Have you ever been ‘outed’ on Mumsnet

[Thebigblueballoon]

There are so many threads now where people feel they might be ‘outed’.
Have you ever recognised somebody or been recognised on Mumsnet?

Someone in my home town posted a picture of their back garden in a thread about their neighbours building work. I have no idea who the OP is, but I could tell you exactly where she lived from the background in the photo.

Anyone who knew her in RL would have no problems identifying her.

No and I’ve said some awful completely accurate things about former mil.

I have been accused of being a troll twice when describing things sil has done.

I've had various people IRL ask me if I was my previous username name. It was all proper outing with my boys names, specific thing that happened to the middle son and then drama with neighbours too tbf!

I don’t ever put anything on here that would make me worry about being outed and I know I have said enough in the past for friends or family to recognise me. For anyone who knows me my username is a dead giveaway. Doesn’t concern me really if I am recognised.

I recognised one poster garnering a huge outpouring of sympathy.

Unfortunately, having been there at the time, I knew that they were lying about the part they played in it to get that sympathy, possibly because they didn't want to admit to themselves that they were directly responsible for it happening.

I know someone on here from her username and things she has said, kids names, stuff going on in the family etc.

I wouldn't bring it up to her though.

I’ve identified several people on here. Someone who I used to go to school with posting about school days, a mum from my kids school posted a photo of herself, a friend of a friend talking about a sad event, a friend talking about her child’s health condition, and a friends partner’s ex wife talking about their divorce. Every time I felt a bit creepy and I didn’t like it! It also worried me how immediately identifiable I found all these people. And really made me careful not to write anything too revealing about myself.

No but people IRL know who I am on here. I don't post threads though.

Not that I know of but I am very careful about any anecdotes, stories, personal situations that could easily identify me because I think more people use this site than we think. I'd be mortified to be recognised. I've posted so much personal stuff on here from my sex life to bowel issues. I name change regularly and think it's a great feature to have. I wouldn't post half as much without it.

I probably have as I've posted very outing things. However it's nothing I wouldn't say in real life so I'm not bothered if someone recognised me.

I recognised someone on here due to very outing posts and pictures. I didn't say anything and didn't read their threads.

I also don't want NC as I like my username

I was recognised fairly early on when I was a bit naive (I joined about 16 years ago when I wasn't so social media savvy and had mentioned stuff when all put together made me recognisable). The person who recognised me mentioned something I'd asked advice on re one of my children in RL in front of others which I'd rather they'd not all known - so she'd clearly had a good look through my posting history. I learned how to namechange pretty sharpish

Never spotted anyone I know. My friend spotted me but she knew I’d made a post so she was keeping an eye out for it. Never knowingly been spotted otherwise but I only post things on this name that I don’t mind being outed for so I wouldn’t be fussed if someone did work out who I was.

My ex also stalked me here, also before we split up he would grab my phone and try to see my user name. Then taunt me with my posts, and once posted a really disgusting comment on a thread.

but of course he would, because he’s a cunt.

Thank you for the unintended reminder, just changed my username 😁

I was recognised under a former name, I posted a lot about a very stressful time in my life and had some great support.

I've recognised a friend on here through several name changes. She's never said anything controversial but she's quite obvious with quite niche interests and very vocal about her beliefs. I haven't said anything. It feels a bit awkward knowing who she is!

Yes several user names ago by a friend. She commented on such a thread she recognised me by my user name. It was based around a hobby I do and disability I have (it's a huge hobby and."outed"me maybe all those cycling partners have a point 😂).

My SIL is here to but haven't seen them for a while. I don't speak to my in-laws for various reasons but we all know what we hate about each other after 20 off years lol.

I don't share anything too private anyway.

A friend of my ex-MIL recognised the situation that I was asking about, told my ex-MIL who searched my previous posts - one was about my husband at the time - caused a lot of trouble for me.
Now I’m more careful & name change regularly- off to do it again now as this is outing!

Yes! This is me exactly.

Especially this week.

So many threads so local to my own area and so much about my own hobbies and interests.
It's made me paranoid and I stay well away from answering.

I think I have recognised a school friend from an 'Idol' thread.
He was a niche Idol 😁

LOVE your username.

Just name changed!

Never spotted anyone I know and as far as I know I've never been spotted. I've never asked any friends or family if they're on here. To be fair my head is so far in the clouds even if someone I knew put something very obviously them on here, I probably still wouldn't clock!

One of my fave usernames… always makes me smile!

Yes, a long time ago. But it wasn't the "gotcha" the other person thought it was- because I never say anything on here I wouldn't say in the pub.