People keep saying I'm slim

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I'm 169cm and weight fluctuates between around 9st 2 and 9st 5 depending. It's slender but a perfectly healthy weight, in fact I've known people of my height weigh much less.
Anyway, over the last few months I've had a couple of comments both to my face and behind my back about how slim I am, how people can't believe it, how there's 'nothing of me '.
I admit I'm slim but I'm hardly waif-like. I'm quite pear shaped too.
We're all shapes and sizes, I just don't see myself as incredibly thin.

What odd about that It's very common.

Hello OP well done on being a size and shape. I am also a size and a shape. My size is big and my shape is fat. I'm fucking gorgeous even though no one would ever call me slim. Because I'm not! I'm fat.
What fun it is discussing whether we are slim or not!

I'd say you're an average size.

I'm 5ft 2" at 9st 7, so a similar weight, and I feel really big. I'm postpartum though and before baby I was 8 st, so it feels a lot bigger to me.

I fit a size 10 but was a size 6-8 before baby. I think sizes 10-16 are average, 16+ is plus size and size 6-8 is very slim. Size 10-12 can be very slim too if you're tall (but not on me!)

Do you think you're slim? Do you mind being called slim?

My colleagues always tell me how gorgeous I am but I'm really not. I'd say I'm an 8 out of 10 🤷🏻‍♀️

Is everyone who's commenting a bit fat / obsessed / concerned about their own weight? I have a small frame and get comments all the time as if I wasn't aware 🙄 it's rude and tedious.

Favourite Mumsnet post of the week so far.

I get called 'thin'. I don't particularly think so either. I don't call people 'fat' but why is it more socially acceptable to call people 'thin/slim

Because thin/slim is seen as a positive thing. A bit like calling someone pretty is a nice thing whereas no one feels good being called ugly!

When i was that weight, I was very slim. Not underweight, but definitely slim.
Its annoying for people to make unwanted comments about your appearance. It always made me feel self conscious, even if its not a particularly negative comment.

I get told I’m slim. I’m not. I’m at least a stone overweight. It’s all relative.

Equally people aren't that taken with others being too lazy to open a second tab to type their question into Google and expecting someone else to do it for them

No, it isn’t. I’ve never met anyone that states their height in metric in the UK.

And, as an aside, I really dislike when people use metric for their weight. It’s just not the done thing here. Grow up.

Well done on being slim though, OP. I’m shorter than you and weigh more and still consider myself to be slim. Because I am.

I'm slim and I'm an inch taller and a stone heavier than you.

Is it, not in England ine, no adult has ever told me how tall they are In metric, young children maybe

Similar height and anything below 10st 7 I look haggard.

Maybe a few decades ago you would have been average - now, although clearly a healthy weight, you are very slender compared to the average (overweight - me) Brit

They should keep it to themselves, but you said you don't understand why it's more socially acceptable to call someone thin that fat and obviously it's because thinness is viewed as much more desirable. If someone is using words like scrawny or something else derogatory related to being thin then of course it's as offensive as calling someone fat. But no one would think that's socially acceptable; everyone would be able to identify that as an insult.

Someone saying you're thin probably imagines they're complimenting you. It's clumsy and unwelcome, but likely not ill-intentioned. If someone says you're fat, they know they are being insulting. I wish the words could be drained of their power and just be simple descriptors but they are loaded with judgement. And there is a movement to take the heat out of the word 'fat' but it's part of the body positivity agenda that a number of posters on here despise and consider to be glorifying obesity. So, the word remains an insult while thin and slim are words viewed as admiring and complimentary.

Everyone should just fuck off considering women's bodies as public property and their right to comment on. If you actually mean that people say outright insulting things about your weight, that's different to your original post questioning why it's ok to call someone slim but not fat. Because if it's those two words, you do know why it's different.

People keep telling me I look well

It means I'm tanned. And fat 😭😂

I don't like being called 'thin'.

People don't like being called 'fat'.

Period.

I was that exact height and weight pre kids. I’m still the same height but 2 stone heavier and after a lot of counselling am now able to eat three meals a day and don’t abuse laxatives and can eat more than 800 calories a day. It’s brilliant! (I appreciate lots of people will be that height and weight without disordered eating. Sadly I wasn’t one of them).

I’m 5’6” and 7.5 stone. Well, not currently, I’m nine months pregnant. I have a tiny frame though so no one ever comments because I look in proportion.

People need to learn to not comment on other people’s bodies.

I really don't like it either; when I was a size 10 it upset me when people commented (and they did!) because it felt intrusive and unwelcome and because often in office environments women talk a lot about diets and weight and it made me feel under scrutiny. But I understood that those comments are socially acceptable even though I wished they weren't and that it would never be ok for those women to call me fat. And if I compare it to when some men drove past me and shouted that I had a massive arse and was a fat cunt (at size 16) I know which one was more intentionally hurtful and humiliating.

😂😂😂😂😂

Awww bless. It's a hard life.

Yabu if you're just letting these comments go unchallenged.

YANBU if you're saying hang on why is everyone commenting on my weight and not my worth as as a human being

Nah its rude to comment on people's appearance unless it's something they've chosen eg haircut

I have very long hair. Some people say it is extensive. I admit that it is. AIBU?