To think Mumsnetters are obsessed with being cosy

[Pigeonbilly]

It's driving me insane. Such a twee word. When did the cosy obsession start?

I think that you made a really good point about well heated homes. A lot of homes in the UK can't be adequately heated, or cooled. I get sick of posters pointing out that fans don't cool down the air, well perhaps not, but under £50 is my budget, so fans from B&M it is.

I agree. I don’t associate cosy with living a half life at all! I’m often out all day doing activities and then it’s nice to come home and feel cosy indoors when the rain is lashing down outside, blankets are never involved 🙄

It's raining and cold. Therfore I am all cosy under my cover on the couch.

Read Nietzsche's views on comfort. Explains a lot about Mumsnet and the bourgeoisie in general! 😉

But the more people cocoon themselves like this, it can maybe have a detrimental affect on some. People don't like leaving their comfort zones and may also be why anxiety is on the increase

I find it's totally the opposite, after a stressful day at work etc coming home to cosy pjs and a lovely fluffy dressing gown, relaxing with a hot chocolate and watching a good film with my family is a real boost to prevent anxiety.

@TheYearOfSmallThings Yes but for the vast majority of the UK right now it's pouring rain, dull and quite chilly (especially further north) which is all reminiscent of Autumn, is it not? Hardly surprising people are talking about it

It is when the weather is autumnal and the rain is pelting down.

I want to be warm enough to sit out and eat outside. Instead, by this time of the evening the weather is more appropriate for putting PJs on and having a cup of tea. It's cosy 😉

@Ponoka7 Yep- we've got several budget fans around- not needing em much at moment- it was really noticeable in Copenhagen- fantastically fitted sealed windows and doors , not a single draft and that geothermal heating is the bees knees , if anything your house gets too hot- we frequently had to turn it off for periods. Shopping centres and cafes etc were heat appropriate too , warm in colder months and nicely cool in summer- the amount of places I've been in within last month when it's 16 degrees with fierce aircon blasting out!

@Ponoka7, I wholeheartedly agree. I'm not generally keen on throwing the word privilege around, however, I think that being judgemental about 'cosiness' can reflect a certain naivety about its associations. For many people (myself included) cosiness still has a direct link to a feeling of safety and candles, blankets, mountains of cushions etc. contribute to that.

Heating was a luxury in childhood with the cost of living crisis we're heading that way again now, making the little comforts we remember from those days more precious than ever.

YANBU. Cosy is an adjective not a bloody concept. I find all this talk of cosy as a Thing really bizarre.

Well, I'd agree if the weather was nice, sunny July weather, but we're currently under a weather warning for heavy rain, we've had flooding and multiple accidents on the roads and it's not hit above 15 degrees in days.

@cinnamonfrenchtoast

That was the exact point I was making !

@Anotherchristianmama

Again - the point I was trying to make was that we would like to see weather in July that made us want to sit in the garden rather than want to 'get cosy'

YABU
Cozy is not a new word?
If you'd said hygge or something you may have had a point

It was 24C here today as well so not all of the UK is cold and wet.

@LuckySantangelo35 I like dark nights, cold air, being out in the evening when it's dark. I adore the festive period too.
My kids sleep better when it's darker.
I prefer autumnal clothes and not being too warm in bed...the list goes on.
I've never been a fan of summertime, I just feel better in autumn/ winter.

Spot on.

I think the cosy rage is coming from those of us who currently feel cheated out of our summer and all the outdoor stuff we would typically enjoy, pursue and SPEND ALL YEAR LOOKING FORWARD TO in the warmer, drier season.
Up yours cosy. It's not your time.
Bleh bleh bleh snuggled into a blanket bleh bleh bleh staying inside bleh bleh bleh hate the sun. Fuck off then!
Sorry.

Definitely. I feel cheated out of summer. Those who like un summery conditions get what they like for most of the year anyway.

I told a customer today I secretly couldn’t wait for autumn and cosy nights in with the curtains closed and fire lighting. They rolled their eyes at me (and not in a nice way!!) I totally misread where the conversation was going😅

Don’t see how anyone could argue with this

They do. 10 months of the year in which to be cosy.

There was a thread on here last winter in praise of all things cosy, blankies, hot choc, fairy lights, candles everywhere. There was also a line - either in the thread title or in the OP, I'm not sure, - which said that people who don't like it shouldn't respond to the thread. But if there's a thread about enjoying the warm weather or bemoaning the summer downpours, the cosy crowd don't hold back to say that they love the cooler temperatures and the rain, or that they can't wait for autumn. (Autumn leaves usually get a mention too.)

British weather being what it is the cosy lot get their preferred conditions for the vast majority of the year. Yet I sense that they begrudge those of us who would like some sun and some warmth for just a little while.

And fwiw, I'm glad we haven't got the temperatures that southern Europe have experienced but I would happily swap the incessant rain here for the sun and heat we had in June.

Happy to be cozy post 9pm but not at 4 o clock on a rainy day IN JULY! I'm actually wondering how all the people celebrating this current weather due to the coziness find the time

Pointless wishing your life away, though, isn't it?

Spring is my time. Beautiful season, filled with my favourite flowers: primroses, lily of the valley, forsythia and bluebells. No wasps going sugar-bonkers yet and making a nuisance of themselves. When autumn rolls around I dread the onset of the long hours of darkness. And those days in November when a perpetual twilight hangs over, and it never seems to get properly light, do horrible things to my mood.

So I try to focus on things about the season I do like. The wonderful autumn colours, going to the deer park, getting out and about in nature as much as I can, and enjoying every hour of low sunshine available. Watching skeins of pink-footed geese fly in their v formations across the sky, star-gazing again after the lighter nights of summer, the real flames in my wood burner which lift my mood at a time when badly needed. It will never be my most uplifting time of year but I've tried to learn to make the best of it.

No two ways about it, though, it's been a struggle, and I'm always glad to see the back of dreadful November. January's a positive joy by comparison, with spring a less distant prospect. The eye-rolling might have happened because it's only July, and a wet and cool one at that!

@SerafinasGoose
Spring is also my favourite season. the nights getting longer and everything coming to life.
I never wish for autumn and winter but make the best of them, the excitement leading up to Christmas.
January and February I find fairly miserable. I hate the cold and dark, so yes, that's my time for cosiness - minus the hot chocolate!

@SerafinasGoose

Spring is my fave too- lighter evenings, milde