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Enough Food

208 replies

LaGiaconda · 05/08/2023 18:01

Have been out at work today.

The job involves a lot of being on my feet, lifting, carrying, walking round the building. Suspect I put in several miles in an average day.

I had a not huge breakfast at 7.30 am, I had a sandwich and some fruit for lunch but arrive home tired and hungry.

Partner, who had been at home all day, announced proudly, 'It's going to be a vegetarian supper tonight.

They had got out some rice noodles and had chopped up a bit of veg - peppers, carrots, cabbage.

There was no source of protein - eg chicken, prawns, bean curd.

I said, 'It's not going to be enough.' (No dessert on offer)

They got really huffy and sulky 'I don't know what's got into you etc.'

Would you find that enough?

OP posts:
Ponderingwindow · 05/08/2023 18:07

It’s all about tone and expectations.

you could have said, “I appreciate you cooking. I’m really hungry tonight. I think I’ll add some X to this meal. Do you want me to make some for you too?”

BritWifeInUSA · 05/08/2023 18:07

I would need more than that. Most people would. But this is Mumsnet so you’re going to get pages of people telling you one noodle is enough to keep them going for 6 weeks.

Wendysfriend · 05/08/2023 18:09

Well on here that would feed a small village for a month. In reality, no I'd be starving, I'd either add something to it or make a few sandwiches.

PollyThePixie · 05/08/2023 18:10

That wasn’t enough of a meal for anyone let alone someone doing your job and I’ve been rather put out if it had been given to me.

calmcoco · 05/08/2023 18:10

I said, 'It's not going to be enough.' This sounds rather rude!

PollyThePixie · 05/08/2023 18:11

calmcoco · 05/08/2023 18:10

I said, 'It's not going to be enough.' This sounds rather rude!

It was true.

Moltenpink · 05/08/2023 18:11

I would have eaten it and made some toast later to be honest. Your response does sound a little rude

Luxell934 · 05/08/2023 18:13

I would have eaten it before deciding it wasn't going to be enough. Then made myself something afterwards if I was still hungry. Sometimes when we are very hungry we tend to put more on our plate, order more food at a restaurant, put more food in the shopping trolley than is actually needed etc

HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 05/08/2023 18:16

Sounds like you were hangry! Haha. I would have eaten it and then had a snack later.

MoonLion · 05/08/2023 18:18

When you say there was no dessert on offer, isn't there a yoghurt in the fridge or some fruit or something?

I cook veg noodles sometimes, it's not DH's favourite but he would never say what you said. He'd eat it and then have something else if he was still hungry.

AvengedQuince · 05/08/2023 18:20

Moltenpink · 05/08/2023 18:11

I would have eaten it and made some toast later to be honest. Your response does sound a little rude

It would have to be peanut butter or cheese on toast for the missing protein, then usually are adding more carbs you might not want. Easier to plan a proper meal in the first place.

AvengedQuince · 05/08/2023 18:21

I'd have just added a fried egg or two to veg noodles though.

InterSelecta · 05/08/2023 18:23

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Withdrawn at OP's request

Ifulikepinacoladas · 05/08/2023 18:23

Sounds like a miserable meal to come back to after a long day. I don't blame you for your response. Hopefully there was other food you could fill up on?

toastofthetown · 05/08/2023 18:25

That's the kind of meal I eat regularly, and this recipe sounds very similar to the recipe in the OP and its one of (meat eating) DH's favourite meals.

"It's not going to be enough" is rude, and would piss me off as a cook. If it's not enough after you've eaten it, then you can get something else. I'm not precious, and want my husband's honest feedback on meals but there's a time and a way to phrase things and yours was not it.

FloweryName · 05/08/2023 18:27

As long as it was a decent sized portion, I can’t see what’s wrong with a veggie chow mein for dinner.

HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 05/08/2023 18:30

It sounds like you should have eaten a better breakfast and packed a bigger lunch. Now that you're calm, I would thank your partner for the food and request that next time you'd like some protein added to the meal.

DoesNotPlayWellWithIdiots · 05/08/2023 18:30

Did you even say "thank you"? Your response sounds very ungrateful, you could have had a snack later. Missing protein from one meal won't kill you.

ImGoingThroughChanges · 05/08/2023 18:32

You sound rude. If you don’t like what was made for you then make your own dinner.

Allwelcone · 05/08/2023 18:33

I would be so grateful to have a meal cooked for me, I hopefully wouldn't have criticised. I may have got hungry later or had a sneaky bit of cheese.
I don't eat meat and I'm pretty sure lack of protein isn't an issue in 99% of westerners diets.

Do you have an issue with the vegetarian aspect?

BrutusMcDogface · 05/08/2023 18:33

You were rude as fuck.

dreamingbohemian · 05/08/2023 18:34

You don't need protein at every meal. Nothing wrong with veggie noodles as long as the portion size was right. I would have eaten it and then had something after if still hungry.

Otherwise as PP said, 'mind if I cracked an egg over it' is much nicer than snapping 'not enough'

BrutusMcDogface · 05/08/2023 18:35

Ponderingwindow · 05/08/2023 18:07

It’s all about tone and expectations.

you could have said, “I appreciate you cooking. I’m really hungry tonight. I think I’ll add some X to this meal. Do you want me to make some for you too?”

This 👆

PrideNails · 05/08/2023 18:36

You sound rude and ungrateful. Eat if and if you're still hungry, have a snack.

Georgyporky · 05/08/2023 18:37

Partner is a dickhead if s/he thinks that a vegetarian meal excludes protein.
I'd have pointedly added some ham or eggs to the "meal".