People becoming increasingly rude and self entitled

[SusanandMidge]

A friend was told to fuck off by a delightful woman at the weekend when she asked a bunch of adults (late 20s, early 30s) to turn off the loud music they were blaring from the pavement and singing along at top volume to at 11pm.

On Saturday I had a woman with a young child in the car refuse to reverse when she was driving the wrong way in a car park and our cars met. She insisted I reverse and even opened her window and said a sarcastic 'now was that so hard' when she passed me.

My neighbour was berated by an affronted father, one night last week, for asking a child aged about 12 who was creating an absolute racket outside her house at about 10.30pm and refusing several requests to move, where she lived so she could speak to her parents. Apparently she really upset the child who arrived home in tears!

Is it my imagination or are people becoming increasingly self entitled and highly indignant when asked to show a bit of consideration or manners to others?

When mobile phones first became widespread there was a comedy sketch where a man used to shout "HELLO!" into a giant phone, the joke was that that was considered outlandish, attention-seeking behaviour. The sketch wouldn't work now because that's how the majority of people behave.

The thread about worst things your kids have said to you is absolutely shocking. I had abusive extremely strict parents so I'm an outlier but even amongst my friendship group, the worst it got was the cliched "I hate you".

5 year olds calling their mums the c word and posters laughing over the various stories on there?! Jesus Christ.

When I worked in retail If peoples were abusive to me I removed myself from the situation. Or I suggested that someone else served them . There are notices up in shops warning customers not to abuse staff .

Seriously if your kids are swearing at you that is your parenting. They can make that mistake once. After it happens again it's on the parents

DS returned from abroad and text me from Heathrow arrivals saying, “Ugh. I just remembered why I hate Brits.”

Imaging posting about your son openly being xenophobic....

Anyone who has spent time abroad and not just 2 weeks on a nice relaxing holiday will know the Brits are not special in anyway with regards to some people being rude, try spending some time in China or Middle east, or even hotpsots in Europe, I would certainly pick up if my child came out with 'Ugh, I just remembered why I hate X countrymen'

And I am second gen immigrant into the UK, but this fasination on MN to be apparently so worldly yet pretend that it is only the British is why MN is becoming a cesspit.

As someone who has been abused and profoundly damaged by hardcore Christians, I don't even know where to begin with how wrong and offensive this is.

yeah, I had to stop reading that thread. And people wonder why society is broken! 😆

I think people are all aware of their rights but have no awareness of their responsibilities.

Even when someone is blatantly wrong the want to argue.

My neighbours upset that I reported them to the council for noise. They play the piano, guitar and drums at stupid o'clock. I knocked at 2.30am last time they were playing ghe drums. They think their right to enjoy their home outweighs mine to actually sleep. Everyone's an arsehole.

That made me laugh 😂

You don't represent the entire population though do you? There are people, and groups of people, who have a poor level of control over their behaviour and need an external force to bring them into line.

Not all religious people are hardcore or abusive. Again, individual experiences don't represent the whole picture.

Thanks for trivialising my suffering in the interests of moralistic point scoring.

Just to add to your comment (not derailing) if you are unfortunate enough to be a teaching DSL who has reported or investigated a cause for concern then the hostility and threats are x 1000 for the whole academic year.

And this, ladies and gentlemen, is why I'm not a Christian any more.

There’s just no integrity.

Totally. And that’s from the top down. Our politicians are a disgrace.

Parents seem genuinely bewildered as to how their behaviour 'in their own garden' could impact negatively on their neighbours,

At least parents know where their children are. In the 1970s parents regularly chucked kids out of the house for the day and were unaware of how their behaviour impacted the entire town or countryside for several miles around.

Oh, but of course children were all perfectly behaved and wonderful then, that's why dozens of public information films had to be made to provide the basic parenting information so many were incapable of delivering.

Okay, so I need to take your unfortunate experience as representative of everyone else's? I'm sorry, but this isn't realistic or helpful in explaining why the population's behaviour is so bad now.

Somebody voted for them. Who? Don't tell me, people who will claim to have all sorts of standards and then knowingly elect lying spivs and financially incontinent prime ministers. Those people who vote Conservative.

Right, I'm outta here. I've got better things to do.

It seems like a lot of peoples favorite phrase right now is "I don't owe you anything"

Lol - are you me?!

I'll definitely try it again outside of the school holidays to see if it makes a difference, but if it doesn't we'll be back to the American lines like Celebrity and RCI.

Yep everyones up their own arse these days. I blame social media and all the self love empowerment BS.
In the past we were taught as children to love one another and look out for one another. Even the Disney movies we watched were about a women falling in love and making friends. Now it's all about self empowerment and bashing others.
People get cancelled because they're not quite PC about lgbtq issues etc but forget that they regularly help an old lady do her shopping or are a good husband or wife.
Society is screwed up!

You're not wrong, OP. And it's gotten a helluva lot worse since the covid lockdowns. Something has broken in people's heads re civility and sharing the world with other people.

I'd expect a P&O cruise to be full of entitled and rude 60+ year old Middle England Daily Mail readers to be honest. Not the sort of people to say, "No, after you."