He won't understand typos or initialisms or acronyms

[WhatsInATypo]

SOMEWHAT LIGHTHEARTED.

DP is like that all the time and it drives me up the wall.

Example 1: I was about to get us a takeaway and sent the message 'do you want the set that comes witk fries?' and he sent back '?' followed by 'what's witk?'.

Example 2: We were talking about how people were all scrambling to get tickets for the Taylor Swift concert. Somewhere along the way I sent 'think TS tickets can only be bought if you've got some special code though' and got a 'TS?' in return.

Example 3: I told him I was going to the store to get a cake to celebrate something. Got there and texted 'Tiramisu or Black Forest' and he sent 'for the cake?'.

I get wanting 100% clarity but he's a smart man surely some common sense and inference will do sometimes? I DO NOT do vague references and expect him to read my mind btw. All my complaints are when the above 3 examples happen. AIBU?

So in a typed conversation about Taylor Swift tickets you seriously wouldn't know what TS meant in a sentence that continues the conversation?

Bit in the context of the sentence, many people will either autocorrect so actually read witk means or reread it and realise its meant to be with but with a typo.
If you genuinely can't understand the sentence and "I'd like ham witk pickle" reads basically the same as "I'd like ham zycz pickle" fair enough, but I think some people just like to be awkward and pedantic (looking at you DSIS)

Same! Except generally they fuck it up on the correction too, then again, then finally add “FFS autocorrect.” Meanwhile the actual conversation is trying to proceed but with these little interruptions, like a mosquito.

Anyway. Tedious ex-boyfriend was like this and it was 100% a superiority thing. I once had a tweet go viral during Bake Off and I’d written “gateaux” not “gateau” in my haste to make my joke. He texted me, one word: “gateaux??” He could never ever respond to the question in hand, he had to correct the SPAG.

• It makes me think of those posts on Facebook that are spelled all wrong: "If yuo can read tihs..." etc. They always say you're in the minority being able to understand it. Perhaps all of us who can understand really are unusual! Although I always assumed most people could read them.*

In the early days of MN there used to be a prolific poster called Cod who habitually wrote long posts like that, which AFAIK most people could comprehend. It was a bit annoying though as it did take more mental effort. I think spellcheck put an end to that - it either corrects mangled words or substitutes the wrong word making it less comprehensible.

My DH is the opposite and often writes an entire sentence as an acronym. Eg
CUPUSMP= can you pick up some milk please. He does it often enough that I usually understand them

But if for example I changed Taylor Swift to TS he would question it! 🤣🤣

Perfectly normal in my family. Text conversations are often interspersed with quote queries and clarifications. Something which is obvious to the sender isn't always so to the receiver. We have family members with diagnosed ASD, self-diagnosed ASD and ASD traits. One family member wants to be assessed for dyslexia (that one would not know whether witg in context meant with or without) and another is wondering whether they have ADD.

So, yup, perfectly normal IME. Albeit sometimes a bit irritating if the sender thinks the querier is being deliberately over-pedantic.

Were you ever in “Hallo Hallo”.
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I'd stop giving him choices. Don't text to ask his preferences, get whatever the hell you want and he can put up with it. or stop being an arse. There's no way I would pander to this kind of bollocks. He's being a passive aggressive wanker. (Assuming no ND obviously).

Example 1: I was about to get us a takeaway and sent the message 'do you want the set that comes witk fries?' and he sent back '?' followed by 'what's witk?'.

He's just being an arse. I'd have got him nothing and told him it was because he was being an obtuse arse.

My mother does something similar, always pretends that she hasn't heard what you said and going "hmm?" Every. Single. Time. It just comes like an automatic reaction from her, there isn't even a pause to try and work out what you've said, it's just an automatic "hmm?". I got utterly sick of having to repeat every single thing I said (and I mean every single sentence) two or three times before getting an answer. I now say something once and that's it, she knows I don't repeat myself. If I ask her if she wants a cup of tea and I get the daft "hmm", then she goes without. Funnily enough, her hearing has clearer up immensely around me and she often hears first time now, especially when it comes to something that she would be annoyed at missing out on ie a cuppa, trip to a coffee shop etc.

You might start to find that your husbands comprehension increases if it starts having consequences.

This is my DH to a tee, he now knows that when I ignore the query he is being stupid.

I hate to do this in the context of this thread 🤣 but NAT?

I don't know either but given the context and the poster referring to NT to mean neurotypical I'm going to assume - unlike OP's husband would - that it means neuro atypical?!

This used to happen to me. I resolved it with a policy of “never explain, never complain”. So in response to the cake example I would just ignore, not respond and choose the cake myself. Decide whether he wants chips for him. If he can’t parse simple English in context then he’s on par with a primary schooler so can be treated like one. Also respond to pendantic nitpicking with “Nvm*” and if asked “what’s nvm” explain once then never again. Carry on with next interaction as if nothing happened, ignore or reply “nvm” to further stupid replies as required.

• nvm = nevermind before the thread bores pipe up

We all need to rub along together and minor mistakes will always happen. However, there is a continual increase of sloppiness everywhere in modern life. Many people say that a fat finger moment in a text or e-mail isn't terribly important, sometimes it is.
I nearly lost my life earlier this year, due to incompetence by a number of nursing sisters and doctors who didn't understand what a scarlet sticker with 'SEPSIS' written across it meant.
'Never' events for April '23 alone can be found here, not for the faint hearted:
https://www.england.nhs.uk/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/Provisional-publication-NE-1-April-30-April-2023-v2.pdf

Pedants might drive us all mad sometimes, but they might also save your life.

Not understanding inference is a thing, probably same with expressions which let's face it when you actually analyze them don't really make any sense - you either understand them or you don't. You can be generally bright and not get any of that.

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Is that you, OP's husband? 😂

Whether his inability to even slightly retain the context of communication in order to decipher typos or initialisms, was sheer laziness or something wrong with him, would make no impact for me.

It would irritate the absolute shit out of me.

Yep.

My friend does this, if the phone autocorrects he will correct people if they're / their / there is wrong even though it's clearly a rushed typing thing.

He does it to be superior. Not to be a snob but I have a PhD and he's a train driver. We both know the difference between there/ they're / and their without having to be told.

He actually used 'less' rather than fewer incorrectly in a fb group we are both part of and he was incandescent when I corrected him 🤣🤣

And she's prolific on Twitter now and can apparently type with no problems these days 🤷‍♀️

Me too because MN uses so many silly acronyms, it seems to be second only to the Military in their use!

My DH can be like this.

He isn't being pedantic or deliberately obstructive. It often feels as though he lacks common sense and is oblivious to context so often needs things to be very explicit or they completely go over his head. He is a highly intelligent person but his brain definitely works in a different way to other people (no ND diagnosis or anything but maybe there would be something if he was ever assessed).

I’d tell him I’d speak to him when he decided not to be so deliberately and archly obtuse. It sounds really tiresome op.

I nearly lost my life earlier this year, due to incompetence by a number of nursing sisters and doctors who didn't understand what a scarlet sticker with 'SEPSIS' written across it meant.

But to be fair, @Whelm , that is not because of a typo or acronym - SEPSIS is not short for anything? Sorry this happened to you, sounds horrendous.

The problem with witk is that there are so many new acronyms these days, and text speak, that when I read it, I automatically thought 'acronym, what am I missing'.

But in the sentence "do you want the special with fries", there wouldn't be anything you'd say that would need an acronym surely? Do you want the special WITHtheTHICKhummus fries? I mean I guess it's a possibility but the most "obvious" reading of special fries would be and / without / with /containing / including / excluding etc

It could be special wicked fries. There's all kinds of weird acronyms these days.