Sometimes........it just takes your breath away.

[Cinnamongirlinthesand]

My eldest son died 14 yrs ago, sepsis. Last conversation I had with him, he said he didn't feel well but not to worry, just a bug.Next morning I had a call from a paramedic, from sons phone, saying your son has stopped breathing, get to hospital PDQ.
I have felt guilty ever since.My world will never be the same.
All the what ifs and if onlys keep popping up in my head.
A so called 'friend" on SM has recently posted, "Apologies if I'm not myself but my son died yesterday'.
Cue all the are you ok hun?
FFS when my lovely boy passed the last thing on my mind was to post on SM.The people who needed to know were told.
Maybe just feeling sorry for myself tonight, just me and dog.

Thank you @CluedoFace .

@porridgeisbae I saw it as understated and British. Also she might be apologising if she usually is quite chatty via messenger etc but hadn't been that day.
And that may be true. But my point is not about what is factually correct. Neither you nor I know what this turn of phrase meant for the person who used it.

Words on a page or screen are 2 dimensional. They are flat. The reader of those words adds dimension to them. But that dimension is coloured by the readers's individual experiences and emotions.

We could all read the same book. Whilst we would all have read the same words, our responses and connections with those words will be very different. Those differences are based on our own experiences. Some of us will love the book, some hate it, some be apathetic, some wonder what the fuss is about. There is a breadth of emotions, and all responses, even the truly uncomfortable, raw ones, if they come from a place of honesty, are valid.

When an emotional response is honest, whilst it might not be 'right', it also isn't 'wrong'. These black and white concepts are not the correct tools for dealing with the many colours and shades of grief.

Attention is a perfectly legitimate human need. Emotional support is basically just attention + sympathy.

Sorry, my post was a reply to @Ollifer.

I hope you are okay OP! I totally get what you mean last thing I’d think to do would be to post. Each to their own but am with you

I'm so sorry for your loss OP but please don't judge this other woman for dealing with her own loss in her own way. It seems like a cry for help in the same way many people with MH issues post things on social media. 💐