Me and DP know a couple through dog-walking. We’re all mad dog people – our lives revolve around the bloody dogs.
The woman from the couple died about three months ago. The man asked if we’d (I’d) be willing to dog-sit every now and then because their dog had never been left alone before.
I agreed and I’ve dog-sat about 4-5 times since. Sometimes on weekends, sometimes on weekdays.
Sometimes I’ve had to split my time throughout the day because DP’s not WFH and I can’t leave our dog alone for too long. That’s meant 2-hours at his, back to mine for 2-hours, back to his etc. The dogs can’t be looked after together in the same house.
As well as dog-sitting, I’ve also gone over at the drop of a hat a couple of times to help him out with other stuff too.
Yesterday the man text to ask if we could co-ordinate diaries and book some days in for dog-sitting.
I replied to say my dog’s fallen really ill, was in for an emergency ultrasound which could be really serious so I’m trying to keep things clear for a couple of weeks so she’s not left alone at all. I said I’d text him once I knew more about the situation and what I could do with my diary. I was apologetic.
I’m stressed, I’m grouchy, I’m sleep-deprived, I’m worried, I’m on my period and I know he’s going through absolute shit. So I know I’m probably being U. But it naffed me off a little bit that he didn’t text back. I can’t quite put my finger on it. It just irked me that I didn’t even get a “Hope she’s doing okay” given I thought we’d got a nice neighbourly thing going on (albeit one way – understandably so). So, AIBU?
I know this is classic deflection and I know I’m probably being U. But I needed to vent a little bit. Sorry if I come across like a twat.
Also sorry that I might not drop in too often - am dealing with an ill dog 🙃