Would you need a proper dinner too?

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Had a bbq for lunch at home, nothing huge, just three of us, but salmon, tuna, steak, sardines, large salad & baguettes. Quite a lot of fussing and prep, plus washing up afterwards etc.
We had the lunch fairly late-2.30.
Dh asks what we’re having for dinner 🤷🏻‍♀️
My thoughts were to just have a sandwich/toastie whatever later on and to pick at something, he was expecting a full dinner made later…
Would you have this lunch and made dinner later or just pick at whatever’s in the cupboard?

That would do me for the day but DH would probably want a sandwich or something light in the evening for dinner.

It might be less about the food itself and more about the occasion of the meal-some people mark their days with meals and it feels incomplete to skip one. I wouldn't want something heavy but would appreciate sitting down with soup and bread or a cheese toastie and salad with my family in the evening.

It's fish an salad basically so yes, on some days dinner. On some days no, depends on mood.
He can cook

Yes I would need dinner after fish and salad for lunch.

Of course. Fish, bread and salad is hardly a substantial main meal.

I started replying to ‘What’s for dinner?’ - with ‘I don’t know, what are you making?’. DH doesn’t ask anymore and we had a good chat about assumed responsibilities.

DH would be hungry if he had a tuna steak salad at 2:30. But if I’d prepared that meal he wouldn’t assume I’d be firing the kitchen up again.

I’d be fine for a snack, DH would need more but would sort himself out

DH needs to cook the dinner himself or be content with what you prepare.

I like a full cooked meal, but I cook it and if I don’t feel like cooking we have something lighter or quicker, or DH cooks.

After the barbecue you had as a late lunch, a light evening meal of soup or cheese or pate, crackers and fruit is more than enough.

I would be fine with a toastie but my husband would be standing there like Oliver Twist, asking for more.

i would eat later but a smaller meal, either leftovers or something like soup.

Tell him to make whatever he wants. You are fine and aren't cooking.

Fish and salad maybe with some bread to make it a sandwich doesn’t sound like much to me, I’d probably expect an evening meal around 7.30.

That's fine if he wants a dinner he can sort one for him and you have a sandwich

If you're the person that generally cooks and you weren't intending to 'cook' again, just say that. If the question though is would I expect another 'meal' later, then yes I would. In the week l tend to have one non cooked meal a day, lunch but that's more about convenience as I'm at work. When I'm home I often have 2. If Id had your fish meal my 2nd meal (in your case tea/supper) would still be reasonably substantial so a bit more than a toastie. It wouldn't necessarily be meat and two veg though.
I certainly wouldnt find d your husbands question surprising or worthy of much thought.

After a big lunch like that we would declare a "shift for yourself" evening. Appetites & metabolisms vary, and some will want more than others so best to not have a single plan.

I would probably have a couple of soft boiled eggs or some paté with crackers. DH would have a fairly substantial but light-ish meal.

Dh made the lunch, but it’s me that cooks nearly all other meals. It wasn’t in the way he was expecting me to make it I don’t think (and I’m not! 😂) it was just that he thinks we’re having a full evening meal, I def will get hungry later, but cba with anyone making a full meal, having washing up etc. I don’t see why if we’d had a big, cooked lunch, we just all sort of can’t just help ourselves as and when. It’s just weird to me to then want another cooked meal

'dunno, what you making' is the answer here.

Tbh, I'd probably want something on the evening as well. Doesn't mean you have to cook it though.

If I’d had three different types of barbecued fish with baguettes and salad, assuming that’s a large portion, I probably wouldn’t want a proper cooked meal in the evening. We’d probably have leftovers if there were any, or cheese and crackers or something.

I dont just have one meal a day, so yeah, Id expect dinner as well! Lunch and dinner!

I don’t see why if we’d had a big, cooked lunch, we just all sort of can’t just help ourselves as and when. It’s just weird to me to then want another cooked meal

Well, fish, bread and salad doesn't sound like a big meal to me - maybe your DH is the same.

I wouldn't consider grilled fish, salad and a bit of baguette a "big, cooked meal". To us it would be a normal, lightish meal, but then we don't feel the need to eat any more than usual if we just happen to cook on the BBQ rather than inside, so our lunch portion would have been one normal portion of fish (say one tuna steak OR one salmon fillet OR a couple of sardines, with a portion of salad and a slice or two of baguette).

So yes, we'd be having another meal later albeit an easy to prepare one. And I would expect the person who didn't cook lunch to be cooking a meal for the whole family, if cooking is generally shared.

I would have dinner after that. Nothing to stop him cooking dinner is there?

I would tell him yo go make himself a snack

Well, if the salad was big enough.....

If hes hungry he can get his own