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Men walking around with their hands down trousers

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TomorrowToday · 15/07/2023 21:44

Why do men walk around with their hands down their trousers.

It's disgusting and I see it all the time.

AIBU to think something should be said and done about it?

Men walking around with their hands down trousers
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FeelingHotHot · 16/07/2023 07:53

RatatouilleAndFeta · 16/07/2023 07:48

I don't understand your comment

I assume it’s modern speak and look at urban dictionary.

This is what I found for tink:
A bum, Hobo, Homeless person, Gypsies or someone who dresses scruffily.
1."Stay away from those Tinks"
2."Instead of throwing those clothes away, give them to the tinks"
3." Look at you, you look like a tink...go and get changed.

Urban Dictionary: hobo

A homeless Bohemian.

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Hobo

FeelingHotHot · 16/07/2023 07:53

FeelingHotHot · 16/07/2023 07:53

I assume it’s modern speak and look at urban dictionary.

This is what I found for tink:
A bum, Hobo, Homeless person, Gypsies or someone who dresses scruffily.
1."Stay away from those Tinks"
2."Instead of throwing those clothes away, give them to the tinks"
3." Look at you, you look like a tink...go and get changed.

No idea why that link came up too.

RatatouilleAndFeta · 16/07/2023 07:56

Thanks @FeelingHotHot
Thought it was as just a typo!
Just discriminatory language then.
Sad.

RoyalImpatience · 16/07/2023 07:58

tine i thought that was prison slang.

I like suggesting where the loo is.... Why
. When my little boy needs the loo, that's what he does?

Marchintospring · 16/07/2023 08:03

Think is just a shortened “ Tinker” isn’t it. As in the gypsies of olden times that came round and mended your pans and stuff ( before people had tarmac drives)

Sciobai · 16/07/2023 08:11

Sing/shout 'Wakey wakey, hands off snakey!' in your best baby voice at them and hope that it stops their gross behaviour.

Sigmama · 16/07/2023 08:12

Or 'itchy balls?'

TheGuv1982 · 16/07/2023 08:43

Is this a regional thing?

Oooiwanna · 16/07/2023 08:47

My DH does this when he’s watching tv or reading. I always say ‘what are you doing?’ And his reply? ‘It’s comforting. It makes me feel safe’ !!!!!!!

70sTomboy · 16/07/2023 08:55

Oooiwanna · 16/07/2023 08:47

My DH does this when he’s watching tv or reading. I always say ‘what are you doing?’ And his reply? ‘It’s comforting. It makes me feel safe’ !!!!!!!

Awww, bless him, just like a toddler , although it would immediately make me celibate. Wouldn't want to be getting intimate with a giant toddler.

And the low slung joggers/ jeans, toddler with soggy nappy look. So attractive, not, how any girl/ woman would ever want to go near that!

Toddlerteaplease · 16/07/2023 09:02

CovertImage · 15/07/2023 21:58

I have honestly never seen this in my life

It's common in most towns any cities. Usually by lads wearing tracksuits and hoodies.

Naunet · 16/07/2023 09:03

I can raise you on this OP, Ive seen a man walking down a busy street in the middle of the day, very clearly wanking himself off under his joggers. There were even kids around. 🤮

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 16/07/2023 09:06

Can’t say it’s something I’ve particularly noticed.

Little boys, OTOH…. Sitting round a pool once with dd, she gave me a nudge to look at Gds and 3 little friends - all aged 4 - 5 - all in their swimmies watching some horseplay in the pool - and each one of them had a hand down the front of his swimmies, making sure his willy didn’t feel lonely. 😂

Toddlerteaplease · 16/07/2023 09:07

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/07/2023 22:45

All the people who 'have never seen it' I'm assuming live in the Cotswolds, not Croydon.

🤣🤣🤣

notacooldad · 16/07/2023 10:19

Me neither.
Men are still allowed to put their hands in their pockets I assume.
To retrieve stuff.
Or just chill.
no it really is a thing, with some young blokes, usually in trackies .
I remember saying to one bloke when he was sat on a mini bus to stop lying with his junk. His hand flew out of his tracks and he mumbled ‘sorry’ to me.

Artycrafts · 16/07/2023 10:20

ArcticLadybird · 15/07/2023 22:14

Gross, ime usually wearing grey joggers and a weed bag. E scooter optional. I just pity them and assume they’ll never get a shag.

😅😅 those grubby grey joggers are gross.

notacooldad · 16/07/2023 10:21

Is this a regional thing?
well someone has mentioned Croydon, I’m in Manchester, I’ve seen it in Liverpool and Birmingham when I lived there so it is pretty widespread.

TomorrowToday · 16/07/2023 10:25

Oooiwanna · 16/07/2023 08:47

My DH does this when he’s watching tv or reading. I always say ‘what are you doing?’ And his reply? ‘It’s comforting. It makes me feel safe’ !!!!!!!

Don't get me wrong I do that as well..... But not outside.

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TomorrowToday · 16/07/2023 10:26

Sparklfairy · 16/07/2023 03:58

After a few beers one night my friends and I came up with a David Attenborough parody.

'And so... the gang leader asserts his dominance... by placing his hand... inside his trousers...

This intimidates... the beta males in the group... so they also put their hands... down their trousers...

We have returned at the turn of the season... to some confusion... It appears none of the men... know who is the leader... and in an effort to not be seen as weak and vulnerable in the pack... They must all strike this pose...'

I think there's something to the theory tbh!

Lol

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Conkersinautumn · 16/07/2023 10:26

I couldn't stop myself from blurting out "it's not going to fall off" yesterday in town when this "lad" (id guess early 20s, walking with his froends in his uni of warwick hoodie) was properly holding his crotch for the full time he walked round a corner and past me and my husband and child. Unfortunately he didn't seem to understand at all and just seemed confused. Perhaps noone ever taught him we don't fiddle with our privates in public.

Helendegenerate · 16/07/2023 10:39

I see it often. Men in smart suits don't do it. No women EVER do it. Perhaps it comes with the instructions when buying grey joggers. "Wash at least once a month and check daily inside for signs of life whilst wearing the item"

Artycrafts · 16/07/2023 10:42

Helendegenerate · 16/07/2023 10:39

I see it often. Men in smart suits don't do it. No women EVER do it. Perhaps it comes with the instructions when buying grey joggers. "Wash at least once a month and check daily inside for signs of life whilst wearing the item"

They don't need to check their tackle is still there. Unfortunately, we can all see it in the grey joggers. 😅

TomorrowToday · 16/07/2023 10:49

Conkersinautumn · 16/07/2023 10:26

I couldn't stop myself from blurting out "it's not going to fall off" yesterday in town when this "lad" (id guess early 20s, walking with his froends in his uni of warwick hoodie) was properly holding his crotch for the full time he walked round a corner and past me and my husband and child. Unfortunately he didn't seem to understand at all and just seemed confused. Perhaps noone ever taught him we don't fiddle with our privates in public.

You should have stood in front of him with your hand down your trousers with a gormless look..... maybe then they would get the idea that it's not ok.

I think the issue is people never say anything to anyone anymore. Ok people don't want the agro but that's the issue - you wear and do whatever you want in public with no recourse.

This isn't aimed at you, it's aimed generally at people.

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SuffolkUnicorn · 16/07/2023 10:57

Only underclass do this

Middlelanehogger · 16/07/2023 10:58

The picture in the OP is weird and otherworldly to me, where are his legs??