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To not let them in the tent

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PinkStarAtNight · 25/07/2023 16:53

So this is kind of lighthearted, its not an argument but I'm just wondering what others would do...

So my BF, myself and our couple friends are planning a weekend at the beach this weekend. I'm worried about the weather as the forecast says wind and rain, but it doesn't look like its going to get much better throughout August so the consensus is that we should just go this weekend and make the best of it. Hotel booked.

I suggested buying one of those pop up beach tents so that if it rains we could get under that until it stops. I said to BF that we could split the cost. BF said he doesn't want to do that, because then who would own the tent? (we don't live together) so he thinks it will be complicated and besides he doesn't think we need a tent anyway, he said if it rains we'll just go into the arcade or something. I said that would mean moving all the stuff off the beach and the rain might only last for 15 mins/half an hour as it says intervals of rain...we're planning to spend all day on the beach for two days so I really want a tent just to bob under if it gets rainy.

I haven't asked our couple friends but I doubt they'll agree to share the cost as they're a bit like BF and will say its an unnecessary cost, we don't need it etc, they're quite tight with money as is BF.

So, I'm looking at tents on Amazon and thinking of just buying one for myself. There's different sizes for 2 people, 4 people etc all at different prices. It can go up to £50 or more if you want a family one to fit 4 people in.

Now I just KNOW that if I buy and take along the tent and it starts raining, they're all going to get into it aren't they? Of course they are, if its there. So I'm thinking should I get a 4 person one? Or should I get a smaller, cheaper 2 person one and risk it being a real squish when they all try to chamber in with me when the heavens open.

Although I'll be the one who fully owns it afterwards, it will mildly annoy me if they all get in but didn't want to pay towards it. And I'm not sure how I feel about paying more money for a 4 person one to make room for them when they're not paying towards it. I could just get a small one that's just big enough for me, but then they might all squish in with me and that will be annoying.

So, WWYD? Would you buy the tent and say to them that its yours and they're not getting in because they didn't pay towards it? Or would you cover the cost yourself, for a 4 person one, and let them share even though they're not paying?

I know this is a first world problem and I'm not making an argument with anyone over it, I'm just quietly wondering whether or not to share the tent and wondered what others would do in this situation. Am I being really petty by wanting to say that its my tent and just for me because they don't want to pay towards it?

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nettie434 · 25/07/2023 20:05

The prospect of being in a pop up tent with people who fight over a portion of pizza because they were too mean to order a pizza each sounds dreadful. If you are happy to stay in the tent while they go off, I'd buy the tent. With luck, you can stay in it while they go off. I expect they will want to stay in it too though.

LizzieSiddal · 25/07/2023 20:09

That bottomless brunch episode would have been the end of my friendship with these people.

Cancel the weekend with them!

Just go with your boyfriend so you can enjoy yourselves without the spongers. There’s nothing worse than mean people!!

jazzybelle · 25/07/2023 20:13

PinkStarAtNight · 25/07/2023 19:38

We have already had this chat.

Have had very bad experiences with them around money. Multiple times we've planned trips and they have said they'll pay for tickets on their card and then told us how much money we owe...we've then been on the website and found that the tickets were £5 cheaper than they said. We put it down to a mistake the first few times but it just keeps happening. They overcharge for petrol, say that thibgs cost just a little more than they did, drink our alcohol but don't replace...

One of the worst was when we booked a group table for bottomless brunch. Couple said they would pay the full cost on their card at time of booking. BF and I transferred them £70 to cover our half. Thought it was all paid upfront. Once at the restaurant, having finished the brunch, the waitress asked for payment. We said oh it was already paid upfront on X's card. Waitress said no it wasn't. Friend said she thought she had paid it but must have made a mistake and not done it. No problem we said, just pay now...then she said they didn't have enough money on their card to pay. But we had already transferred our share weeks ago, which they had obviously spent. We ended up paying for all of us at the restaurant and waiting 5 days for them to pay us back our share.

Then there was the time they were over at mine and we all ordered takeaway. BF and me always have to get a pizza each because I'm vegetarian and he's not. This couple were arguing over what topping to get on their shared pizza. She wanted peppers, he didn't. They ended up sharing a pizza with no peppers, and not ordering any sides. Like I said they like to save money. When all the food came, she said to BF, who had peppers on his pizza, 'hey give me some of your pizza because you have peppers and I didn't get any.' He said no. At this point she had already drunk a quarter of his bottle of rum. She spent the whole night trying to wrestle pizza out of his hands, because she wanted peppers and also I think half a pizza wasn't really enough for her but her BF had said they couldn't afford one each. She also tried to get me to share my chips because they hadn't ordered any.

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They ended up sharing a pizza with no peppers, and not ordering any sides. Like I said they like to save money. When all the food came, she said to BF, who had peppers on his pizza, 'hey give me some of your pizza because you have peppers and I didn't get any.'

You've contradicted yourself. You say they shared one pizza with no peppers. Then that she wanted some of his pizza with peppers. Then you go back to one pizza between two not being enough for her! 🤣

Also, how on earth did a pizza last him the whole night! 🤣

BadNomad · 25/07/2023 20:16

jazzybelle · 25/07/2023 20:13

They ended up sharing a pizza with no peppers, and not ordering any sides. Like I said they like to save money. When all the food came, she said to BF, who had peppers on his pizza, 'hey give me some of your pizza because you have peppers and I didn't get any.'

You've contradicted yourself. You say they shared one pizza with no peppers. Then that she wanted some of his pizza with peppers. Then you go back to one pizza between two not being enough for her! 🤣

Also, how on earth did a pizza last him the whole night! 🤣

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She means the friend wanted the OP's boyfriend's pizza with peppers after eating her half of the non-pepper pizza.

EarringsandLipstick · 25/07/2023 20:20

You must be stark staring mad to go away with them again. It will be awful. You will end up paying for them.

Regarding the tent, you are also nuts. There is no need.

If it rains, put on your coats, if you are enjoying walking on the beach or whatever. If it's lashing, pack up & go somewhere.

The idea that you might buy a tent & prevent them entering is beyond mad.

BlushBlue · 25/07/2023 20:22

Just go either your boyfriend and tent.

KeepYaHeadUp · 25/07/2023 20:22

Anewuser · 25/07/2023 16:58

they won’t end up in it. If the heavens open, they’ll head for the cafe/arcade. You’ll end up in the tent by yourself.

Take a waterproof or go in the sea. Don’t take valuables or get a waterproof bag to chuck them in.

This! You'll hold the fort with their stuff in the tent and they'll head indoors until it stops!

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PinkStarAtNight · 25/07/2023 20:24

jazzybelle · 25/07/2023 20:13

They ended up sharing a pizza with no peppers, and not ordering any sides. Like I said they like to save money. When all the food came, she said to BF, who had peppers on his pizza, 'hey give me some of your pizza because you have peppers and I didn't get any.'

You've contradicted yourself. You say they shared one pizza with no peppers. Then that she wanted some of his pizza with peppers. Then you go back to one pizza between two not being enough for her! 🤣

Also, how on earth did a pizza last him the whole night! 🤣

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I'll make it simpler for you.
Couple: A is the female, B is the male.
My BF is C

A and B discussed whether they should get a pizza each or share one. Decided on sharing due to money. A really wanted peppers on their pizza. B really hates peppers. They got a shared pizza with no peppers.

C ordered a pizza for himself with peppers. A spent the whole night trying to beg borrow or steal some of C's pizza, as well as drinking his rum.

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dogsweetdog · 25/07/2023 20:34

Bloody hell.

If the weather is crap why would you spend two days sat on the beach? If you're in a seaside town and it's rainy, you go to a pub/cafe/other indoor attraction.

Peony654 · 25/07/2023 20:34

Hufflepods · 25/07/2023 16:56

You want it, you pay for it. It seems ridiculous to expect people to lag you when they will be using it for a day.

This. I couldn’t even bring myself to read your post.

jazzybelle · 25/07/2023 20:38

PinkStarAtNight · 25/07/2023 20:24

I'll make it simpler for you.
Couple: A is the female, B is the male.
My BF is C

A and B discussed whether they should get a pizza each or share one. Decided on sharing due to money. A really wanted peppers on their pizza. B really hates peppers. They got a shared pizza with no peppers.

C ordered a pizza for himself with peppers. A spent the whole night trying to beg borrow or steal some of C's pizza, as well as drinking his rum.

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This couple were arguing over what topping to get on their shared pizza. She wanted peppers, he didn't. They ended up sharing a pizza with no peppers, and not ordering any sides. Like I said they like to save money. When all the food came, she said to BF, who had peppers on his pizza, 'hey give me some of your pizza because you have peppers and I didn't get any.' He said no.

Another no time in this part of the conversation was your bf mentioned. He was only mentioned by you in saying that you order your own pizzas because you are a vegetarian.

The rest of my post still stands. You have contradicted yourself. You should just own it.

Shoxfordian · 25/07/2023 20:40

Yabu to even bother going anywhere with these mugs tbh and to sit on the beach in a tent all weekend. We have very different ideas of a good time 🤣

jazzybelle · 25/07/2023 20:42

BadNomad · 25/07/2023 20:16

She means the friend wanted the OP's boyfriend's pizza with peppers after eating her half of the non-pepper pizza.

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"When all the food came, she said to BF, who had peppers on his pizza, 'hey give me some of your pizza because you have peppers and I didn't get any.'"

And why did he have peppers when he said he didn't want any?!

LuluGuinea · 25/07/2023 20:44

If the rain is coming at intervals why not have a coffee when it's raining and go back to beach afterwards. I do get that it's a hassle moving stuff off the beach

BadNomad · 25/07/2023 20:44

jazzybelle · 25/07/2023 20:42

"When all the food came, she said to BF, who had peppers on his pizza, 'hey give me some of your pizza because you have peppers and I didn't get any.'"

And why did he have peppers when he said he didn't want any?!

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The OP's BF's pizza had peppers. The pizza the other woman shared with her BF didn't have peppers.

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PinkStarAtNight · 25/07/2023 20:48

jazzybelle · 25/07/2023 20:38

This couple were arguing over what topping to get on their shared pizza. She wanted peppers, he didn't. They ended up sharing a pizza with no peppers, and not ordering any sides. Like I said they like to save money. When all the food came, she said to BF, who had peppers on his pizza, 'hey give me some of your pizza because you have peppers and I didn't get any.' He said no.

Another no time in this part of the conversation was your bf mentioned. He was only mentioned by you in saying that you order your own pizzas because you are a vegetarian.

The rest of my post still stands. You have contradicted yourself. You should just own it.

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When all the food came, she said to BF, who had peppers on his pizza, 'hey give me some of your pizza because you have peppers and I didn't get any.' He said no.

This is me talking about my BF. What part of this is hard?

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 25/07/2023 20:49

How old are you? Sounds very studenty

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 25/07/2023 20:49

Hardbackwriter · 25/07/2023 17:52

I will say though that this

BF said he doesn't want to do that, because then who would own the tent? (we don't live together) so he thinks it will be complicated

seems to suggest that you and your BF are very well suited. There is a crazy level of overthinking all round here.

Agree

jazzybelle · 25/07/2023 20:50

BadNomad · 25/07/2023 20:44

The OP's BF's pizza had peppers. The pizza the other woman shared with her BF didn't have peppers.

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But it doesn't say OP's BF. It just says BF.

GoodChat · 25/07/2023 20:52

@jazzybelle you're the only person who doesn't understand. Just own that you're the issue, not OP.

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PinkStarAtNight · 25/07/2023 20:53

jazzybelle · 25/07/2023 20:50

But it doesn't say OP's BF. It just says BF.

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I meant my BF, I just missed out the word 'my'. Apologies.

You're hard work aren't you 😂

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Pluffe · 25/07/2023 20:54

jazzybelle · 25/07/2023 20:50

But it doesn't say OP's BF. It just says BF.

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Zanatdy · 25/07/2023 20:55

Don’t bother if it’s windy too as it’s likely to get damaged. If you’re free other weekends in August then I’d hold off, the weather forecast can’t be accurate now for the whole of August.

if you buy one though, you have to get one for everyone to fit in and suck it up. Otherwise you’re going to look like a scrouge

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 25/07/2023 20:57

Oysterbabe · 25/07/2023 19:06

You're going to end up sat alone in your little rain tent of misery while they all fuck off to the pub.

😂😂

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 25/07/2023 20:57

GasPanic · 25/07/2023 19:05

Another idea is if you take a plastic spade you can dig a moat around the tent to keep them out.

🤣