Holiday packing

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Who does it? Do you pack for yourself and kids and husband or does husband pack for himself?
I pack for myself and the younger kids. Older teens 17+ and husband I expect to be able to cope with working out what they need and put it in their bags. Everything is washed and ready in their drawers and wardrobes I should add so literally they just have to look, chose and pack.
i also obv pack all the sundries, medical supplies and travel snacks, pillows, blankets etc.

AIBU? I think not but it has been suggested I should be solely responsible!
Mixed responses from friends.

When the kids were small I would pack for myself, dh packs his stuff and I used to get the kids to take out what they want to pack and then I would check before putting it into the bag.

No way would i be packing dh's stuff, he's a grown man.

Dh completely sorts himself. I get the kids to pick out what they want, about 2 weeks before we go, and drop it all in a designated spot. I'll go through it for suitability/missing stuff/anything need buying and sort that.

I'd fall down dead in surprise if there's any woman on here with younger dc who only has to pack for herself.

I should add, dh takes the kids away with his family once a year for a couple of days, and he sorts all the packing/unpacking/laundry for that for all 3 of them.

I pack for me and young dc. Dh packs himself. Older dc (18) pack themselves I pack communal stuff such as towels, sun tan lotion. Etc

I pack for me and toiletries/wellness stuff for everyone. 15yo has packed for themselves last two years or so, DS (12) I still pack for mostly as he has ADHD and can be disorganised. I have basically packed for his two week summer camp he's going on today as I don't think he could manage, esp as the weather is very changeable and there's some quite specific requirements , but I will encourage him to pack for our holiday.

DH packs for himself, as I'd expect him to, but he does have a frustrating habit of packing really late the night before, sometimes about an hour after I want to be in bed because we have an early start! That said, he has realised that and started doing it earlier the last few times.

DH packs for himself, DC 1&2 (15&13) do as well but I suggest how much of each thing they might want to bring and get them to write a list of what they’ve packed so we can check.

My husband puts the clothes etc that he's taking out on the spare bed but I do the actual packing, which I divide into two cases.
If he packed the cases, everything would be creased to hell and a lot of space wasted.
I used to pack for the kids when they used to holiday with us.

I pack for me, kids adults, of course men can do their own!!!

But did pack completely for the kids until they were about 10 then supervised, gradually reducing the amount of input. We regularly went to stay with my parents where it was ok if they forgot things so I was more light touch with those trips

I pack for myself and DH packs for himself and our 2 DC. A few weeks in advance we'll do an audit together to establish anything extra the DC might need, and I will usually sort that out online. DH does the washing for everyone in the lead up and makes sure we have all bed linen, towels etc we might need if we're going to somewhere that doesn't provide them. He also does the washing when we get back (washing is his job in normal times anyway).

I give kids a list of everything they need to bring, let them gather it and then I check it off and direct them to any missing items. Dh takes care of himself entirely.

No way in hell would I pack for my DH! With my teen from 13 she packed for herself but I did check how much of each item she was taking just in case she hadn’t thought it through properly

Why in hell would I pack for dh anyway? To save him the bother of doing it himself? Pfffft. I'm not his housekeeper.

I pack for myself, OH packs for himself and we both pack for DD. I pack things like a first aid kit and most toiletries, as I have a list for those on my phone

DH and I each pack for ourselves. I use a list whereas DH haphazardly packs at the last minute. Consequently when we are on the road, every couple of miles DH makes a new announcement about something he forgot to put in.

@MrsTerryPratchett Interesting! It is DP who ascribes his packing to ADHD but he is the only person whose packing I witness, so there’s no telling whether it’s neurodivergence or personality, I don’t have enough data. With a deadline he just starts packing earlier (mess everywhere, for days), and no matter the deadline, length of trip, destination or size of suitcase, at the last minute he will
always determine he needs a laptop, iPad, three hardback books, a pair of desert boots, a full-size bottle of saline solution (god knows why) and something arbitrary like a bicycle pump or roll of bandages, and these will be slung into an ancient plastic carrier bag that is then tied to the suitcase handle to fall off/whack the suitcase-carrier in the knuckles periodically.

Kids have packed their own stuff since about age 12, using a list I give them (I have have a saved list to print). They put clothes in packing cubes and pile everything on our bed. I do the same. I pack any food items, and medical supplies for ds2, and my stuff. Dh sorts his stuff and packs it all in cases/bags as needed.

in the lead up to a holiday, I'm in charge of getting kids to check they fit in their summer clothes etc, and I do the laundry. Dh is in charge of backing up any electronics that we're taking, making sure the car is charged, and getting the pets to their "hotel".

I pack for me and dd6. Dh packs for himself. Sons are 13 and 14, they pack what they th on k they need and me or dh check it. They all choose their own hand luggage backpacks.

I pack my stuff and family stuff (such as sun cream, first aid/painkillers, chargers ect). DH puts what he wants to take out in a pile and I sort out DD aged 8 with her help. I do all the packing into the cases, we never have our own case and all of our stuff is spread as evenly as possible across 2 or 3 cases. This is incase a suitcase is lost.

@CatOnAMushroom Togs = swimming togs! Cossies, trunks, etc

I pack for me and DC10. 13 year old packs for herself but I check. DH packs for himself and takes barely anything. We drive and fill the car. DH sorts out camping gear, which is the worst job. I sort bedding, towels etc.

I do all the physical packing for a family holiday but all the DC (adult/late teen) bring their clothes down to the living room where I split it all across the cases. If they were packing their own separate cases they'd do it themselves though.

@inappropriateraspberry i actually can’t believe you do this for a grown adult!!!! I’m flabbergasted.

Kids are adults. DH & I pack for ourselves.

I used to get everyone to put what they wanted to take on the spare bed then I’d divide it all between two cases just in case one got lost! DH wasn’t very good at packing so he’d clean and tidy up while I was doing this. I hated coming home to messy house.

I've learnt from experience he is a bad packer! Always worth checking what he has!

But why isn't that his problem? If he ends up with not enough shorts he might think it through better next time. And if it's about tops ans trousers not matching like you said before then surely if he isn't bothered by that then it doesn't matter.

I once forgot to pack a single pair of socks for a week's holiday. Didnt expect DH to have checked for me and rectified the problem.

DH packs for everyone as he's a brilliant packer (unlike myself). It's hilarious as we have the cases on the bed and he stands there calling out "pants, bras, nighties, things to wear in the evening" and I just hand him the stuff. He also does all the ironing so it's all folded to perfection. I'm very happy with this arrangement 😀