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Men walking around with their hands down trousers

141 replies

TomorrowToday · 15/07/2023 21:44

Why do men walk around with their hands down their trousers.

It's disgusting and I see it all the time.

AIBU to think something should be said and done about it?

Men walking around with their hands down trousers
OP posts:
Mischance · 15/07/2023 23:27

I have a certain sympathy with men and their need to adjust the accoutrements in their trousers ... it must be so uncomfortable ... I am surprised they do not do it more often. I would not like all that stuff cluttering up my knickers ... and as for riding a bike ....! .... ouch!

By the way the phrase is ... as per my grandma (a cockney) .... "Keep yer 'and on yer 'apeny" ... this exhortation uttered to us when we were off out for the evening, and was an instruction to protect your genitalia from male ingress.

Annaishere · 15/07/2023 23:31

Maybe their mothers never told them to stop it when they were little

Copperoliverbear · 15/07/2023 23:35

It's disgusting, I had to laugh the other day though I was waiting for someone and saw a man doing this over the road, then he stopped and his friend came along and they shook hands, I nearly choked laughing thinking if only he'd have known where his hands had just been lol 😂

PTSDBarbiegirl · 15/07/2023 23:38

We need to encourage Y-fronts to make a return. A snug secure fit will keep hands out pants.

Lambiriyani · 15/07/2023 23:41

Y-fronts = tighty whities right?

gogomoto · 15/07/2023 23:56

Proper briefs would help (not y fronts they have easier access!) and belt loops on joggers (and compulsory to wear a belt unless doing sport Grin) honestly it's easy access that's the issue, thankfully I have no sons and neither my exh nor current dp would be seen dead in joggers

AzureBlue99 · 15/07/2023 23:57

I was in a Waitrose (yes really) in a Surrey town on a Sunday morning and there was a guy in there is swearshorts, like he had just rolled out of bed, with his hands down the front of his shorts, jiggling his bits. He was heading for the bakery section. I got ahead of him and grabbed what I wanted. He picked up some loose bread rolls, no tongs. Grim. I was so angry. I had to bite back you dirty bastard. Saw him again at the self serve tills. Had theurge to start punching him but resisted him. Just disgusting.

Annaishere · 15/07/2023 23:58

gogomoto · 15/07/2023 23:56

Proper briefs would help (not y fronts they have easier access!) and belt loops on joggers (and compulsory to wear a belt unless doing sport Grin) honestly it's easy access that's the issue, thankfully I have no sons and neither my exh nor current dp would be seen dead in joggers

And breeches

Hohumitsreallyallthereis · 16/07/2023 00:14

I stayed in halls the first two years of university with heaps of other kids from farming properties. It was the first and only time I’ve seen it. I’m talking guys constantly having one hand down their pants. They all went on to be corporate types and I bet they are not doing it (in public) anymore.

I used to joke with my friends that this was one of our dating prerequisites. Keeps hands out of pants.

Blueuggboots · 16/07/2023 02:25

I work with young offenders. They are politely asked to remove their hands from their pants before I speak to them and I explain that I taught my son to stop doing this when he was three and that I'm sure they can manage to keep their hands off their penis for 10 minutes. If they do it more than once, they don't get to engage with me, I HATE IT.

Passthesickbagmabel · 16/07/2023 02:26

Very common in male prison where I used to work.
Grey track suit, hands down trousers. I sometimes see ex prisoners at bus stops locally. They are still.doing it.

mathanxiety · 16/07/2023 03:33

gogomoto · 15/07/2023 23:56

Proper briefs would help (not y fronts they have easier access!) and belt loops on joggers (and compulsory to wear a belt unless doing sport Grin) honestly it's easy access that's the issue, thankfully I have no sons and neither my exh nor current dp would be seen dead in joggers

What they need is codpieces.

Sparklfairy · 16/07/2023 03:58

After a few beers one night my friends and I came up with a David Attenborough parody.

'And so... the gang leader asserts his dominance... by placing his hand... inside his trousers...

This intimidates... the beta males in the group... so they also put their hands... down their trousers...

We have returned at the turn of the season... to some confusion... It appears none of the men... know who is the leader... and in an effort to not be seen as weak and vulnerable in the pack... They must all strike this pose...'

I think there's something to the theory tbh!

nzborn · 16/07/2023 05:49

I actually adjust my breasts from the outside if I see a guy walking towards me tweaking his privates a bit too much they always look a it shocked and sometimes I say well if you can do it.

Augustus40 · 16/07/2023 06:57

It is disgusting and men should learn to stop this. No excuse. If I caught my d's doing that there would be hell to pay.

Perhaps badly brought up.

Longwhiskers · 16/07/2023 07:19

I used to see this quite a bit in east London. Along with a funny walk where they almost drag one foot. Must be some wannabe gangster thing?

Reallybadidea · 16/07/2023 07:27

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/07/2023 23:23

Well clearly @Reallybadidea the hand prevents the chopping off of knobs. #Logic.

I wonder what the incidence of knob injuries is in South London 🤔

AxolotlOnions · 16/07/2023 07:33

I know why! As with the trousers being worn under their arses, this is also a prison culture thing. The trousers falling down is due to not being allowed belts in prison, the hands in trousers is due to prison attire (grey joggers) not having pockets so they all walk around with their hands in their trousers. It's young people trying to pretend they're 'hard' as they've done 'tine', but the original meaning has probably been lost by now.

Whateverhappenedtoslik · 16/07/2023 07:34

Trying out my 'I am carrying a concealed weapon in the front of my pants', it goes with my gangster walk, my hood up, low on the eyes hoodie (even though I am slowly dying from overheating) . I am struggling though because I want to wear my trousers under my bum to signify I have been in a hard time prison (I haven't because my mum would kill me), but do the weapon hiding thing at the same time and I can't get the waistband levels right.

AxolotlOnions · 16/07/2023 07:34

'time' not 'tine'!

RatatouilleAndFeta · 16/07/2023 07:48

Northernsouloldies · 15/07/2023 22:22

I'm male and I think it's tink behaviour. The trackie brigade outside McDonald's, I always think now go eat your maccyd with pissy fingers.

I don't understand your comment

RatatouilleAndFeta · 16/07/2023 07:49

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/07/2023 22:34

I used to work with young people in South London and they'd do this. I found that a mummy voice and "take your hand out and wash your hands NOW" worked wonders. They'd magically transform from wannabe gangsters into the sweet young men they had been raised to be.

Ditto all the limpy walking nonsense as well. Charming young people but yuk to the hand.

Urg god the limpy walk 🤣🤣🤣

LlynTegid · 16/07/2023 07:51

Agree it is awful and also dislike grey jogging bottoms on anyone. Though it does give you warning they are not suitable for a relationship.

RatatouilleAndFeta · 16/07/2023 07:52

Clementineorsatsuma · 15/07/2023 23:17

Can't believe some of you have never seen this?! It's vile, not least of all because they go into shops and touch stuff....eeeeww.
One was doing it outside my granddaughter's primary school. I politely asked him why he was playing with his genitals outside a school. He stopped very quickly.
It's one of my biggest loathes. It should be illegal to have your hands down your trousers in public.

Good for you!

Missingmyusername · 16/07/2023 07:53

nzborn · 16/07/2023 05:49

I actually adjust my breasts from the outside if I see a guy walking towards me tweaking his privates a bit too much they always look a it shocked and sometimes I say well if you can do it.

🤣

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