Would you need a proper dinner too?

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Had a bbq for lunch at home, nothing huge, just three of us, but salmon, tuna, steak, sardines, large salad & baguettes. Quite a lot of fussing and prep, plus washing up afterwards etc.
We had the lunch fairly late-2.30.
Dh asks what we’re having for dinner 🤷🏻‍♀️
My thoughts were to just have a sandwich/toastie whatever later on and to pick at something, he was expecting a full dinner made later…
Would you have this lunch and made dinner later or just pick at whatever’s in the cupboard?

That meant tuna steak, not tuna and steak, just a fish lunch

Did you do the prep, cooking and washing up for lunch? Then he can surely sort tea?

No, I wouldn't. He's had his dinner!

That would be enough for me tbh, if he wants a cooked dinner he can make it himself surely.

No I'd have a lunch type evening meal, or more likely, leftovers

Tell him he can do the dinner and you'll wash up afterwards (provided he did the clear up after lunch).

If he doesn't want to - hand him his phone and a takeaway menu .....

I wouldn’t. My DH would. Regardless of a large, late lunch, if he doesn’t eat something substantial in the evening his stomach will be grumbling by time we head to bed.

No I wouldn't want a full dinner after that . I'm the main cook in the house and I only cook one meal a day. Sandwich / soup / toastie / crumpets would be fine later .

If he’s hungry he can cook himself something but it is absolutely fine if he IS hungry. There’s no “should be” levels of hunger!

But YY to previous posters pointing out that he can make dinner for himself.

If I ate at 2:30 I still might want something at about 7-8pm albeit something light. Hopefully you don't feel like YOU have to prep dinner as well as lunch though unless he's busy with something else...

I would want a dinner after that. It's fish and salad that's a lunch it's not massive

I’d have a sandwich later. Surely he will make that himself!

The issue is not whether it's ok or not for him to ask what's for dinner, or to think of more food later, it is the fact that he has asked YOU and presumable expects you to supply it!

Knock that attitude on the head pronto.

Why can’t he cook his blimming dinner if he wants it?

Please don’t cook for him again.

That sounds like something my own husband would say! I think after all that food, it ould be reasonable to just have a sandwich/beans on toast or something later.

We tend to have one ‘proper’ family style meal in the day and one sandwich/make you own style meal in the day. The evening one is usually the more substantial one, but if it flips, the the evening meal flops to the lighter meal and is a get your own kind of affair.

Don’t cook if you don’t want to and aren’t hungry. It’s not your job. Have a toasty and he can make himself something.

Tell him to make dinner then if he’s wanting one.

He's welcome to cook something this evening, he presumably knows where the kitchen is.

You've already done a main meal. Salad, baguette and salmon/tuna steaks are a normal main meal.

I wouldn't want a main meal after that. If he is hungry, fair enough, but he would have to sort himself with something.

I would have something small about 7 or 8pm, not a full roast or anything. Him asking what's for dinner, surely doesn't mean that he is expecting his food made and brought for him. DH and I often say to each other "what are we having for dinner tonight", it is just a normal question, it had no bearing on which of us might be preparing the food.

After grilled fish and salad for lunch, we'd probably have the heavier end of a snackier/easier meal for dinner - something like beans on toast/jacket potato/pasta pesto or soup and a sandwich.

I'd find eating a normalish sized meal at 2.30 really annoying though, because timings for the rest of the day would be out. The only time we'd do lunch as late as 2.30 is when it's a really heavy meal like a roast, when pudding/cheese served later takes the place of an evening meal.