his honey cheerios

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tattooedteagal · 17/08/2023 21:38

DH came back from work with some milk and cereal the other day.

DS has been wanting Cheerios for breakfast lately and I had a bowl today.

DH just come upstairs whilst I was in bed and had a go at me for eating his honey Cheerios. Apparently I should have asked!

I told him we're married and have a family. If he brings in cereal I assume it's for all of us,not just him. When I do our big monthly or fortnightly shop, I don't tell him off for eating the last packet of mini cheddars.

He says it's courtesy to ask.

AIBU?

OP posts:
SD1978 · 18/08/2023 09:02

How old is DS? Still young enough that you had to give him the cereal? Whilst obviously, they are for everyone, if I have bought something specifically because I really fancied them juts a few days ago, and they were all gone when I'd only had them once, despite them not being something other family members regularly have, I'd be a bit peeved off too to be honest!

Bumbers · 18/08/2023 09:03

YABU

MrsClatterbuck · 18/08/2023 09:04

crostini · 17/08/2023 22:05

You should be getting more than three servings out of an entire packet of cheerios?

This. Doesn't sound like a decent sized box or you all have massive servings. totally not going to check out the boxes of honey nut cheerios today

SoupDragon · 18/08/2023 09:06

YABU, of course it's polite to ask about eating something another person has specifically bought for themselves. It's not the same as the normal family shop at all.

SoupDragon · 18/08/2023 09:06

MrsClatterbuck · 18/08/2023 09:04

This. Doesn't sound like a decent sized box or you all have massive servings. totally not going to check out the boxes of honey nut cheerios today

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We once weighed out the recommended serving of cereal. It was utterly ridiculous.

Silverballet · 18/08/2023 09:46

Your DS has eaten most of it not you and I wouldn't expect a DC to ask permission for cereal no matter what kind.

Having said that, I'm sympathetic to your DH!

LoveThisUsername · 18/08/2023 09:48

Why is it ok for the son to have shovelled them all down his gob but not so much if the was the OP?

The son should be being taught about sharing, everyone getting some and not taking everything for himself, respecting things people have bought for themselves etc plus not being taught entitlement.

Otherwise he'll end up like another greedy OP husband being slated on here.

Of if he's too young for any of that, the OP shouldn't be dishing out all of someone elses treat.

CurlewKate · 18/08/2023 09:59

"Rather than complaining you would be better off going out and buying some more yourself."

But that's exactly what the dh in question did! He bought himself a treat and everyone else ate it. Obviously he shouldn't have "had a go" about it, but he was entirely in the right.

PuddlesPityParty · 18/08/2023 11:29

GrumpyPanda · 18/08/2023 07:51

You're not just being "funny" you're being disingenuous. I was on that thread and the husband in question had a constant habit of eating anything and everything including the kids' Easter eggs, somebody else's birthday chocolates and things he'd been told explicitly his wife had bought for herself. So respecting zero boundaries all the while hiding away goodies for himself.

In this case, sounds like it was a one-off and there was unclear communication involved. I hasten to say I'm not a cereals person so no idea if cheerios are anything fancier than the plain vanilla stuff.

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You’re only getting one side of events in both cases though. It’s hardly disingenuous.

NoSquirrels · 18/08/2023 11:37

Did you tell him that you’d given them to DS for breakfast? Tell him to buy 2 boxes next time, or ration DS a bit more and encourage him not to have cereal every day.

SuperBurgers · 18/08/2023 11:50

LoveThisUsername · 17/08/2023 21:46

Based on the op I'd have said yanbu. Based on this post, I now think yabvu. And greedy & selfish. Did you eat them to make a point about something?

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Yeah I agree, you knowingly left not enough for your DH. I think you were making some sort of snarky point about doing a communal shop and him only buying for himself. Id be pissed off too if DP deliberately ate food I had as a treat for me to make a point.

SuperBurgers · 18/08/2023 11:56

tattooedteagal · 17/08/2023 21:49

@Gymnopedie he came up and accused me of eating all his Cheerios hence the post. I didn't. I had one bowl. DH had 1. DS ate the rest.

... So DH had one bowl, you had one bowl and there was enough left for DS but not a enough for DH (per you previous post)? Jesus christ, HOW BIG are these bowls, you've gotten 2.5 bowls out of a box of cereal?!

DH bought himself cereal and had 40%, you've helped yourself to another 40% of the box and left 20% which DS ate.

The smallest box I can see is 370g... you really need to pay attention to portion sizes.

AngelsAndRainbows · 19/08/2023 07:21

so he bought them for himself and then you and your DS ate most of them even though as a grown adult you would have known he’d bought them for himself? Nah I’m with DH on this.

Blondeshavemorefun · 19/08/2023 07:43

How old is ds? A teen ager so 2 big bowls and gone ?

I get why dh is annoyed. He fancied them. Brought them. Had one bowl qns went for a second and not many left

I like Aldi chocolate /peanut balls and would be annoyed if went to have some and all gone

Maybe put them on the shopping list

MzHz · 19/08/2023 07:59

tattooedteagal · 17/08/2023 21:49

@Gymnopedie he came up and accused me of eating all his Cheerios hence the post. I didn't. I had one bowl. DH had 1. DS ate the rest.

how can only 3 bowls of cereal use up the entire box? Are you all eating out of a bucket or something?

Pineapples198 · 19/08/2023 08:00

Yes, it’s just cereal. However. If my husband came home with a box of cereal that we don’t usually have in the house I would assume it’s because he wants that cereal. I wouldn’t let the children eat that cereal every single morning until it was all gone. Why would you? Presumably the child has his own cereal selection. If the child wants to eat the cereal dad bought every day, buy some more! It would be like me buying some Special K thinking I fancy this for breakfasts and finding out my husband had a bowl of it and fed it to the kids every morning so it was gone in a flash. It sounds like it was done on purpose to annoy DH.

SoupDragon · 19/08/2023 08:05

MzHz · 19/08/2023 07:59

how can only 3 bowls of cereal use up the entire box? Are you all eating out of a bucket or something?

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It doesn't say the DS only had one bowl. It also doesn't say hoe large the box was.

DottyLottieLou · 19/08/2023 08:12

Play him at his own game then. Tell him if hes going to be like that he needs to ask if he wants your mini cheddars. Best way to get your point across. If there are to be rules around the food they have to apply to everyone.

SunRainStorm · 19/08/2023 08:20

YABU.

He bought something small and inexpensive for for himself as a treat and for some reason you begrudged him that.

I'd be really annoyed if my DH did that to me.

If you think the distribution of chores like grocery shopping isn't fair in your house than talk about that like an adult, not by passive aggressively feeding your DS your DH's treat.

ExperiencedTeacher · 19/08/2023 08:36

My husband really fancied Toblerone so I got him one. The kids and I then ate most of it and he only got one piece. Our greediness deprived him of the treat he’d been looking forward to so I bought him another. Problem solved.

Gumptionesque · 19/08/2023 09:05

If you didn’t leave enough for him YABU.

purplehair1 · 19/08/2023 09:11

Cereal is cereal - surely he’s finished off things you enjoy before now. Do you do most of the food shopping?

CurlewKate · 19/08/2023 12:00

I do wonder what other people's lives are really like. Surely people who live together like and are nice to each other, and want each other to have treats and nice things? Not hide stuff from each other like petulant flatmates?

JudgeRudy · 19/08/2023 12:01

tattooedteagal · 17/08/2023 21:43

@foulksmills I didn't eat the last of them. There was enough left for DS breakfast but not enough for a grown man. I've only had one bowl.

I think the fact that he specifically went out and bought them meant he really wanted them and it was a kind of a treat, similar to if he had bought some chocolate. I don't think it's unreasonable for you or your son to eat the Cheerios but I do think it's unreasonable not to replace them. He's gone to eat a bowl and found there's just a few left which you've earmarked for your son. That would annoy me. If it was evening and I didn't need to be anywhere soon I'd be asking you to go to the shop and replace them. Going forward just add them to the weekly shop.

Codlingmoths · 19/08/2023 12:16

I’m confused. A box of cereal is more than 2 bowls. So the op had one, her ds had one. Did he just not eat any of his cereal for a week or two and then the op had a bowl and the next morning the ds had the rest? Or did he steadily eat it for a week but was annoyed the op had any? (In which case he’s a twat) Or did he bring it home, the op had a bowl and ds had 7 bowls in a row?

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