He won't understand typos or initialisms or acronyms

[WhatsInATypo]

SOMEWHAT LIGHTHEARTED.

DP is like that all the time and it drives me up the wall.

Example 1: I was about to get us a takeaway and sent the message 'do you want the set that comes witk fries?' and he sent back '?' followed by 'what's witk?'.

Example 2: We were talking about how people were all scrambling to get tickets for the Taylor Swift concert. Somewhere along the way I sent 'think TS tickets can only be bought if you've got some special code though' and got a 'TS?' in return.

Example 3: I told him I was going to the store to get a cake to celebrate something. Got there and texted 'Tiramisu or Black Forest' and he sent 'for the cake?'.

I get wanting 100% clarity but he's a smart man surely some common sense and inference will do sometimes? I DO NOT do vague references and expect him to read my mind btw. All my complaints are when the above 3 examples happen. AIBU?

What do NAT and NAT friendly mean please?

@Ormally Someone's asked me for a notebook before, during a power cut (in the day when most of us had PC computers). As there was a power cut, my thinking meant I produced a paper notebook. They looked at me as if I was an alien.

When DS was about 3 (so around 10 years ago) I had to take him to the chemist to get some otc medicine. I said you might have to have a tablet , thinking he would make a fuss. He seemed quite happy about it. When I came out of boots, he said "did you get me an ipad?" (I never even twigged there were 2 sorts of tablet, especially as we didn't have an ipad or any electronic tablet at home)

Phone calls are far less convenient than sending a text, especially for ongoing casual chats throughout the day or important memos (e.g. what to get for dinner) or when you’re somewhere with a lot of background noise — it has nothing to do with ‘anxiety’.

Besides, in the case of example 3, I’d get the same answer over the phone anyway so not sure that’s an improvement.

Have RTFT?
or Haven't RTFT?

Abbreviate with care people!

Though tbh in context it's clear that it's the latter. To which there is only one reply.

RTFT then!

(I see that someone has already responded more helpfully, but I thought the ambiguous abbreviation was funny)

I agree with this. I originally read your fries one and thought is witk. Maybe your DH is sick and tired of you and your lazy spelling/ writing.

That made me laugh!

Assuming no ND or other issues, I think it’s incredibly lazy when people don’t bother to take the time to make basic inferences or think about what’s being said in the context of the conversation. A little thinking goes a long way.

What did you think ‘witk’ meant?

😂
Ok, so other people are being lazy because they aren't making the effort to figure out what your poorly and lazily written messages mean. Interesting way to look at it.

I skim read your title, assumed you would be refering to an acornym and then saw witf. Obviously I figured it out, but it's an odd thing to put the burden on others to understand your ineffective communication style. As I said, I expect yout DH could figure it out, he is just sick and tired of having to.

My title explicitly mentions ‘typos’. Perhaps you should be looking at your poor reading comprehension skills?

And besides, it’s a bit rich complaining about typos when your previous post had some of them too.

I could’ve pointed out ‘and thought is witk’ and questioned it but I made a reasonable inference as to what you meant and replied as per normal. Astonishing hypocrisy.

Well, as it happens I don't really consider mumsnet something I need to give me full attention and bust out my very best comprehension skills for. Or typing skills for that matter. I skim a lot of it and, as I said, I obviously figured it out. Same with my typing. It was just an explanation for why someone who perhaps is distracted, or not given it 100% of his attention might not "get" it straight away.

You seem quite rude about the whole thing. You brought it up and asked for opinions on it. I gave my opinion and you decide to lay into me about my comprehension and typing. That's rude. And weird.

Also, I'd like to point out, I am not the one who is struggling to be understood.

OP, my husband's second language is English. I make similar typos to you all the time as I'm often in a hurry and don't proof read (not because I'm illiterate). My husband always understands the typos as he is able to comprehend the context of the message, even though his mother tongue isn't English! I agree... a little bit of thinking goes a long way

my not me.

Thought I would correct myself before you do 😁

Surely the point here is that OP’s DH is being deliberately arsey when he doesn’t understand?

So, I’m the “witk” typo example, a nice person would look at it, think “not sure what witk means but she’s ordering food and mentions fries so chances are she wants to know if I’d like some”.

They then respond- “If that means do I want chips then yes please!”. Otherwise the onus is all on the OP to go back and clarify when she’s already right in the middle of ordering the food.

same with the cake one- you could answer “Black forest- guessing you mean the cake not a holiday ha ha”. And on the off chance when’s in a travel agent not Tesco you’ve covered yourself against an accidental holiday to Germany.

I think in the context of a post about aconyms and initialisms, it makes absolute sense to not see WITK as a typo, but as a puzzle to be solved. Especially as the sentence scans perfectly where WITK means With Infinite Tomato Ketchup, or something.

Love this!!

To quote the title of my thread:

‘He won't understand typos or initialisms or acronyms’

YANBU. My mother is like this. Drives me batty

I think these examples must be particularly annoying because 2/3 of them are when you're actually doing something for him, or from which he'll also benefit.

I'm afraid I'd also be taking the approach of e.g. not getting the chips and then saying "oh sorry I thought you didn't want any as you didn't say yes when I asked?" or choosing the cake myself/being sarcastic about it.

NO humouring him, I bet he wouldn't pull this on his boss.

I know people sometimes have trouble reading typos/errors, my best friend is dyslexic though and the AMOUNT of times people question her or correct her on things they understood perfectly well the first time, presumably just to score points, is incredible. If she makes an error that I don't immediately understand I try to think about the context - I only have to ask her what she meant about 4 times a year. She says some people do it every day. Exhausting!

Maybe but that would mean he has intention to be obtuse. This is possible. It's also possible that he is extremely literal and requires a high degree of clarification to feel confident in his response. ASD, dyslexia and just character types can be like this with absolutely no intention of be obtuse or superior

Why did he stop when he heard his uncle had done it too?

Was it that the uncle was someone he didn't want to reassemble in any way?

Did you ever talk about the immediate stopping? What did he say.

Deliferate mistale 😁

I think for OP's husband it sounds like (like some people on this thread) he expects complete effort at all times from you, while only bothering to use their focus selectively when he feels it's important i.e. not while communicating with OP.

Example 1: I was about to get us a takeaway and sent the message 'do you want the set that comes witk fries?' and he sent back '?' followed by 'what's witk?'.

YABU because I have no idea what this means and I would be lost too

What does YABU mean?
You would be lost? Are you going somewhere? Have you tried getting Google maps on your phone?

Yeah, but a) your husband hadn't read the title of the thread and b) not everyone reads every word of everything.