To not let them in the tent

[PinkStarAtNight]

So this is kind of lighthearted, its not an argument but I'm just wondering what others would do...

So my BF, myself and our couple friends are planning a weekend at the beach this weekend. I'm worried about the weather as the forecast says wind and rain, but it doesn't look like its going to get much better throughout August so the consensus is that we should just go this weekend and make the best of it. Hotel booked.

I suggested buying one of those pop up beach tents so that if it rains we could get under that until it stops. I said to BF that we could split the cost. BF said he doesn't want to do that, because then who would own the tent? (we don't live together) so he thinks it will be complicated and besides he doesn't think we need a tent anyway, he said if it rains we'll just go into the arcade or something. I said that would mean moving all the stuff off the beach and the rain might only last for 15 mins/half an hour as it says intervals of rain...we're planning to spend all day on the beach for two days so I really want a tent just to bob under if it gets rainy.

I haven't asked our couple friends but I doubt they'll agree to share the cost as they're a bit like BF and will say its an unnecessary cost, we don't need it etc, they're quite tight with money as is BF.

So, I'm looking at tents on Amazon and thinking of just buying one for myself. There's different sizes for 2 people, 4 people etc all at different prices. It can go up to £50 or more if you want a family one to fit 4 people in.

Now I just KNOW that if I buy and take along the tent and it starts raining, they're all going to get into it aren't they? Of course they are, if its there. So I'm thinking should I get a 4 person one? Or should I get a smaller, cheaper 2 person one and risk it being a real squish when they all try to chamber in with me when the heavens open.

Although I'll be the one who fully owns it afterwards, it will mildly annoy me if they all get in but didn't want to pay towards it. And I'm not sure how I feel about paying more money for a 4 person one to make room for them when they're not paying towards it. I could just get a small one that's just big enough for me, but then they might all squish in with me and that will be annoying.

So, WWYD? Would you buy the tent and say to them that its yours and they're not getting in because they didn't pay towards it? Or would you cover the cost yourself, for a 4 person one, and let them share even though they're not paying?

I know this is a first world problem and I'm not making an argument with anyone over it, I'm just quietly wondering whether or not to share the tent and wondered what others would do in this situation. Am I being really petty by wanting to say that its my tent and just for me because they don't want to pay towards it?

I would go on a nice walk in my cagoule, rather than sit on the beach in the rain. That will be zero fun.

Get the tent and then charge them rent everytime they want to get in it with you, you'll likely "earn" more than it cost you and its yours to keep afterwards! Take a book so you're not left alone and bored if they decide to trek up to the arcade instead of paying rent

We love our pop up beach tent. Small one works quite well - you can use it as a change room if you position discretely/ cover the opening with a towel. We probably purchased ours a decade ago and it’s been reet good.

You'll end up sitting in the tent alone as everyone else will have gone the arcades as bf already said and sounds more enjoyable than sitting in a tent hoping the rain passes.

https://www.halfords.com/camping/beach-shelter-windbreaks/halfords-beach-shelter-506174.html?istCompanyId=b8708c57-7a02-4cf6-b2c0-dc36b54a327e&istFeedId=367c5610-f937-4c81-8609-f84582324cd6&istItemId=pmlaippal&istBid=t&_$ja=tsid:%7Ccid:17253532456%7Cagid:%7Ctid:%7Ccrid:%7Cnw:x%7Crnd:14575073715557320004%7Cdvc:m%7Cadp:%7Cmt:%7Cloc:9046404&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIvNXHj6qqgAMVYoBQBh0ougJLEAQYASABEgKhr_D_BwE

v similar to this one. £19!

It’s not going to be any use in the wind and rain anyway. It’s a sunshade.

@AmandaHoldensLips
Extra cudos for the wet bar😀 and music.

I agree. If you were walking down the street and it started to rain would you share a brolly with your mate if they didn't have one or let them get wet cos they hadn't gone halves with you? Your boyfriend is right about who would own it if you bought it between you. If you buy it then it will be all yours to use again in future.

Let's be real.. Are you seriously going to sit on the beach for 2 days in the rain?

No take a coat and an umbrella, Pack only enough your willing to carry, don't bother with the tent.

2 and 4 man are tiny tents FYI, and no fun in the wind and rain.

Hope the weather holds out and you have a nice day

Large golf or fishing umbrella.

How much stuff are
You taking to the beach that you can't pick it up?!

Ponchos, wellies & brollys. Embrace it a little. No need for a tent

I’d get a 2 person one and charge anyone wanting to share it £10, plus they have to go and get me a drink from the pub first. And a bag of chips.🙂

I'd go to the beach with people I actually like

I can't get over the BF not wanting to have dual ownership of a less than £50 tent. You have bigger problems if he's the sort of person to quibble over that in the event that you break up.

Don't bother with a tent. Your BF has already said he intends to go indoors if it rains, so you'll probably end up being the only one sitting in the tent while they're all having fun in the arcade.

Honestly, if you buy a two person tent there's not likely to be room for four people in it.

Yeah, I don’t think you should get a tent.

If you say the tent is just for you, what are you going to do? Just sit in a tent on your own, on the beach in the rain? They’re not going to sit outside in the rain whilst you sit in your tent. They’re going to go off to an arcade like your boyfriend said.

Just bring an umbrella, and go to the arcade with them, or a cafe

Get a four person one, buy it yourself , then share if needed but the friends can help put it up.

“Charge them for using it.”🤣🤣🤣
Aren’t you supposed to fling those tents into the air so they pop open?
Good luck with that on a rainy windy beach, OP.

Remember to take a stick or taser to fight off intruders who will want to get inside.

I wouldn’t go on a holiday to spend time on the beach in the rain.

I would buy yourself one, just for you and no bigger.
I can guarantee if it starts to rain you’ll be the only one trying to put it up to sit in while the others (sensibly) go for a drink somewhere dry!

I have one. It's a 2 person pop up tent and I fold our clothes up and put it in to stay dry. If you put clothes and picnic in it there will just be room for you. You could say it's quite fragile and too many people or too much stuff in it will break it.

Joking aside, dilemmas such as these would make me wonder how compatible you were long term. I doubt the issue is about money per se, I'd say it's more about think8ng it's not a priority. If you wanted to bring that with you I most definitely would not be helping you to carry it, or 'nipping' back to the car. Let's say it rained and you all huddled in the pop up for 20mins....then what? Personally I'd ne look8ng to do something else indoors. I definitely don't want to be lugging a damp tent around with me.
That doesn't mean you're wrong to want to, it would just annoy me. Some people are more able to go with the flow, you might call that useless at planning, others are great at planning/organising but might be considered rigid by others. Most of us have one or 2 areas where we won't compromise eg I'm not waiting till 3pm for my lunch and I'm not sharing a bed, maybe someone's vegetarian....but generally relationships work best if you have a similar attitude.
Have there been other dilemmas like this eg he wants curry for Xmas Dinner, or decided to stay over after a night out when you didn't want to because you had the wrong shoes with you for a Sunday?
If it's just a one off, forget the tent and live free.