to not want 19 yo DD to get a half leg sleeve tattoo?

[BlueEmerald73]

DD is booked in to have like a half leg sleeve, I have no idea what it's called but it goes from her ankle to right up top but just doesn't wrap all the way around the leg. She is travelling quite far for it which is the part I do actually respect as she has chosen the artist considerably but I do think it's a bit of a permanent, big decision at just 19. It's consisting of a few things as well, such as a reference to her favourite childhood interest, etc. basically just a bunch of things like that going up her leg. There's also my birth flower in there, which is sweet but I would rather she wasn't getting a tattoo, especially if it has a bit of a reference to me.

I realise it isn't my decision and I would never try and stop her, but AIBU to be a bit sad about it? She's still a teenager.

You need to do your best to talk her down

No, but feeling that other women will regret tattoos based on how others view them ie ‘people will judge them on their wedding day’ or ‘I don’t like them snd I judge those who have them’ most definitely reflects that a lot of posters continue to see women through the eyes of others

Where did you go on holiday???

I’ve just read the whole thread back and I find it so interesting that people would risk their relationship with their children by using coercive control over such a minor thing as a tattoo.
im sure many of you will say how great your relationship is with your child but there will likely come a point in their life when they examine their childhoods and patterns of behaviour based on how they were parented. For many people that doesn’t come until they have children of their own snd for others, in their 40s and beyond.
I’m very sure your children would regret a tattoo far less than growing up without body autonomy or any self advocacy. Also- the control vibes around a tattoo obviously run far deeper than just some body art. Worrying.

im sure many of you will say how great your relationship is with your child but there will likely come a point in their life when they examine their childhoods and patterns of behaviour based on how they were parented
If they can't find a bigger gripe than being encouraged not to get a tattoo, I don't see any immediate cause for alarm 😂

Encouraged and coerced are two different things. Like I say, if you are willing to control your child’s decisions with finances then there is definitely something else at play.
Im strongly against my DD having cosmetic surgery but I would never consider trying to bribe or coerce her into not having it. I would explain my concerns and ask that she does her research but I wouldn’t dream of exerting financial control over one of my kids

I am willing to bet a very large sum of money on at least a fair few of these children being tattooed in places that their parents can't see. My own mother did it, she has more than one, 2 of them are actually quite large, and my grandmother, bless her, died thinking mum hadn't so much as been in the vicinity of a tattoo gun in her life.

One of my SILS still has to wear a sarong on holiday as she has a trail of 90sChinese symbols down her thigh that she hides from her Mum 🤣 She was told they meanpeace love and unity but they could mean anything as she had them done in a dodgy place out of town so her Mum wouldn’t find out!
Her Mum always talks about how common tattoos are and her brothers gf has several- she often says ‘oh I’m so glad you didn’t you down that road’ to herDD

Well I wanted one but my mum said she would hate it so I didn’t. Neither like nor dislike them - she’s an adult so can’t do anything really. Yanbu to feel sad.

I dislike tattoos. I think they look dirty on skin. I can however appreciate that some are astonishing works of art and I am in awe of the tattooist.

I would tell my adult kids that I throughly dislike tattoos but I would never try and stop them. Thankfully they are not the tattoo ‘kind’, don’t see the appeal and one hates needles. So I think I am ok for now.

My mum was the same, always had a cardigan handy if her top wouldn't cover the ones on her upper body and she was going to be seeing my grandma. 😂
My grandma would also tell people how she thought tattoos looked "dirty" and "common", while most of those people nodded and rolled their eyes as their tattoos were just not visible at the time!

Cute! I’m sure he will and with any luck by then tats will be totally old fashioned and none of the teens will want them anymore!

Superunknown1

What a supportive post from a professional tattooist who can see both sides. 😊

ENCOURAGED?? Em no coerced, threatened and manipulated into not getting a tattoo. Being taught that you can buy people into not doing something. Far cry from discouragement haha.

Yawn.

Er... no 😂

You're a mad scone @HarrietJet

Ah, beware of snobbery; it is the unwelcome recognition of one's own past failings.

Point out my snobbish "insults"?

@HarrietJet Put down the wine Harriet, put on your Ma Ingalls nightdress and get yerself to bed. Let your adult kids out of the cellar first though!

Point out my snobbish insults? You've responded to that question by insulting me, so I take it you can't?

Ma Ingalls. 😂 We are also only a couple of days off a full moon...

Whitstable, Kent.

Is a piece of inked skin really such an integral part ofwho you are,@changeyerheadworzel?
That's kind of sad, really.

There. Towards the same poster too.

@HarrietJet A woman described how she lovingly got some books tattooed on her that meant a lot to her...

Your reply..

A lot of people probably dosay that about the four books inked on your leg 😬