Friend topless in front of DH

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Went to a friend's house - just her, me and DH. I went to the loo. When I came back in the room, she was breastfeeding her 8-month-old.

She'd removed whole top and bra on both sides, so was topless, with the non-feeding boob not covered up by baby. DH was doing a decent job of keeping his eyes on her face though 🤣

AIBU to think that's a bit odd?

I know I can't ever comment to her. Just wondered what to make of it privately, especially since she's always been a wee bit flirty with DH.

But I've never breastfed... so maybe this is normal, or maybe I'm just a prude. Would you breastfeed alone with a friend's DH? And if so would you cover up more than this?

Say you went round DH’s mate’s house who has a thrush infection, if he just sat with his knob and bollocks out because it was itchy, you’d be fine with it?

I was just about to say what if a man had thrush🤣🤣

Does your comfort trump his health? It's his house! And his body!

They may not feel uncomfortable @Cucucucu they might like it, a lot.

Whats the difference here in terms of the argument? If he has a medical or bodily need to do something, his house his rules, right? And courtesy to guests can just go out the window? And if she feels uncomfortable she can just not look?

This is horseshit breasts are not genitals .

It's a persons body. I actually don't get the difference here. Either can make people uncomfortable because they're not usually on display.

There's tribes where people have their bits out, it's prudish to make a big deal of it

No one is saying the baby should not be bf-ed. That is a straw man argument. The question is the 'need' to take your top off completely to bfeed an 8 mth old baby in front of another woman's husband when she has left the room.

No wonder men still rule the world when women’s views are still so misogynistic and so much is done just thinking about men !

@PurpleChrayne I do actually. There was one woman I know on FB who did a whole photoshoot highlighting her baps. These things happen.

So you take your top off completely to breast feed?

That is for your friends & family to choose. If you don't see someone for 3 years you now know why.

No but if I took it off it would still be the same reply .

I think I've met him.

But you don't. Why not?

It's not misogynistic to think it's a bit odd in our society to get both your tits out and take your top off infront of a friend's DH whilst she's in the loo😂Everyone on here acting like they know the friend and she's just a mother breastfeeding as normal, nobody is saying the breastfeeding is weird it's the situation!

There's just no need to reveal your tits. You can just put something over you and baby etc, or put the baby under your top. People are doing it because it's edgy or something.

Some women even use it as an excuse to pose with lots of bap showing etc.

But you don't. Why not?

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My friends and family are not idiots . None of the men in my life is scared of seeing a boob , not my hubby , not my dad or father in law or brothers in law and none of their wife’s would bat an eyelid for anyone breastfeeding a baby . Normal people do not sexualise breastfeeding , with a top on or without , breastfeeding is done to feed a baby .

Trying to imagine doing this in front of my friends' husbands. Just wouldn't happen sorry.

So you sit half dressed with both your tits out everytime baby is hungry? Crack on. Its not normal in my circle and they aren't idiots.

Because I can breastfeed without. Many don’t , they need to take it off. Normally die to latching issues or similar

That’s your problem ! I’ve met at least 2 people recently who could not breastfeed without their top off as they struggled with latching . I still maintain , no normal men would care

I put a cardi over shoulders in that kind of scenario no need for all of that to be out too

My friends and family are not idiots . None of the men in my life is scared of seeing a boob , not my hubby , not my dad or father in law or brothers in law and none of their wife’s would bat an eyelid for anyone breastfeeding a baby . Normal people do not sexualise breastfeeding , with a top on or without , breastfeeding is done to feed a baby .

You think it's normal to get both tits out in front of your dad, BIL or FIL then? You'd actually do that? Just to prove a point? Well ok then

anything less is sexualisation and shaming, eh? You crack on but I think the above is pretty abnormal

This comment is plain stupid and you know it 😩

Are you suggesting that because someone visits at your house respect doesn't run 2 ways? Common courtesy? It's telling that she waited for OP to leave the room.... I don't think I would view my in the same light again.

You ignore the fact that the OP's baby is 8 months old and cannot have problems latching.

The fact that you think you can categorically speak for 'normal' men and 'normal' people who are not 'idiots' and for every single one of your non-idiot male relatives reveals you are not unbiased and maybe even clutching at straws.