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xyz111 · 30/07/2023 20:46

Sometimes I think it's a man/ woman thing. My DH can eat a large roast dinner, and 2 hrs later be snacking away at biscuits (he's not overweight at all). Whereas I'm still full. He can eat so much more than me.

dottiedodah · 30/07/2023 20:46

Tell him to pop a jacket potato in or beans/egg on toast?

Sceptre86 · 30/07/2023 20:51

It depends. If there was a lot of sides my dh would probably have some toast or cereal but we'd still need to make dinner for our kids. I'd likely eat dinner but later on so more like 7pm.

BrightYellowDaffodil · 30/07/2023 22:31

Hibiscrubbed · 30/07/2023 19:29

He’s a geeedy pig to A.) expect another full-sized meal in a day, having had a barbecue lunch, and B.) expecting the OP to cater to his greed and make it.

Why is eating more than one “full sized” meal a day greedy? And what is a full-sized meal - surely that’s just “a meal” and eating more than one of those is entirely normal?

Hibiscrubbed · 31/07/2023 06:24

mrsm43s · 30/07/2023 20:25

A) it's normal to eat more than one meal a day, and grilled fish and salad won't come close to meeting his daily calorie requirements, regardless of whether it was cooked on the BBQ or in the oven.
B) he wasn't expecting OP to make the meal. It seems he was happy to make his own evening meal despite having already cooked lunch for the whole family. OP doesn't want to allow him to cook himself a proper meal.

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I’m not suggesting having more than one meal is greedy, don’t be disingenuous. I’m suggesting that you don’t need two huge cooked meals for lunch and dinner. And if you do, you sort it out yourself.

salmon, tuna, steak, sardines, large salad & baguettes that sounds like a substantial meal. Protein (lots), vegetables and carbs. Not just ‘grilled fish and salad’.

And the OP saying he was expecting a full dinner made later… rather sounds like he was expecting her make a full dinner later, no?

Some people just eat a lot I guess. That’s their lookout.

Cheesusisgrate · 31/07/2023 06:27

xyz111 · 30/07/2023 20:46

Sometimes I think it's a man/ woman thing. My DH can eat a large roast dinner, and 2 hrs later be snacking away at biscuits (he's not overweight at all). Whereas I'm still full. He can eat so much more than me.

Nah. It's individuals. I am like your DH, which baffles my DH

Hibiscrubbed · 31/07/2023 06:29

BrightYellowDaffodil · 30/07/2023 22:31

Why is eating more than one “full sized” meal a day greedy? And what is a full-sized meal - surely that’s just “a meal” and eating more than one of those is entirely normal?

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Because it’s likely more food containing more energy than you need.

To me, the main effortful and calorific meal is completed. So the evening meal would be something lighter, on toast, in a sandwich, etc.

FrivolousTreeDuck · 31/07/2023 06:31

Not nowadays. I probably would have 30 years ago! Like you say, at most I'd have something small like toast or soup.

Cheesusisgrate · 31/07/2023 06:32

salmon, tuna, steak, sardines, large salad & baguettesthat sounds like a substantial meal. Protein (lots), vegetables and carbs. Not just ‘grilled fish and salad’.

It may or may not be substantial meal. Dpends on protions, doesn't it. If you look at portions in shop it can be like 100g of salmln and 100g of tuna per portion or similar (some water will cook out), few sardines and salad and small baguette are light ish summer lunch. Or it could have been bigger, dluble the weight. portions. We don't know. Fish digests fast imho, doesn't keep me full aa long as meat.
It obviously wasn't substantial for him.

Hibiscrubbed · 31/07/2023 06:33

Cheesusisgrate · 31/07/2023 06:32

salmon, tuna, steak, sardines, large salad & baguettesthat sounds like a substantial meal. Protein (lots), vegetables and carbs. Not just ‘grilled fish and salad’.

It may or may not be substantial meal. Dpends on protions, doesn't it. If you look at portions in shop it can be like 100g of salmln and 100g of tuna per portion or similar (some water will cook out), few sardines and salad and small baguette are light ish summer lunch. Or it could have been bigger, dluble the weight. portions. We don't know. Fish digests fast imho, doesn't keep me full aa long as meat.
It obviously wasn't substantial for him.

But the OP was under the impression it was. And she actually made and ate it, and knows her husband. We weren’t there and we don’t.

Cheesusisgrate · 31/07/2023 06:34

Hibiscrubbed · 31/07/2023 06:29

Because it’s likely more food containing more energy than you need.

To me, the main effortful and calorific meal is completed. So the evening meal would be something lighter, on toast, in a sandwich, etc.

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Lots of parts of the world eat two cooked meals, even 3. Unless you are on a diet or absolutely inactive, you can fit 2 full meals in normal calory needs.

pilates · 31/07/2023 06:46

No I wouldn’t. Maybe some toast or crumpets as a small snack.

CurlewKate · 31/07/2023 06:51

Being hungry is not a moral failure.

PeanutButterOnToad · 31/07/2023 06:54

DH and I would probably have pate on toast or cheese and crackers, young adult kids would probably cook themselves pasta if there weren’t enough leftovers to go again. The one thing that wouldn’t happen is the person who made the first meal being expected to produce another. That kind of shit stopped in our family many years ago!

CurlewKate · 31/07/2023 07:15

Being not hungry isn't a virtue either.

cinnamonfrenchtoast · 31/07/2023 07:15

But the OP was under the impression it was. And she actually made and ate it, and knows her husband. We weren’t there and we don’t.

Actually, her husband made it.

mrsm43s · 31/07/2023 16:27

Hibiscrubbed · 31/07/2023 06:24

I’m not suggesting having more than one meal is greedy, don’t be disingenuous. I’m suggesting that you don’t need two huge cooked meals for lunch and dinner. And if you do, you sort it out yourself.

salmon, tuna, steak, sardines, large salad & baguettes that sounds like a substantial meal. Protein (lots), vegetables and carbs. Not just ‘grilled fish and salad’.

And the OP saying he was expecting a full dinner made later… rather sounds like he was expecting her make a full dinner later, no?

Some people just eat a lot I guess. That’s their lookout.

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Only on Mumsnet can someone serious try to argue that salmon, tuna steak and sardines (so fish), cooked on the BBQ (so grilled) and served with salad is not grilled fish and salad!

atthecopa · 31/07/2023 16:40

Pleasemrstweedie · 30/07/2023 15:49

No, I wouldn't. He's had his dinner!

He didn't have his dinner. He had his lunch.

Humidititties · 31/07/2023 16:44

Had a bbq for lunch at home, nothing huge, just three of us, but salmon, tuna, steak, sardines, large salad & baguettes

He didn't have just some salad and fish as some posters have said, there was salmon, tuna, sardines, plus steak, salad and baguettes. I'm a greedy bastard but I don't think I could've have eaten another meal after that lot at 2.30

Sammiches101 · 31/07/2023 16:52

Humidititties · 31/07/2023 16:44

Had a bbq for lunch at home, nothing huge, just three of us, but salmon, tuna, steak, sardines, large salad & baguettes

He didn't have just some salad and fish as some posters have said, there was salmon, tuna, sardines, plus steak, salad and baguettes. I'm a greedy bastard but I don't think I could've have eaten another meal after that lot at 2.30

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Onanislandinthesun · Yesterday 15:47
That meant tuna steak, not tuna and steak, just a fish lunch

saltinesandcoffeecups · 31/07/2023 16:54

PeanutButterOnToad · 31/07/2023 06:54

DH and I would probably have pate on toast or cheese and crackers, young adult kids would probably cook themselves pasta if there weren’t enough leftovers to go again. The one thing that wouldn’t happen is the person who made the first meal being expected to produce another. That kind of shit stopped in our family many years ago!

But what do you do with all the leftovers???

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https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4728502-surely-nobody-can-eat-a-pack-of-pate

Surely nobody can eat a pack of pate? | Mumsnet

There are 4 of us. Once a week we have lots of different types of salads with French bread and pate as our evening meal. We *love* pate. It gets eaten...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4728502-surely-nobody-can-eat-a-pack-of-pate

cinnamonfrenchtoast · 31/07/2023 16:58

Humidititties · 31/07/2023 16:44

Had a bbq for lunch at home, nothing huge, just three of us, but salmon, tuna, steak, sardines, large salad & baguettes

He didn't have just some salad and fish as some posters have said, there was salmon, tuna, sardines, plus steak, salad and baguettes. I'm a greedy bastard but I don't think I could've have eaten another meal after that lot at 2.30

No, it was tuna steak - OP clarifies. So three kinds of fish, baguette and salad.

Not really anything too substantial.

QuietDragon · 31/07/2023 16:59

Personally, no, but I'd not involve myself in whether DH wanted one or not. I'd just say that I was having some toast or whatever and leave him too it.

Whataretheodds · 31/07/2023 17:01

cinnamonfrenchtoast · 30/07/2023 17:14

I don’t see why if we’d had a big, cooked lunch, we just all sort of can’t just help ourselves as and when. It’s just weird to me to then want another cooked meal

Well, fish, bread and salad doesn't sound like a big meal to me - maybe your DH is the same.

OP did say it was a LARGE salad.

(Though not MASSIVE)

FormerlyPathologicallyHappy · 31/07/2023 17:18

You can’t police other people’s food intake.