To think Mumsnetters are obsessed with being cosy

[Pigeonbilly]

It's driving me insane. Such a twee word. When did the cosy obsession start?

That’s some chip you’ve got there. Maybe cover it in a blanket, you never know it might enjoy feeling cosy having to sit on your cold, hard shoulder.x

I want one of those sunlight therapy rooms they have in spa hotels. Came in quite handy with the persistent rain of yesterday, but Oh to imagine the bliss of one of these when the clocks go forward on October 31!

Another major MN bugbear: the spa retreat! Yes, it really is the cure for all evil 😂

But answering the fucking door every time someone wants to quote me for washing the gutters? Bollocks to that! 😝

Okay then ..Snug as a bug in a rug . Do you prefer that?

Just to clarify I'm not being sneery or looking down on anyone.
It's just something I've noticed on here over the last few years and more so since lockdown. It's as if people build this invisible wall around themselves. If it works for you then fine.
But the more people cocoon themselves like this, it can maybe have a detrimental affect on some. People don't like leaving their comfort zones and may also be why anxiety is on the increase.

No issues with people who like a candle or blanket. It's the fact that many of them pile into threads where people are posting that they are struggling enormously with the lack of daylight with their fairy lights, hot choccie and blankies as if they were the panacea for all ills. It's profoundly lacking in self-awareness and empathy. You do not have to evangelise about your preference for "cosy".

So yeah, I judge the people who so self-absorbed. If you'd prefer to be outdoors doing things, this time of year is brilliant. Temperature doesn't matter. If it's dry, it's light until 9.30pm in Scotland, a month ago it was still light at 10pm or later. The "cosy" brigade get their preferred shitey, cold and miserable time of year every single year without fault. Yet are the first to complain at the first nice day in May that there are people being noisy, having barbecues, children on the trampoline, people doing things and going places because all THEY want is to be inside snuggling.

Why would it drive you insane? It sounds like it’s you that needs to get a life & get out more.

You're not cosy on MN unless you have hot choc.

Maybe this is happening post-covid but I don't associate it with an appreciation of cosiness. I mean I've always loved being cosy but I also love going out in to world, travelling, socialising, meeting new people etc.

Because life is crap enough as it is and we need comfort in the only way some of us can find ?

The best is being cosy and snug inside, on a rainy day with your perf film on and a tea of picky bits xo

It's not twee to like being at home, or feeling like your home is a sort of sanctuary. It doesn't mean you don't like the outdoors or that you have no life, friends or interests outside the home.

That was phrased in a bit of a vitriolic way yet I do know where this poster is coming from.

There was a lot of incredibly self-congratulatory stuff on here (and elsewhere) during the COVID lockdowns, tons of people going on about how they now had an excuse not to do anything involving coming into contact with anyone other than their immediate "little families" (lots of which involved paeans to the joys of cosiness and blankies etc etc).

I found it both insular and shockingly smug at the same time. I get that a lot of people found some reassurance in being able to step off the social treadmill of ordinary life but there was a lack of self-awareness of how people who didn't have "little families" (or indeed secure housing or hybrid jobs or any human contact at all) might feel when confronted with this display of "I'm alright Jack". Being able to feel "cosy" relies on quite a lot of things coming together in your favour and there was a bit of a sensitivity chip missing in some cases.

It's a bit of a derail from the original post and I don't think anyone who talks about being "cosy" is automatically smug but I still find these sorts of posts a bit triggering even now.

Anyway, as you were.

But by cocooning you are losing social skills and the world is seen as a scary, terrifying place. I just think it may be why younger people get anxious over the slightest things and more kids are school refusers etc.

Surely it’s part of a normal day of week? You’d have to be very well off financially to be doing it permanently surely?

I think your own sanctuary is very beneficial to mental health. I do lots of stuff out and about but I also like a lot of time to myself and being at home.

I wouldn't see those things as the only other option though, just because I don't like relaxing in warm places doesn't have to mean I like being stressed and uncomfortable in the cold.
More like enjoying being busy in a cool temperature.
Too warm makes me feel stressed or a bit itchy and sitting still for ages makes me bored and sleepy. I can't feel comfortable in cosy, the idea of being snuggled down somewhere doesn't feel relaxing to me it feels restrictive.
I get that not everyone feels like that but that doesn't make it odd

I'm not into cosy. I like outdoors and sunshine. Hate Winter.

@GenieGenealogy hygge - huns - I like it- lol!!

Strangely when we lived in Copenhagen- land of hygge, they do like the candles and fairy lights and blankets etc- however it's all very season dependent and they are also very outdoorsy when it's dry and a bit warmer- we used to see a lot of families out walking , playing out and cycling till late in the evenings at certain times of year- and in all honesty I never saw a woman walking round in PJs or oodies in their house --and they more often than not don't have curtains or blinds downstairs either- they did like their houses and flats very warm in winter though- we had a heating system that is common -straight from under the pavement and boy was it 'hygge' !! You certainly didn't need sofa blankets.

The Hygge-Huns can't help themselves and witter on about snuggling under blankies with the family, being cosy on the sofa, hot "choccie", candles, fairy likes and other associated twee nonsense.

Hygge Huns made me lol.

I like to be as cosy as much as the next person but the inevitable threads that appear during any warm spell longer than two days make me roll my eyes.

Agree that 'snuggling up under a blanket with hot chocolate' is particulary twee.

I've seen the Scots word 'coorie' being bandied about as their version of the dreaded 'hygge'* so be on red alert for that one too.

*hopefully the weekend papers' obsession with bloody hygge has died down in 2023.

It’s usually the cosy brigade who piss and moan about the few days of the year that temps get over 25 degrees and start complaining that they are uncomfortable and “sweating” and saying “rolling on autumn” etc - that’s annoying!

How are you losing social skills or causing children to be school refusers by staying indoors and reading now and then?!

Can we really still be relating everything to the Covid days? To me it seems like a distant memory and I’ve all but forgotten about it, certainly on a day to day level. Maybe people did like being cosy during covid I don’t know but the vitriol on here for a cup of hot chocolate and a smelly candle is quite weird. I don’t like the dark mornings and dark evenings but if I have to suffer them then I might as well make them cosy and if that means a cup of hot chocolate and a ‘blankie’ on the sofa then I’ll do that.

Yep, definitely a very annoying word, when I read usually around Christmas time 'Snuggling/having snuggles under a blanket all Cosy having a hot chocolate in front of a Roaring fire' , I want to vomit 🤮🤮 you're sitting on a chair, the fire is lit and you're having a hot chocolate that's available all year, it's the words used to describe it, just like food, crusty bread!!!! and pretentious menu description for what they're having for dinner.

@GillianMcQueef

well if it’s every now and again it won’t. But for some people on here it seems to be their preferred weekend activity every weekend so that could be problematic

@GillianMcQueef but it's not now and then on here. It's July and we've gor threads with people salivating about autumn and long cosy winters. It's July.....

It's cold, grey and wet here.

I'm wearing comfy leggings, sat under a cosy blankie cuddling my cat.

Sorry, not sorry.

But OP I do understand your concern about society interacting less in person, and I think you are right. It is damaging. I do think manners have declined since the social isolation of covid. Online shopping, working from home, click and collect, they all add up to more isolation.

I think it's trying to make the best out of shit weather....finding the positive isn't a bad thing, but I'm not keen on the word. Still beats comfy!