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He won't understand typos or initialisms or acronyms

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WhatsInATypo · 09/07/2023 11:05

SOMEWHAT LIGHTHEARTED.

DP is like that all the time and it drives me up the wall.

Example 1: I was about to get us a takeaway and sent the message 'do you want the set that comes witk fries?' and he sent back '?' followed by 'what's witk?'.

Example 2: We were talking about how people were all scrambling to get tickets for the Taylor Swift concert. Somewhere along the way I sent 'think TS tickets can only be bought if you've got some special code though' and got a 'TS?' in return.

Example 3: I told him I was going to the store to get a cake to celebrate something. Got there and texted 'Tiramisu or Black Forest' and he sent 'for the cake?'.

I get wanting 100% clarity but he's a smart man surely some common sense and inference will do sometimes? I DO NOT do vague references and expect him to read my mind btw. All my complaints are when the above 3 examples happen. AIBU?

OP posts:
SleepingStandingUp · 09/07/2023 19:22

For those like the ops DH who couldn't read witk as anything but witk, can you read this easily? Just curious. Bit like peie who don't see pictures in their heads or have voices in their head, just interested in our differences

He won't understand typos or initialisms or acronyms
LaPerduta · 09/07/2023 19:59

ErrolTheDragon · 09/07/2023 13:09

  • It makes me think of those posts on Facebook that are spelled all wrong: "If yuo can read tihs..." etc. They always say you're in the minority being able to understand it. Perhaps all of us who can understand really are unusual! Although I always assumed most people could read them.*

In the early days of MN there used to be a prolific poster called Cod who habitually wrote long posts like that, which AFAIK most people could comprehend. It was a bit annoying though as it did take more mental effort. I think spellcheck put an end to that - it either corrects mangled words or substitutes the wrong word making it less comprehensible.

Cod sounds like a bit of a tawt.

CheersToMe · 09/07/2023 20:00

Example 1: I was about to get us a takeaway and sent the message 'do you want the set that comes witk fries?' and he sent back '?' followed by 'what's witk?'.

Is it only me who is baffled by the word 'set' in the OP's sentence? The 'witk' is clear to me but wtf is a 'set'?

LaPerduta · 09/07/2023 20:01

CheersToMe · 09/07/2023 20:00

Example 1: I was about to get us a takeaway and sent the message 'do you want the set that comes witk fries?' and he sent back '?' followed by 'what's witk?'.

Is it only me who is baffled by the word 'set' in the OP's sentence? The 'witk' is clear to me but wtf is a 'set'?

I'm guessing set menu/meal. Like you often get in a Chinese restaurant or takeaway.

MyBrownEyedHandsomeBoy · 09/07/2023 20:01

I don't know what witk is tbf

LivingDeadGirlUK · 09/07/2023 20:08

PriOn1 · 09/07/2023 12:34

OP: ‘do you want the set that comes witk fries?'
DH: 'what's witk?'
OP: Doesn’t respond, doesn’t buy fries.

OP arrives home…
DH: ‘why didn’t you get me fries?’
OP: ‘I didn’t understand your response, but assumed you didn’t want any.

I think he might start understanding quite swiftly.

I agree with this. He either has incredibly bad reading comprehension and a total lack of deriving information from context, or he thinks he is teaching you something with his responses. Either way he needs to learn not to do it.

off · 09/07/2023 20:25

MyBrownEyedHandsomeBoy · 09/07/2023 20:01

I don't know what witk is tbf

I'm not sure I believe you. I bet even most ten year olds would be able to fill in the gap if you gave them the sentence "The meal comes ___ fries". In context there's only one word that's likely to be between "comes" and "fries", and grammatically you have very few options for what part of speech might go there. If, instead of a gap, you see an apparent nonsense word there, but it's only one letter different from the common preposition that you'd expect to see 99% of the time, then it's hardly a great feat of inference to guess it's a typo, rather than a word you've never come across before or an obscure acronym in lower case.

Davros · 09/07/2023 20:26

off I agree. I think those saying they don't know what "wikt " means aren't reading the OP

WhatsInATypo · 09/07/2023 21:05

speluncean · 09/07/2023 19:22

It could be special wicked fries. There's all kinds of weird acronyms these days.

DP also loves to talk about how 'it could be anything so how would I know' but in the examples I've given, the idea that I would be referring to anything else is just so improbable it's all a bit ridiculous.

'Do you want the set that comes witk fries?'

What acronym could witk possibly stand for in that context?

OP posts:
mathanxiety · 09/07/2023 21:10

Not the same thing, but I have a good friend who doesn't follow context or make inferences in conversation, and can't make head or tail of mystery programmes or movies, needs plots explained as the movie unfolds (this drives me batty), simply doesn't join dots.... Baffled by turns of phrase like "play it close to your chest" though English is her first language. Very bright, graduated with first class honours in a science subject. No issue with the written word, so there's that to be thankful for, and she's otherwise a lovely (ND) friend...

3luckystars · 09/07/2023 21:13

Frenchthing · 09/07/2023 11:19

These deliberately pedantic men need more sarcasm.

"No, I'm naming our next child fucking Tiramisu or Black fucking Forest, you stupid boring bastard!

😂

mathanxiety · 09/07/2023 21:13

But I think your H is being a twat.

speluncean · 09/07/2023 21:15

@WhatsInATypo I am neurodiverse.

I have adhd and ASD.

My brain does not work the same way as a neurotypical brain.

It isn't my fault and it's not something I can help.

I read your post quickly and my brain stuck wicked in there 🤷🏼‍♀️

mathanxiety · 09/07/2023 21:20

Next time he does this, ask him in all sincerity how he manages to get through each day with the weapons grade level of communication incompetence.

AndyMcFlurry · 09/07/2023 21:22

PriOn1 · 09/07/2023 12:34

OP: ‘do you want the set that comes witk fries?'
DH: 'what's witk?'
OP: Doesn’t respond, doesn’t buy fries.

OP arrives home…
DH: ‘why didn’t you get me fries?’
OP: ‘I didn’t understand your response, but assumed you didn’t want any.

I think he might start understanding quite swiftly.

Excellent suggestion.

LaPerduta · 09/07/2023 22:40

off · 09/07/2023 20:25

I'm not sure I believe you. I bet even most ten year olds would be able to fill in the gap if you gave them the sentence "The meal comes ___ fries". In context there's only one word that's likely to be between "comes" and "fries", and grammatically you have very few options for what part of speech might go there. If, instead of a gap, you see an apparent nonsense word there, but it's only one letter different from the common preposition that you'd expect to see 99% of the time, then it's hardly a great feat of inference to guess it's a typo, rather than a word you've never come across before or an obscure acronym in lower case.

I think most children of eight or even younger could work it out, although arguably if you gave them the sentence with a gap (rather than the OP's) typo there are two equally plausible words.

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 09/07/2023 23:05

It could be special wicked fries. There's all kinds of weird acronyms these days.

Maybe it's "Table 4 getting soapy with the fries!"

Ormally · 09/07/2023 23:29

I'm neurodiverse and there are plenty of situations where I haven't understood things like this. I don't like acronyms - I remember them well and so they can be confused quite easily depending on how out of context they are. My degree subject had a lot to do with 'TOM' - theory of mind. It connects to brain development. In a professional role it stands now for 'Target Operating Model' - I know this, but just the acronym still mightily confuses me with the meaning I associate first.

Someone's asked me for a notebook before, during a power cut (in the day when most of us had PC computers). As there was a power cut, my thinking meant I produced a paper notebook. They looked at me as if I was an alien.

I've been asked on the phone 'Can you make sure that there's some chicken that's unthawed for dinner?' There was chicken already out on the worktop. That one was a very weird brain loop because the word had not been 'defrosted', and there seemed to be food defrosting already, so did that mean it needed to be frozen again?

I rarely assume things. I would not think twice about most typos, but I need as much precision as I can. It genuinely isn't intending to take the piss.

off · 09/07/2023 23:31

LaPerduta · 09/07/2023 22:40

I think most children of eight or even younger could work it out, although arguably if you gave them the sentence with a gap (rather than the OP's) typo there are two equally plausible words.

That's true, it might be "without" Grin

But yeah, point is that deciphering what "witk" could possibly mean, in the grammatical context of a sentence where "witk" is almost certainly some kind of preposition (you don't need to know grammatical terminology for this to be helpful, just your natural language instinct), and in the semantic context of meals and their relationship to chips, is not the kind of MI6-level codebreaking task some are making it out to be. I guess you might need to stop for half a second to work it out, if you have cognitive differences or English is a second language or whatever. Still quicker than pedantic/puzzled text messaging.

nocoolnamesleft · 09/07/2023 23:44

There are two sorts of people in the world. Those who can extrapolate from an incomplete data set.

TooBored1 · 09/07/2023 23:48

Hesma · 09/07/2023 11:23

I haven’t a clue what witk means????
stop being lazy and just use proper English

You never made a typo in your life?

JustJoinedRightNow · 09/07/2023 23:49

nocoolnamesleft · 09/07/2023 23:44

There are two sorts of people in the world. Those who can extrapolate from an incomplete data set.

Brilliant

Orban · 09/07/2023 23:51

WonderfulUsername · 09/07/2023 11:51

If your reading and comprehension skills are this poor, you should stick to telephone calls only.

Nobody answers phone calls any more though. It gives everyone anxiety, apparently. Instead they send texts with spelling mistakes, weird acronyms, initialisations and abbreviations. Which everyone around them is expected to accommodate.

Ormally · 09/07/2023 23:56

This is just yet another MN thread making ND people feel like shit

Ohhhh, thanks. I'd missed that, but get it now.

Marynotsocontrary · 09/07/2023 23:58

nocoolnamesleft · 09/07/2023 23:44

There are two sorts of people in the world. Those who can extrapolate from an incomplete data set.

😂😂😂

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