to not want 19 yo DD to get a half leg sleeve tattoo?

[BlueEmerald73]

DD is booked in to have like a half leg sleeve, I have no idea what it's called but it goes from her ankle to right up top but just doesn't wrap all the way around the leg. She is travelling quite far for it which is the part I do actually respect as she has chosen the artist considerably but I do think it's a bit of a permanent, big decision at just 19. It's consisting of a few things as well, such as a reference to her favourite childhood interest, etc. basically just a bunch of things like that going up her leg. There's also my birth flower in there, which is sweet but I would rather she wasn't getting a tattoo, especially if it has a bit of a reference to me.

I realise it isn't my decision and I would never try and stop her, but AIBU to be a bit sad about it? She's still a teenager.

I don't blame you, OP. I'd feel the same. But she's still your lovely DD.

It’s just so common 🤷‍♀️

I’m from the generation that if you had a tattoo you were a badass, a rock star, a free thinking, free loving, going against the grain maniac who quoted Kundera and listened to German techno metal music. That tattoo on your arm was a symbol of non conformity.

Now? Everybody with a pulse has got one. It’s not original and I expect all the now ten year olds will be turning their nose up at them by the time they hit 18. Or it’ll become a symbol of your age, like how my kids take the piss out of me by saying ‘that’s sooo Facebook-mum’ when I do something ‘uncool’ or ‘are you going to go on yahoo.com?’ when I ask for the iPad.

No, I don’t. Presumably the groom doesn’t either which is of course what matters 😂

They do go in waves remember Celtic tattoos in the 90s and I had cartoon characters in the 80s now lasered off it seems now they are enormous the rise on Cheryl Cole’s bum just shy ?!?!

Rose even

i keep seeing on mumsnet that EVERYONE has a tattoo ‘nowadays’
It’s just not true. The vast majority of my friends have zero tattoos and if they do it’s most certainly the 90’s dolphin on their tummy or butterfly on their ankle. Tattoos may be more mainstream and accepted in recent years, but certainly there are far more adults without tattoos than with.

You aren’t unreasonable to not really like the idea of it but you’d be unreasonable to voice that to her in that manner really. Raising it in a ‘are you quite sure?’ way, as you Seem to have done already is fair enough. My ma isn’t keen on my tattoos, and I’ve only got five and none are massive, and she’s said that, but honestly she’s never been negative about them or mentioned it again once they’re done.

I don't like them in any scenario, that is my opinion. But particularly on special occasions where the dressing up is not just for yourself but for the admiration and oohs and aahs of others. With big full sleeve and neck tattoos people WILL comment, and they will judge even silently. They do not enhance delicate beautiful things like wedding dresses.

If brides are not concerned about the way big tattoos fail to enhance their dress or wedding look, why bother with a dress that costs thousands? The dress is not the talking point, the tattoos are. That is human nature - to judge and to comment.

I have never seen a tattoo enhance anything TBH.

Tattoos aren’t for me personally but well done ones are art pieces really. I think the current trend for dainty hand tattoos on women is very pretty, but appreciate fine line tattoos don’t necessarily age well etc.

I do think leg tattoos are unattractive but perhaps that’s because I’ve not seen any really well done ones as yet.

Cheryl Cole’s arse tattoo is a shocker. Not poorly done by any means but it’s her whole bum covered!

Personally I can’t imagine being at a wedding and being invited to share someone’s special day and bitching about how they look. That would be incredibly distasteful and show a real lack of class and bad manners.
It’s likely that the vast majority of guests will be looking at the bride in awe and admiring how she looks. After all, most guests would already be aware that the bride is heavily tattooed 🤣
That being said, sure at any wedding there will be silent opinions on the dress, hair, makeup, colour scheme etc and tattoos are no different to this. You can’t please everyone so you might as well please yourself.

Personally I'm not a fan, my fiance has some, but easily hidden as they are on the top of his arms, they are also meaningful to him, on women I don't mind the discreet ones, such as a name or quote on the inside of the forearm or wrist, or something delicate on the ankle. But I hate tattoos that are all the way up an arm or leg, or are on chests, backs etc, I just think it's a shame to disfigure yourself with so much ink. Each to their own, but I'm really not that keen and wonder what they will look like when they are older.

Why can't I spell the plural of tattoo properly? One t, two ts, cup of tea for me now.

If you were my parents, I would have just done it and not told you.
Obviously not a full leg sleeve but there are plenty of places where you could get a tattoo without your parents knowing.
I'd also be telling my parents a lot less about my life in the future as well.

I was not keen on the idea of DD having her tattoo, but now im used to it. If its tastefully done, personal to them and can get away with it being timeless, then it can work rather well. My hubby has 4 tattoos. One does bother him. Its the bulldog with England flag on its back and says England underneath. He hates it now as when he had it done it was early 90's and thinks its too yobbish, and he has to wear long sleeve t-shirts to cover it up on his upper arm. He wants to save up and get rid of it.

Yes, I feel the same, a friend of mine posted some photos of her daughter's wedding, the bride looked gorgeous, but in one of the photos you could see a whole arm covered in tattoos, it looked horrible (in my opinion, which isn't important, but it did look trashy)

Tbh, yet to see a tattoo ageing well. I am outing my age here to say a lot of my friends have 'tramp stamps' or stars around their belly buttons!

Simply not a cat in hell's chance your taste at 19 is the same as at 45+, and all tattoos look like smudgy biro after a few years. The girl who just won Wimbledon for eg, looked an absolute mess.

Genuine question though, I simply cannot see that a decent tattoo place would even do a full leg sleeve on someone without tattoos? The guy who's the 'person' to see around here charges £200 an hour and is fully booked up for 18months at least You almost have to pass an interview to get in his door.

I'm with the other posters who would not be being all cool about this, you need to make her realise what a bloody stupid idea it is. Buy her some decent fake tattoos online that last about 6 weeks.

I don't have any tattoos and I will never get any but I do think they look lovely. It sounds like she's really thought it through and found an artist that she loves.

Some of the replies on here are incredibly misogynistic. If you think tattoos are fine on men, then why not on women?

As for the comments about brides I cant image judging someone or sneering at there appearance. I can only imagine you all make similar comments about plus sized brides, those with "unnatural" hair colours or anything non traditional.

And lots of things are "common" and "unoriginal", who cares? Just like what you like, you don't have to be like the twats who stops listening to bands because they're too mainstream now. Its boring.

Well Said.

Why is the Style and Beauty board choc a bloc with women asking "does this suit me, do I look ok in this, is this ok for a wedding, is this too short/long/frumpy and so on?

It is because image is important to a hell of a lot of people, and they will do everything to look good, presentable and stylish, well groomed etc. for a special occasion.

They will not rush out to get a tattoo though to enhance their image.

Yeah it's weird isn't it? People maybe surprised to know that people get tattoos for themselves not other people.

Yes, obviously women want to look their best and image is important to a lot of women. They want to look nice, however when push comes to shove they will choose the dress/theme/hair they feel suits them best. Not everyone will be a fan of a big meringue dress. Not everyone will be a fan of the ethereal boho look. Not everyone will be a fan of tattoos. Essentially though, while the bride may gather opinions they will ultimately choose their own aesthetic.
Looking good is also important to lots of tattooed women- because guess what? They like their tattoos. YOU don’t like them but you don’t speak for everyone. Many people like tattoos. It’s not that hard to understand
How do you know people don’t get a tattoo to fit with a special occaision? I know one of mine had been decided on fir months but I timed it to be completed and healed for when I wore a dress to an event.

Some of these comments are awful. If you don't like it then don't get one, it's not your body or choice. Financial control to try and bend your kids to your will, financial abuse...wow.

I can tell you what is trashy, people giving tattooed people side eye or snide comments. We are just as important and valid as everyone else. Judgemental sods.

I got tattooed at 18....I'm now 37 and have 6 tattoos (one huge winged back piece, two huge leg pieces based on gaming, a small rose, one lower back and one medium one on my stomach). I have zero regrets and will be getting more. If my kids decide they want one then I will guide them to a skilled artist.

I have a tattoo, had it done when late do died, it's a red rose, I still need to go back to have his name & his dates put round it. Ds always said he would have one when he was 18, but he's 19 now & no more mention of it, he had both ears pierced when he was 16 & is going back for a daith piercing doing soon.

You can always tell the women who lack confidence from these threads. They are always super concerned with how other people see each other and who is judging who. It’s wild that people base their opinions of other peoples perception of things.
Not once hsve I wondered what people think when they see my tattoos. I think they are beautiful and I love to have them in places I can see them- I want to look nice for me, not for someone’s Mum looking through Facebook pictures.

No, not wanting to cover yourself in tattoos doesn't denote a lack of confidence. Bloody hell!