Have you ever been ‘outed’ on Mumsnet

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There are so many threads now where people feel they might be ‘outed’.
Have you ever recognised somebody or been recognised on Mumsnet?

Yup. Other posters nicknamed her TerribleCuntMum.
I was (deservedly) incredibly pissed off at her and she found the thread then infact lived up to that name and I got the police involved.

I've never recognised anyone nor have I been recognised.

I haven't name changed in ages and I definitely share too much so I'm sure if someone really knew me it would be obvious. Thankfully I'm spectacularly boring so I don't care.

Yes, I recognised someone I knew via my job. She just had a baby and was posting that she felt suicidal.
I phoned her health visitor the next morning and she went round. The poster I recognised kept the same username for many years and I occasionally saw her on the site but haven’t for a while now.

I have lots of different usernames, and make new ones.
I don't sock puppet, they're just to stop the stalker getting new information.
If it's something she knows, or is identifiable, they are in this name.

I got recognised on 'TheStudentRoom' many many years ago.

I name change regularly just because i've been burnt once. MN raised it with me once, that I had a lot of name changes but I essentially NC before I start any threads. My ex used to hunt thru MN to find my posts. Ironically he called me abusive because I had started a thread asking for advice because I found him repulsive due to his BO/bad breath and horrendous dress sense.

Local woman posted something about a school on here and then posted the same thing, word for word, on a local fb group. I wasn't the only one who realised that she had outted herself!

yes. I have been on since January 2010. (Although flounced and deregged a few times since then. )

I have recognised the wife of DH's best friend. That was quite interesting because I always found her quite an arrogant person IRL and thought maybe she was more insecure than she seemed. Her MN posts were extremely arrogant as well so I decided she was not.

I recognised a neighbour of mine - we were both on an alcohol-free sobriety thread and she posted something that was specifically outing to our very street., (not even the neighbourhood- the street). I PMed her to tell her who I was and to say i had recognised her so she could NC if she wished. She did as i never saw her under that name again.

I was recently outed by a RL friend I did not even know was on Mn when i had a bit of a rant about something fairly innocuous and she texted me. I nc after that as well. But to be fair I nc every week or so.

Nope. But found my STBXH’s other OW on here….

Yes I have. I have posted about this before. I had a very long high conflict divorce a decade ago and the entire thing lasted for 3 threads (amazing women here who held me together, some who are now lifelong friends). The first I knew I had been outed was when my ex-h rocked up to court with the entire threads printed out claiming "contempt of court" 🙄. He and OW also took them to the police claiming harassment 🙄🙄🙄.

I suspect somebody known to OW recognised the fairly specific circumstances and told her. I honestly couldn't have cared less. I hadn't named anybody, I hadn't committed a crime and quite honestly, anybody reading it would have been horrified at their behaviour towards me and my children and it certainly didn't fit in with their public narrative which was completely false. OW had a "reputation" to uphold apparently. It was a bit of a nightmare at the time but I carried on and they gained nothing from it except the knowledge that they are utterly awful people.

Yes. And only because it was taken by the Daily Mail and I was recognised through there.

I've recognised two friends on here, one of them posting about a sad event in her life, when I realised it was her I didn't read any further. The other I think she has name changed now.
I remember recognising the same poster through about 12 name changes but haven't seen her in a while.

I’ve recognised several friends. But never knowingly been outed myself.
One posted about her sex life, and I twigged it was her straightaway from an incredibly specific outing detail (that was also completely superfluous to the point of her post). She’d be mortified if she ever found out she’d been rumbled.

I know two people watch what I post, they're too cowardly to ever mention it to me in real life.

I spotted a friend after she posted a Facebook status identical to a post on here. I didn't tell her though. No idea if I've ever been recognised but I'm very aware of posting details of my life, I even hesitate to post my DC's ages.

not been outed myself but spotted someone else, it was quite astounding to watch the thread. The poster was a renowned work place bully trying to get someone she didn’t get along with managed out for some bullshit reason. She twisted and contorted what’s been happening and what she’s been doing for try and get posters on side- a real glimpse to how she is at work

Another school mum recognised me from something I posted about dcat. We had a giggle about it. I don’t really care if I’m outed; I don’t post anything I wouldn’t admit to in real life.

I posted about my brother going missing (nearly 17 years ago, wowsers!), shared the official police missing person link etc. Social media wasn't such a big thing at the time. A old and very dear friend saw the thread and got in touch with me offline to check I was ok. My first DC was still a newborn and it was a very stressful time for my family.

Thankfully my brother returned after 10 very worrying days.

Yes on rather a niche subject thread. My life is fairly boring so not bothered about being outed on here but I did think it was poor form to raise it with me and I indicated that to them without saying anything much.

It’s one thing to recognise someone on here; quite another to tell them you know! What is the point of that? It just makes everyone uncomfortable surely? Oresably they have posted on an anonymous forum for good reason!

If I recognised someone on here, not only would I not mention it, I would make a point of not reading anything more posted by them.

Yes - I had posted on here about a situation that upset me and was identified from that - got the loveliest PMs which made me feel so much better when I was feeling glum. So I have only had positive outing experience!

Oooh I didn’t know name changes were an issue I basically name change every day/every thread just for anonymity really!!

Yes, several people. And I know I’ve been recognised and also that I’m completely recognisable!

One of my DDs is on here and we both know each other’s MN user names, often posting on each other’s threads on the gender critical feminist board.
I have been identified a few times as her mum, as she is a public campaigner, and I have appeared in a couple of her YouTube videos, but I am happy to defend my views on anything I have posted, so it doesn’t bother me.

It means if someone does recognise you from the specifics they can’t go and trawl your previous posts.

Someone recognised me from a thread and they emailed a link to another thread to a relative of mine and caused a world of hassle.

I was recognised after a thread of mine was lifted by the bloody mail. I now think twice about posting and NC a lot.

Yes, some people are very recognisable.