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I ate all his honey cheerios

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tattooedteagal · 17/08/2023 21:38

DH came back from work with some milk and cereal the other day.

DS has been wanting Cheerios for breakfast lately and I had a bowl today.

DH just come upstairs whilst I was in bed and had a go at me for eating his honey Cheerios. Apparently I should have asked!

I told him we're married and have a family. If he brings in cereal I assume it's for all of us,not just him. When I do our big monthly or fortnightly shop, I don't tell him off for eating the last packet of mini cheddars.

He says it's courtesy to ask.

AIBU?

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redskytwonight · 19/08/2023 12:16

Miscellaneousme · 17/08/2023 22:03

Lol. Woman comes home with milk and cereal and it’s shopping. Man buys milk and cereal and it’s a special treat to be set aside? I’m with you OP. YANBU.

Or ...
woman comes home with treat food for herself and if her DH as much as thinks about eating it we are in LTB territory

Man buys treat food for himself and it's fair game for everyone else to eat.

TiaraBoo · 19/08/2023 12:25

The problem is the treat is kids cereal. If he’d bought some 20 yr old whisky or posh chocolate then it’s more obviously his treat. With kids cereal, he should have said I want to keep it to myself and put it out of the way somewhere.

TooOldForThisNonsense · 19/08/2023 12:27

Hmm I guess he is a little childish but I have 2 teenage boys and they are always eating stuff I buy for myself, even when I tell them. I bought them the cold meat for sandwiches they wanted and myself some roast chicken breast and they left their cold meat and ate my chicken, it was gone when I went to get it for lunch :(

Mummytotheboy · 19/08/2023 12:28

Omg the things I'm reading on here are ridiculous! You are not being unreasonable your husband is behaving like a spoilt child! If he didnt want you to eat them he should of wrote a pathetic note and stuck it to the cereal. The only stuff i don't eat and the same for my partner is what is in our work bags and the snack things I get for our son. He ate the m&ms I had bought myself last week. I put them in the snack drawer so it was first come first served. Honestly if my partner ever said that to me I'd get a label maker and label all the food up!

CurlewKate · 19/08/2023 12:28

Possibly say "I'd like to keep this for myself" but put it out of the way somewhere? Seriously? This isn't a student flat!

CurlewKate · 19/08/2023 12:30

"I put them in the snack drawer so it was first come first served."

Because they were in a communal snack drawer.

budgiegirl · 19/08/2023 12:35

It's cereal! I really couldn't get that excited about it, especially if it was my child who had eaten the majority of it.

If there is food in the cupboard, then it's fair game in this house, as long as everyone is considerate. For example, if I buy some chocolate biscuits that I like, then everyone can help themselves, as long as they don't wolf the whole packet straight away. But if I go back to get one four days later, then I wouldn't be surprised that they were all gone.

If DH had one bowl, and OP had one bowl, then DS must have eaten the rest, which suggests that it's been a few days that the cereal has been there. Enough time for DH to have some more if he'd wanted it.

MalcolmsMiddle · 19/08/2023 12:35

redskytwonight · 19/08/2023 12:16

Or ...
woman comes home with treat food for herself and if her DH as much as thinks about eating it we are in LTB territory

Man buys treat food for himself and it's fair game for everyone else to eat.

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Agreed - massive sexism in this vote. YABVU.

Ilovetea33 · 19/08/2023 12:50

I'm confused by the timeline as well. Did DH have one bowl and then not touch it again for days? Then he shouldn't be surprised that other family members helped themselves as well. But I'm not sure that's what happened.

LoveThisUsername · 19/08/2023 12:59

budgiegirl · 19/08/2023 12:35

It's cereal! I really couldn't get that excited about it, especially if it was my child who had eaten the majority of it.

If there is food in the cupboard, then it's fair game in this house, as long as everyone is considerate. For example, if I buy some chocolate biscuits that I like, then everyone can help themselves, as long as they don't wolf the whole packet straight away. But if I go back to get one four days later, then I wouldn't be surprised that they were all gone.

If DH had one bowl, and OP had one bowl, then DS must have eaten the rest, which suggests that it's been a few days that the cereal has been there. Enough time for DH to have some more if he'd wanted it.

Why does he have to eat it in a specified time otherwise it will be gannetted by op and her son?

On the greedy husband threads it's deemed abusive if a woman can't leave something in the cupboard until she fancies it, but has to eat it straight away otherwise the greedy bastard will eat it all.

Boysnme · 19/08/2023 13:12

neilyoungismyhero · 17/08/2023 21:51

You only had 1 bowl so that's not overkill but I think it was a bit off allowing your son to pile into them every breakfast until there was none left for your husband to enjoy.

Or he could have

Songbird54321 · 19/08/2023 13:30

Every household has different food rules. In my house, you’d be in the doghouse.
Our weekly shop consists of communal food, snacks I like, snacks my partner likes and snacks for the kids. We will absolutely share snacks, but we ask each other to be sure.
I have endless patience in certain scenarios, kids ripped my dress - ok, it’s just a dress and was an accident. Threw my drinks bottle in the bin (toddler), just a bottle, she thought she was tidying. But they know not to fuck with my food. It hits every single one of my nerves and I don’t react well. Probably down to growing up with 4 greedy siblings.
Just get the man another box of cereal, apologise and tell your son, depending on age, to keep his mits off. How many bowls did he have if you and dh only got one each???

RedDedRedemption · 19/08/2023 13:39

TooOldForThisNonsense · 19/08/2023 12:27

Hmm I guess he is a little childish but I have 2 teenage boys and they are always eating stuff I buy for myself, even when I tell them. I bought them the cold meat for sandwiches they wanted and myself some roast chicken breast and they left their cold meat and ate my chicken, it was gone when I went to get it for lunch :(

And I was wondering where all the greedy husbands in the others threads came from, now I know.
Your future DIL's will be ones posting similar on MN in a decade or so.

I know teenagers can be difficult but I wouldn't tolerate such disrespect. I'd be locking my stuff up and deliberately buying them the most bland and boring food if this happened. They can eat it or go without. Their choice.

RedDedRedemption · 19/08/2023 13:40

MzHz · 19/08/2023 07:59

how can only 3 bowls of cereal use up the entire box? Are you all eating out of a bucket or something?

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The OP clearly says her DS 'has been wanting Cheerios for breakfast lately' that implies a period of several days. So many posts like this, reading comprehension here is on the floor!

RedDedRedemption · 19/08/2023 13:41

MalcolmsMiddle · 19/08/2023 12:35

Agreed - massive sexism in this vote. YABVU.

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Definitely!

SunRainStorm · 19/08/2023 13:44

TooOldForThisNonsense · 19/08/2023 12:27

Hmm I guess he is a little childish but I have 2 teenage boys and they are always eating stuff I buy for myself, even when I tell them. I bought them the cold meat for sandwiches they wanted and myself some roast chicken breast and they left their cold meat and ate my chicken, it was gone when I went to get it for lunch :(

You need to shut this disrespectful and selfish behaviour down.

What are the consequences when they do this?

TheWomanTheyCallJayne · 19/08/2023 14:37

I suspect the problem is if he put the cereal with all the other cereals without saying anything. Cereal is a communal food normally. It’s not like Easter eggs or being given a box of chocolates for
your birthday.

Duechristmas · 19/08/2023 14:40

We're a family of 5, if it's in the kitchen cupboard, it's anyone's regardless of who bought it. Just replace it next time you go shopping.

maxandru · 19/08/2023 14:40

Am I missing something? We are talking about breakfast cereal, right? Why is it such a big deal? Struggling to take this seriously here!

dhilez · 19/08/2023 15:07

Mumsnet hypocrites out in full force here, if this was reversed it would be the usual LTB bollocks

Brumbies · 19/08/2023 15:30

I think he's a prat, you're a family for goodness sake! It's beyond petty.

budgiegirl · 19/08/2023 15:32

maxandru · 19/08/2023 14:40

Am I missing something? We are talking about breakfast cereal, right? Why is it such a big deal? Struggling to take this seriously here!

Me too, it all seems such a fuss over a box of cereal !

Bertiesmum3 · 19/08/2023 15:52

tattooedteagal · 17/08/2023 21:43

@foulksmills I didn't eat the last of them. There was enough left for DS breakfast but not enough for a grown man. I've only had one bowl.

My husband has cereal every morning and he only has a little bit, so depends on how much your husband eats!

Minime88888888 · 19/08/2023 16:45

What a turn off. Him, I mean.

Whyohwhywyoming · 19/08/2023 16:49

XMissPlacedX · 18/08/2023 08:30

I buy myself nesquik cereal and hide it in another cupboard in the house and eat it when the kids are in bed. Your DH is being unreasonable for not hiding his cereal better.

I did this for years with frosted wheats. It was the only cereal I ate and everyone else had free rein of all the cereal. Now my
kids are older, they are still so conditioned they never eat the frosted wheats, even though they are no longer hidden!