He won't understand typos or initialisms or acronyms

[WhatsInATypo]

SOMEWHAT LIGHTHEARTED.

DP is like that all the time and it drives me up the wall.

Example 1: I was about to get us a takeaway and sent the message 'do you want the set that comes witk fries?' and he sent back '?' followed by 'what's witk?'.

Example 2: We were talking about how people were all scrambling to get tickets for the Taylor Swift concert. Somewhere along the way I sent 'think TS tickets can only be bought if you've got some special code though' and got a 'TS?' in return.

Example 3: I told him I was going to the store to get a cake to celebrate something. Got there and texted 'Tiramisu or Black Forest' and he sent 'for the cake?'.

I get wanting 100% clarity but he's a smart man surely some common sense and inference will do sometimes? I DO NOT do vague references and expect him to read my mind btw. All my complaints are when the above 3 examples happen. AIBU?

😂😂

HRTFT but WTF is WITK?

Genuinely 😐

I wouldn’t have a clue what TS tickets were if someone said that to me.

OP: ‘do you want the set that comes witk fries?'
DH: 'what's witk?'
OP: Doesn’t respond, doesn’t buy fries.

OP arrives home…
DH: ‘why didn’t you get me fries?’
OP: ‘I didn’t understand your response, but assumed you didn’t want any.

I think he might start understanding quite swiftly.

You surely would if you'd had 10 previous messages about Taylor swift though!

Surely that depends whether it is in the context of an ongoing discussion about TS tickets?

Could you just ignore his twatty responses as if they don’t even exist?
Eg

… do you want it witk fries?
wtk?
I’ll get fries

Tiramisu or Black Forest?
For the cake?
I got tiramisu

And maybe he’ll get bored of his own joke.

OP accidentally spelt the word WITH With a K instead so it read WITK

I have autism and adhd.

I don't always get abbreviations even in context. I'd think TS was a specific type of ticket for example (I've done similar before).

Doh!

Thank you.

My DH is dyslexic and uses text talk quite a a lot - he will speak into his phone and it converts it to a WhatsApp message. This morning he messaged to say he'd tidied the city roof, was meant to be sitting room but his phone got confused. That took me a few mins to work out

Maybe you should write “Taylor Swift (hereinafter known as TS)” and that might appease your DH’s delicate sensibilities?

Alternatively you could just do a 🙄 emoji every time he pulls this type of shit.

Is he a lawyer? I know a few who do this.

The 3rd example sounds like him being awkward for the sake of it but I'm with him for the first example.

I didn't realise that it was a misspelling of "with" until another poster pointed it out.

In the context of the title of the thread, I thought it was text speak and had no idea what it meant.

So there are 2 possibilities

1. DH is being deliberately obtuse
2. He genuinely doesn't understand what you mean.

Communication is about things being clear to the recipient. if DH genuinely doesn't understand, then you need to frame your messages in different ways.

I once had a text conversation with a friend who was looking to get planning permisison for an extension but it was ok as "there is a president down the road".

I immediately launched into "what sort of president are they?" "why will this help?" followed by a side rant about corruption in town planning.

It was only then that I realised my friend meant "precedent".

My Teams calls at work are peppered with people asking in the chat what acronyms (common in our industry or already explained as part of the call) mean. Yes, it's annoying, but it's not always obvoius.

😂😂😂😂 Love it!

Same. I also didn't realise witk was just a typo

This is just yet another MN thread making ND people feel like shit

Oh come on

You think he doesn't know Tiramisu and Black Forest are cakes? 🙄

Depends what spirit he's doing it in. If he's being a dick, he's being a dick, it it sounds like he probably is, but you can only be sure by talking to him. My son would genuinely not be able to figure some of these out but he'd ask, we'd tell him, we might laugh about it, no one would get wound up.

NAT is new to me and much harder to work out than "Witk fries".

My sister is like this - she thinks it is clever to be pedantic and it shows her innate superiority to people who do not communicate the way she does. I think it is how she 'proves' to herself that she is as intelligent/more intelligent than her siblings. She still, in her 70s, will talk about how her A levels or degree make her smarter than the rest of us. It is quite sad, but also bloody annoying and stupid.

I might have questioned the typo as you might have meant without but the others are perfectly obvious and clear.

The number of people on here though that couldn't figure out even in context what 'witk' was. The mind boggles.

Not trying to decipher an obvious typo is just lazy.

OTOH if you're going to use an a abbreviation which isn't in common usage, even if it should be obvious from the context you describe, you could follow the example of papers and technical docs and define it the first time you use it.
(At this point I feel I should add www.mumsnet.com/i/acronyms to forestall any smartarse complaining about OTOH)

That is the problem. People's minds work in different ways.

You think he doesn't know Tiramisu and Black Forest are cakes?

Tiramisu isn't exactly a cake...
But from the context, obviously a choice of desserts not 'Italian pud or a mini break in Germany"