DH winds my window up!

[Forwardthinkinglobster]

It’s the only bit of control I have in the passenger side of the car when I’m not driving; it’s MY window. He pushes my button as well as his, thus forcing me to relinquish control of said window. It gives me the absolute rage. Wind your own window up but don’t snatch mine!

AIBU?

(Anyone else’s DH do this?)

It's my choice as the driver (especially at higher speeds).

Things quite often blow/fly in through the windows and can get in your eyes, plus the noise and effect on the car.

LTB

THIS. ^ Just one window being open in a car (when it's moving at speed, 20mph or more) is dreadful. It makes such a noise!

Also @Forwardthinkinglobster if the car has air conditioning - as many cars do - then YABVVVU for opening the window at ALL.

Ds gets into the car with coat, hat and gloves on and adjusts the heating which I have got just right as driver. Drives me crazy! Especially when I'm doing him a favour by picking him up.

Have some fun with it. Find something that he finds really annoying and do it to him all the time, whilst quietly chuckling to yourself. You'll enjoy it. I know I do.

I do this. Anything over 30 and the window needs to be shut. It's worse if it's the passenger side.

This - he goes in the passenger seat and you drove. Driver rules all.

Mine fiddles with all my controls , puts his radio station on and blasts cold air on my bare legs etc - I just turn it off again and tell him if he touches them again I’ll stop the car and let him out , seems to work

Just wind it down again. DHknows I can think for myself regarding the window situation

Me too. I always have the aircon on so windows are shut.

It makes me fucking livid when people have the windows open when I'm driving. Especially if they then try to talk to me over the racket.

But then this must mean that the drivers in your family aren't bothered by the windows being open.

Because if they were and it was distracting from the driving, that would override the rest, right? Which is the same as what everyone else is saying.

I once turned the music down to concentrate on a tricky nav direction. My (non driving) husband pouted and turned it back up.

I gave him both barrels. You NEVER interfere with what the driver wants.

Driver's prerogative. One window open is awful and I prefer air con anyway, which is pointless when I window is being opened. So YABU.

My mother used to insist on opening the window. I have hayfever and despite anti histamines etc it’s more comfortable for me driving with air con and the pollen filter doing its job. I’d have eyes streaming, trying not to sneeze and my hair all whipped onto my face. So I would put her window back up!

Driver always decides.

Do you drive, op?

I’m also really surprised by these responses! I can’t remember ever being in anyone’s car where I wasn’t allowed to open my window, and I don’t police it in my car when I’m the driver. If DH or DC have their window open, I just open mine slightly to stop the juddering noise, and turn the heating up if I’m cold. Despite what people are saying about aerodynamics, I have never found it tricky to drive when windows are being opened and closed.

I do this because I’m childish. I put his heated seats on in hot weather 🤣

@bringbackthe80s my car still has wind up windows in the back- it’s relatively new (2017) I didn’t realise that until about 5 months after I brought the car as it was only ever my ds and I in the front!

Everyone moaning about the noise of windows being open, have you tried fitting wind deflectors? Apart from anything else they make most cars look better 😎 but you can also have the window open an inch or 2 for fresh air rain or shine and at motorway speeds with much less noise. I recommend Heko brand and usually buy them from eBay.

This 100% and for me if its the back windows I outright get ear pain.

I’m enjoying an excellent array of diverse replies - thank you! I get your points about window noise and driver trumping everything , but DH hates air con because it “dries his eyes out”(???), hence the windows being open. He has a higher tolerance to heat/humidity than I do, so he often winds the windows up and then I sit there sweating even though we have air con in the car?! Don’t get me wrong, he’s a lovely guy and we get on fine (usually!) but this car etiquette is bonkers and on long journeys we end up having a “button off”!

Hmm well the law according to Supernatural is ‘driver picks the music, shotgun shuts his cakehole’ so perhaps that extends to windows as well.

Air con is worse than no windows open, so claustrophobic and false, I need to feel the air / movement or I up chuck, I don't know how you can stand it tbh.

For those that ask - yes I do drive!