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To think Mumsnetters are obsessed with being cosy

176 replies

Pigeonbilly · 23/07/2023 15:51

It's driving me insane. Such a twee word. When did the cosy obsession start?

OP posts:
cinnamonfrenchtoast · 23/07/2023 18:13

Pigeonbilly · 23/07/2023 18:09

@GillianMcQueef but it's not now and then on here. It's July and we've gor threads with people salivating about autumn and long cosy winters. It's July.....

It doesn't feel like July, though. At least, not where I live.

It's currently about 14 degrees and pouring rain.

GenieGenealogy · 23/07/2023 18:15

For a change, Scotland doesn't have the shit weather today. At least not in my part. Have got two loads of washing done and dried outside, walked into the town with DH for a coffee and slice of cake and a rummage in the charity shops. We get 8ish months of the year where it's grey and wet and miserable and dark and horrid, yet the longer daylight hours are really only 3 months in May, June and July and the cosy people can't cope.

Crikeyalmighty · 23/07/2023 18:15

@Pigeonbilly thing is though you are asking this when it's rained solid for days on end with only the odd day of ok weather for weeks so it's hardly paddling pool and barbecue/picnic weather for all but the very very hardy!! Peoples minds are in October territory rather than July.

Guiltyfeethavegotnorhythm0 · 23/07/2023 18:15

Pigeonbilly · 23/07/2023 17:57

But by cocooning you are losing social skills and the world is seen as a scary, terrifying place. I just think it may be why younger people get anxious over the slightest things and more kids are school refusers etc.

I think you're looking too deeply into this .

Thepeopleversuswork · 23/07/2023 18:16

willWillSmithsmith · 23/07/2023 18:07

Can we really still be relating everything to the Covid days? To me it seems like a distant memory and I’ve all but forgotten about it, certainly on a day to day level. Maybe people did like being cosy during covid I don’t know but the vitriol on here for a cup of hot chocolate and a smelly candle is quite weird. I don’t like the dark mornings and dark evenings but if I have to suffer them then I might as well make them cosy and if that means a cup of hot chocolate and a ‘blankie’ on the sofa then I’ll do that.

That's probably fair. Like I say, I still find it incredibly triggering. Probably irrationally.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 23/07/2023 18:16

Cosy is great - in its place. But cosy is for November not July, I mean, it's better to be cosy inside while it's raining outside than standing outside in the rain, but not for 12 months of the year .

GillianMcQueef · 23/07/2023 18:25

Pigeonbilly · 23/07/2023 18:09

@GillianMcQueef but it's not now and then on here. It's July and we've gor threads with people salivating about autumn and long cosy winters. It's July.....

It's been 12 degrees with a weather warning for wind and rain where I am. Not exactly going out and enjoying the summer sort of weather. What do you expect people to do on a day like this other than stay indoors?

And again, I really don't see why it harms anyone if some people prefer cosy autumn/winter stuff, any more than it harms anyone if people enjoy summer stuff. How does it affect anyone else?

longtompot · 23/07/2023 18:26

Nothing nicer than having a cosy blanket on your legs, snuggled up on the sofa, tea lights and candles lit, glass of something nice in your hand and the dog asleep on you🥰

cinnamonfrenchtoast · 23/07/2023 18:26

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 23/07/2023 18:16

Cosy is great - in its place. But cosy is for November not July, I mean, it's better to be cosy inside while it's raining outside than standing outside in the rain, but not for 12 months of the year .

Well, I'd agree if the weather was nice, sunny July weather, but we're currently under a weather warning for heavy rain, we've had flooding and multiple accidents on the roads and it's not hit above 15 degrees in days.

Dontlistitonfacebook · 23/07/2023 18:30

It's not one or the other the though, is it? Cosy to me isn't about retreating/ hibernating for ages - it's about getting warm again after getting soaked walking for hours in the rain, or recharging after a tough work day.

Life is hard sometimes and sometimes people need to rest a little before heading out into the fray again.

Ponoka7 · 23/07/2023 18:38

"I never saw a woman walking round in PJs or oodies in their house --and they more often than not don't have curtains or blinds downstairs either- they did like their houses and flats very warm in winter though- we had a heating system that is common -straight from under the pavement and boy was it 'hygge' !! You certainly didn't need sofa blankets."

I'm watching 'Christmas in July' on QVC. I love Christmas and was looking at the throws. Which I need because I can't afford constant heating. So when I get in, on a cold day, I put on winter PJs and have throws to hand. The idea of cosy probably started when families had to sit under a quilt on the couch, with candles because you would eke out the electric on your card top up meter. Watch a film then all go to bed. A thing a lot of MNers won't understand.

Sux2buthen · 23/07/2023 18:47

@LuckySantangelo35 yep, I fully prefer it.
Everyone's different

Anotherchristianmama · 23/07/2023 18:47

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 23/07/2023 18:16

Cosy is great - in its place. But cosy is for November not July, I mean, it's better to be cosy inside while it's raining outside than standing outside in the rain, but not for 12 months of the year .

People can do cosy whenever they like. How does it affect you?

CantFindTheBeat · 23/07/2023 18:53

I don't mind cosy so much, but I hate hate hate the word 'comfy' when it's used as a feeling.

'I'm not comfy with that'
'It's up to you, if you feel comfy with it, say so'.

Eeeeeeeeeeuubghhhhhhhhhhhh.

<<<might be too invested in that!!>>>

SerafinasGoose · 23/07/2023 18:54

Catusrusty · 23/07/2023 18:11

It's cold, grey and wet here.

I'm wearing comfy leggings, sat under a cosy blankie cuddling my cat.

Sorry, not sorry.

But OP I do understand your concern about society interacting less in person, and I think you are right. It is damaging. I do think manners have declined since the social isolation of covid. Online shopping, working from home, click and collect, they all add up to more isolation.

Despite the fact that everyone's now busy pretending the lockdowns never happened, that COVID is like a distant nightmare retreating into the rearview mirror, I think the repercussions are not even beginning to be fully felt.

I feel less safe on the streets. Trains after about 7pm are rapidly becoming a no-go zone. Verbal harrassment from male strangers has noticeably escalated; that tension was not so evident to me before the lockdowns. I shop online because I no longer want to use changing rooms in high street stores. The high street is struggling enough already but many outlets don't seem to realize how badly they are alienating their target markets.

It was easy to get into the habit of lockdown, although it became more injurious to many people's mental health the longer it went on. No leaving your home more than once a day, or for any other purpose than to shop. No trains, planes, pubs, shopping, swimming, gyming, socializing. An environment in which a trip to the garden centre was our children's brand new yardstick for joy.

It was an easy habit to get into and a far harder one to break once it was over. I had to kick myself hard up the backside to do things that came naturally to me before, or that I'd do without question.

High street shops and the higher education sector are dying on their feet. Ditto the hospitality industry. Compulsory education can't recruit enough teachers. The private sector has seen the closest thing to a general strike since 1926. Okay, COVID isn't the only contributing factor to these issues. But it hasn't helped.

I witnessed some disgraceful treatment of others, and know who in my village are the people to be avoided at all costs.

The ramifications are still continuing. It's as though we can measure the state of society to the time before and after the 'flood'. Pessimistic though it is, I think it will take at least a generation to recover.

Crikeyalmighty · 23/07/2023 18:58

@Ponoka7 It honestly wasn't meant as a criticism- it was more just observational that the Danes I think thought of hygge slightly differently. The warm homes help!!

Personally I don't care what anyone else does- their life, their comfort, their choices!!

LuckySantangelo35 · 23/07/2023 18:59

longtompot · 23/07/2023 18:26

Nothing nicer than having a cosy blanket on your legs, snuggled up on the sofa, tea lights and candles lit, glass of something nice in your hand and the dog asleep on you🥰

@longtompot

i can think of loads of nicer things than that

LuckySantangelo35 · 23/07/2023 19:00

Sux2buthen · 23/07/2023 18:47

@LuckySantangelo35 yep, I fully prefer it.
Everyone's different

@Sux2buthen

just out of interest, why do you prefer it ?

LuckySantangelo35 · 23/07/2023 19:02

SerafinasGoose · 23/07/2023 18:54

Despite the fact that everyone's now busy pretending the lockdowns never happened, that COVID is like a distant nightmare retreating into the rearview mirror, I think the repercussions are not even beginning to be fully felt.

I feel less safe on the streets. Trains after about 7pm are rapidly becoming a no-go zone. Verbal harrassment from male strangers has noticeably escalated; that tension was not so evident to me before the lockdowns. I shop online because I no longer want to use changing rooms in high street stores. The high street is struggling enough already but many outlets don't seem to realize how badly they are alienating their target markets.

It was easy to get into the habit of lockdown, although it became more injurious to many people's mental health the longer it went on. No leaving your home more than once a day, or for any other purpose than to shop. No trains, planes, pubs, shopping, swimming, gyming, socializing. An environment in which a trip to the garden centre was our children's brand new yardstick for joy.

It was an easy habit to get into and a far harder one to break once it was over. I had to kick myself hard up the backside to do things that came naturally to me before, or that I'd do without question.

High street shops and the higher education sector are dying on their feet. Ditto the hospitality industry. Compulsory education can't recruit enough teachers. The private sector has seen the closest thing to a general strike since 1926. Okay, COVID isn't the only contributing factor to these issues. But it hasn't helped.

I witnessed some disgraceful treatment of others, and know who in my village are the people to be avoided at all costs.

The ramifications are still continuing. It's as though we can measure the state of society to the time before and after the 'flood'. Pessimistic though it is, I think it will take at least a generation to recover.

@SerafinasGoose

why wouldn’t you want to use a shop changing room?

LilacRain12 · 23/07/2023 19:06

@Pigeonbilly Sorry but that's just ridiculous.
People who love the summer and boiling hot weather as well as socialising all the time are not superior to those who do not. It's called differences. Would be very boring if we were all the same. People can like what they want. If the cosy threads annoy you, just don't read them. Same as when I don't comment on threads about people who love the heat, outdoor parties and all the socialising the season brings. It's quite straight forward really.

FantasticallyFabulous · 23/07/2023 19:08

Pigeonbilly · 23/07/2023 16:30

I think I'm just a person that hates being cooped up indoors. Even in winter I love freah air. It's only 15c but I've got all the windows open.

Well done.

IdSell · 23/07/2023 19:11

Pigeonbilly · 23/07/2023 15:58

To me it has connotations of hibernation. Like living a half life. Yes it's nice ro be cosy in bed ar night but not all day every day.

Err, so you admit to liking being cozy?

LuckySantangelo35 · 23/07/2023 19:16

IdSell · 23/07/2023 19:11

Err, so you admit to liking being cozy?

@IdSell

i like being cosy in November…not July! This weather is shit

FantasticallyFabulous · 23/07/2023 19:17

What an amusing read. So many people getting distressed about the word/concept of being ‘cosy’. And making so many bizarre judgements and assumptions about people who ever use the word. I wonder what’s made them so sensitive and angry?! Is intolerance a result of the pandemic? Possibly.

Cas112 · 23/07/2023 19:34

Pigeonbilly · 23/07/2023 18:09

@GillianMcQueef but it's not now and then on here. It's July and we've gor threads with people salivating about autumn and long cosy winters. It's July.....

And it's pissing down with rain so leave people alone 😂

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