Child given melatonin without our consent

[HuckleberryBlackcurrant]

DS6 went to his first sleepover last night, at a close friend's house. 4 other kids were there also, ages 6-8.

His friend's mum messaged to say he was asleep shortly after 9 which I found unusual because he would usually stay up later with all that excitement. But I thought that he was just very tired. We have been very busy recently, he has been in swimming lessons and football and was starting a mild cold.

This afternoon when I picked him up it was casually mentioned that the kids were all dosed with melatonin. I know it's super common to do so but our son has never had melatonin, and we certainly would have said no if we were asked.

It put him into a really deep sleep, causing him to have an accident in the night which really embarrassed him.

I didn't really say anything when my friend mentioned this. I was a bit blindsided, and the party was still going on so I didn't know how best to address it.

My husband is really irritated that they went ahead and dosed our child without our consent. Melatonin has been something we agreed not to give our children unless medically directed. He wants me to say something to the parents. I'm inclined to leave it as he's unlikely to go there for a sleepover again for quite some time. I was thinking we could just bring it up if he ever sleeps there again.

My husband thinks that on principle, you don't give a child anything without their parents' consent, so we should raise the issue and set the boundary now. Our children do play there occasionally in the daytime. Usually he is the non confrontational one and I am the one bringing these things up. Idk if it's because I'm 38 weeks pregnant so I just don't feel like pursuing it?

What would you do? Are we right to be irritated?

Enough with the Caps, honestly 😂

Your point re your husband’s previous job and perspective / knowledge base is entirely relevant to the subject matter o this thread, Solonge.
your husband has confirmed what so many commenters are reiterating.
ignore the ones trying to disagree with you. They are basically saying “it’s fine to drug other peoples 6 year olds at a sleepover.” VILE.

exactly! How about “hmmmmm it’s in the vitamin / drug / pharmaceutical / medical aisle. Probably shouldn’t give anything in this aisle to someone else’s six year old.”

@SummerPeach except I posted several times how wrong this is, including studies that despite being in the vitamin aisle, the label doesn't match the contents (either in strength or actual ingredients) which can be even more dangerous.

I don't need a penis and a Billy Big Bollocks job to say that.

Why?? Caps implies shouting.
and shout I shall given the subject matter.
You may not have the gut instinct to stand up for what’s right for a 6 year old.
but I do.

if he ever sleeps there again what? Why would you allow that?

So because he has a penis you don’t care for his opinion. Wow just wow! Kinda gross.
his penis is irrelevant! His previous career in this whole field of work is 100% relevant!

@SummerPeach can you explain what a legal/medic is?

Ah yes much better to not give a damn about OP or OP’s kid and keep adding the crying laughing emoji… bravo.

Presumably a medicolegal.

I have repeatedly said I wouldn't give another persons child ANYTHING with out asking them first so calm down🙄

But we all have an opinion.
having a medical and legal background is clearly why she asked for her husband’s perspective. It is completely relevant given the subject matter of the thread. She’s being HELPFUL.

So why do you keep downplaying it though? And what’s it to you whether I’m calm or not? 🤷‍♀️

My mouth actually opened when I read what they did!!

I would be FURIOUS, and would go no contact with that women. My child would have nothing to do with that family again.

I am relatively easy going but that is awful.

Absolutely 100% this!!!!! This is a bloody hormone we’re talking about.
I’m really worried that this is ‘super common’ in the US where drug problems there are bad enough without parents deliberately dosing young children to make them sleep ffs 😡

Nobody not one person on here is saying that 🙄

@SummerPeach "presumably ".

And what is a medicolegal?

What a pair of assholes. Good that you ticked them off, I'm sure they hated it if they are the kind of people who think it's ok to drug other people's kids for their own convenience, but at least you now know never to give them access again to your kids and can protect them in future.

This 100%

It means qualified as a medic with experience working as a doctor then training in the medical/legal field, i.e. dealing with legal cases relating solely to medical issues.

No you dont, but someone working in the area, who has experienced cases like this can also comment and has the knowledge, training, experience to back it up….regardless of their sex eh?