DP won’t stop asking ridiculous questions

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Please tell me my DP isn’t the only one who does this. Misery loves company and all that.

We went to a new cafe today. Neither of us have been there and it’s a place he picked (I’ve never heard of it). Walked in and he asked me where the toilet was. Well I don’t know but I looked around and saw a sign so I guess it’s there! Bonus questions I was asked include the likes of ‘what’s good here?’ and ‘which brand of milk do they use for their lattes?’.

We make a trip to the cinema. 10 minutes into the film he asks me who that character is. I don’t know but I expect all will be revealed soon enough!

He stands in the kitchen, heating instructions are right there on the packet he’s holding. ‘How long do we heat this up for?’

His macbook had an os update. ‘How long does it take to install?’

I’ve been biting my tongue and responding with ‘I don’t know’ instead of something snarkier but it’s relentless!!

I've no idea with regards to your OP because I divorced mine (for completely different reasons to the ridiculous questions!!). However, please can you ask your DH what difference the brand of milk makes to a latte? I'm very intrigued....

He sounds like my very young kids, or the autistic people I support at work.
They think we're psychic and have all the answers, I suppose it's flattering (scraping the barrel at silver linings there 😆)

Love this 😂

I also have one of these defective models. After 20 years of marriage I don’t even bother responding to the questions most of the time. I just pretend I haven’t heard

They’re not really asking you they’re just thinking out loud.

I have a similar DH.

I now ask him if I look like Google or JFGI because how on earth would I know.

I suppose because I'm so capable it enables him to be incapable. The DC are the same. I'm trying to wean everyone off me.

My DP says he does it because I already know everything. But I suspect he just speaks what he's thinking rather than expecting an answer.

My favourite is do they sell xyz at “name of shop” I don’t know I don’t work there!!! Do you know if they do??? I’m made of sarcasm and hate pointless questions so answer like that every time!!!! 🤣

I am so glad I found this thread! This is my hubby to a T and it drives me insane. My usual reply is ‘you are sat there with an iPhone 12 in your hand. Just add Hey Siri to the front of your question and find out yourself’. I then get told I am rude and unhelpful!! But he expects me to know everything. We step out of the airport on holiday and I am supposed to know everything about where we are, or the ins and outs of any random subject that his brain comes up with. I have enough mental load of my own without taking on his too.

This made me laugh😂 Do I look like Alexa! The crystal ball comment 😂

I know I'm that poster but I don't think this is cute or funny. It's so lazy! But worse than that it's clearly a gendered issue. As so many women are saying their male partners do this. It's like he thinks you owe him convenience and not having to think. Like you just are there to service his life. So unattractive.

Sounds like a big baby, this will become a major ick

Top tip that worked IME: every time he does it give him a job to do! Examples: Q where's the toilet A oh good question I don't know but I'd like to go too please can you go to the counter and ask? Q what brand of milk do they use? Do you want to go and sneak by the counter and let me know of you can see? Q How far is Chesterfield? A ooh um can you get your phone out and go to googlemaps so I can see too? Each time be expectant for the answer! You can turn it into a game and see how many times it takes before he gets wise!

This had me crying with laughter.

My hubby does this but over the years I've deduced that he's asking things he's thinking out loud! Sometimes he gets a sarky answer Sometimes a witty one and sometimes no answer!

People often do this when they need or are seeking affirmation. It can be incredibly tedious but providing a reassuring, kind response will draw them in and help them feel centred. Often this stems from something in childhood and so if you're not sure what to do, just kindly say "I'm not sure, what do you think?" which additionally makes them feel like their opinion matters. My mother does this a lot to me and it's so annoying but she's terribly insecure and needs to know she's doing the right thing constantly. This stems from her having an emotionally abusive and controlling mother. It makes me very sad to think of the childhood she endured

Same!!!! This is my life! Very very annoying I find it hard to hide my irritation 🫤

My ex and I amicably share the flat. He does this with the TV. A new film or serial. Who's that? Who's he? Etc and it goes on till the end. I'm feeling like screaming at him.

Ha ha, I feel your pain. Haven't RTFT but the Mumsnet update refers to a 'magical uterus'. We have a similar concept here - but it's the magical crystal ball.

DH is forever asking me things I can't possibly know, or expecting me to find things he has lost and can't find due to his man-looking. A year or two ago he asked me something really stupid - I feel it was to do with the TV, so maybe 'why can't I make the gadget change channels' or similar.

Anyway, I was in another room and had no idea what he was doing so I said....."Oh magical crystal ball, tell me why DH can't make his channel changer work.......??" - and teenage DD was with him and found that hilarious. Needless to say it stuck, and ever since, when he asks a stupid question, she will fire that back at him. He is slowly learning.......

I know there are some men on here. Why? Just why? are so many of you incapable of actually thinking?? (At least I assume you do at work, it must be a home thing...).

Or of course - we could all use the "power of greyskull........."

I have the same model, 58 years on, he still asks. My fault, I treated him like rest of DC, but now find it annoying…now I say,”don’t know”, you have to look, lookup for yourself…