to think that SAHM's with school-age children are in fact just stay at home people?

[Pissyflaps]

I'm going to get flamed backwards for this, but I really don't care. I'm also going to be accused of all manner of trollery, bite me.

It's my opinion, I want yours - so, SAHM's who's children are at school-all day, aren't they just stay at home people? Not a lot of parenting goes on as far as I can tell.

No - don't bother.
The OP thinks that schools are open from 8.30 to 5.30 (at least) every day, that there are no holidays, and that SAHMs spend their whole time having their nails done and meeting friends for coffee - AND she thinks that all of that is somehow her business.

i.e. no jobs that fit around school hours = i don't really want to work.

which is fine, but be honest.

"The OP thinks that schools are open from 8.30 to 5.30 (at least) every day, that there are no holidays, and that SAHMs spend their whole time having their nails done and meeting friends for coffee - AND she thinks that all of that is somehow her business."

Do point me in the direction of the posts where I made those statements please.

no bossykate, I do want to work. But as I have no family nearby who can help out with the childcare, and a dh who has a demanding job with unpredictable hours, all the childcare comes down to me.

So I have no option but to be home. As there are no jobs around school hours. Except jobs in a school. But they are like gold dust around here.

"a dh who has a demanding job with unpredictable hours, all the childcare comes down to me."

for you in that case.

seriously, do you think there are no women out there with no family around to help and dhs with demanding jobs who do in fact work?

anyway, i don't want to upset or have a go at individual posters - i was making a general point.

one final time - i don't have the slightest problem with parents sah whether there kids are at school.

YANBU and looking through until about post 100 i think a lot actually agree with you OP (though in a bit of a veiled way!). A few weeks "phew time on my own" space when they first go to school i can 100% understand, but personally I manage to fit in the clean, cook, pay bills,homework, gardening, list people have posted as to what they do all day, around working and doing courses.

Hippi - why are yu bothering? It doesn't bother me that you don't work, or even if you want to. I don't.

what does pissy do? She is either a Student (can afford to sit on MN all day) or a working person who's using the firm's computer.Who cares.?????

Either way she/he has no right to question us.

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bossykate, I am sure they do, and they work fulltime.

But if dh and I both wanted to be out all day and not see the dc, then what is the point and having dc in the first place?

Hence the fact that I want to work school hours only, and those jobs DO exist, it will just take longer to find one. So put that gun away

• squirt of tea over the keyboard.

Yes pissy I am on a tea break. But I do have to go and be a mummy again soon, is that ok with you? What are you doing ATM?????

oh here we go. the first "why bother to have dc" has blasted off the launchpad.

i'm off.

captainmummy - because I feel taht as someone who does not work I have to justify myself all the time.

in this money and status obsesses society we live in, you appear to be judged on how much you earn and how productive (in economic terms) a member of society you are.

and it makes me

okay bossykate, bye bye.

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feed a troll
starve a namechanger

Am I remembering that right?

I love this place, I really do.

There's a section on it called "am I being unreasonable"

I have a sneaking suspicion that I may be being unreasonable in thinking that SAHM's don't do a lot of parenting while their DCs are at school.

I go onto said section, and ask if I am, out of curiosity really, and because I want to expand my horizons and understand other people's situations better.

The result? I am accused of being: lazy/jealous/a shit-stirrer/a troll.

Take a look at yourselves would you.

bossykate - 'i.e. no jobs that fit around school hours = i don't really want to work.'

no, it means that our economy does not accomodate the needs of parents, so those who have/want to take paid work are mostly forced to pay for other people to look after their children out of school hours, whereas many, many parents would prefer to BOTH do paid work AND look after their own children out of school hours.

Don't blame the monkey, blame the organ-grinder.

I'm looking lovely today .
Had my hair done while the kids are at school.

Hippi - i am a sahm as well, and when i go to dh's corporate do's (not invited often lol) I am asked 'what I do'. i say I am a sahm and from that point tend to be ignored.

I don't care. Let them talk shop. It doesn't make me an invisble, boring, frumpy person, just because I don't earn money. What I do is far more productive.