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AIBU?

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He won't understand typos or initialisms or acronyms

241 replies

WhatsInATypo · 09/07/2023 11:05

SOMEWHAT LIGHTHEARTED.

DP is like that all the time and it drives me up the wall.

Example 1: I was about to get us a takeaway and sent the message 'do you want the set that comes witk fries?' and he sent back '?' followed by 'what's witk?'.

Example 2: We were talking about how people were all scrambling to get tickets for the Taylor Swift concert. Somewhere along the way I sent 'think TS tickets can only be bought if you've got some special code though' and got a 'TS?' in return.

Example 3: I told him I was going to the store to get a cake to celebrate something. Got there and texted 'Tiramisu or Black Forest' and he sent 'for the cake?'.

I get wanting 100% clarity but he's a smart man surely some common sense and inference will do sometimes? I DO NOT do vague references and expect him to read my mind btw. All my complaints are when the above 3 examples happen. AIBU?

OP posts:
WonderfulUsername · 09/07/2023 11:49

He's being a total dick, just like a couple of posters on this thread.

This is all about him and his dislike of shorthand. It clearly irritates him and he's trying to turn his problem into your problem.

Do not entertain it. Ignore his childish replies until he actually answers your question.

BiscuitsandPuffin · 09/07/2023 11:50

NeitherPoshNorRich · 09/07/2023 11:43

Maybe it's not actually obvious to some people? 🤔

It makes me think of those posts on Facebook that are spelled all wrong:
"If yuo can read tihs..." etc. They always say you're in the minority being able to understand it. Perhaps all of us who can understand really are unusual! Although I always assumed most people could read them.

You're never in the minority if yuo cna reda tihs. They say that to give you a false sense of superiority in the hope it will make you share it.

SquirrelFan · 09/07/2023 11:50

Another here who doesn't get NAT... Does it mean Neuro Atypical? @dudsville @Createausername1970 @MistyGreenAndBlue

WonderfulUsername · 09/07/2023 11:51

Hesma · 09/07/2023 11:23

I haven’t a clue what witk means????
stop being lazy and just use proper English

If your reading and comprehension skills are this poor, you should stick to telephone calls only.

BiscuitsandPuffin · 09/07/2023 11:52

It strikes me that your DH is doing it to try and make a point and "pick you up on" things. He sounds like a gigantic pedantic twat. There have been a couple on this thread as well. Everyone knows what those things mean in context. Everyone. I mean dear god "tiramisu or black forest" "the cake?" reminds me of the Victoria Wood sketch where she goes "Tea?" "The hot drink?" It's too stupid to be anything other than intentional.

watcherintherye · 09/07/2023 11:53

I know just what you mean. I get very irritated sometimes when dh seems to be slow on the uptake with something I think is as clear as day. I’m afraid the cake one would get a ‘Yes, the cake! What the hell else would it be???’ response from me. At least in my head!

BellaJuno · 09/07/2023 11:54

BiscuitsandPuffin · 09/07/2023 11:52

It strikes me that your DH is doing it to try and make a point and "pick you up on" things. He sounds like a gigantic pedantic twat. There have been a couple on this thread as well. Everyone knows what those things mean in context. Everyone. I mean dear god "tiramisu or black forest" "the cake?" reminds me of the Victoria Wood sketch where she goes "Tea?" "The hot drink?" It's too stupid to be anything other than intentional.

I agree with this, he sounds deeply irritating. The TS one I could accept he might not get if you’d not been discussing it before but the others are way more obvious.

WonderfulUsername · 09/07/2023 11:55

I wouldn't have replied to the 'cake' reply to be honest.

I'd have just made the decision myself and if he didn't like it, that's his own fault.

EightChalk · 09/07/2023 11:56

It's like the people on here who jump on a typo in the opening post - or, heaven forbid, the OP mixing up the fake names they've used once - and post on and on for pages about how it's so confusing and they can't possibly understand and Confused Confused Confused

It's like some kind of strange competitive showing off of inability to interpret context.

LittleMonks11 · 09/07/2023 11:56

Not the text blindness but I get a lot this kind of thing:

Watching a tv show or something with a particular star, discussing the particular star. I say 'Isn't he looking good for his age'. He says 'who?'

Drives me bonkers! Who do you think?! Mother Teresa?!

Hercisback · 09/07/2023 11:57

Tell him to stop being a nbo.

anonacfr · 09/07/2023 12:03

I hate to admit it, but it took me a while to get witk.... 😳😂

Scalottia · 09/07/2023 12:04

Frenchthing · 09/07/2023 11:19

These deliberately pedantic men need more sarcasm.

"No, I'm naming our next child fucking Tiramisu or Black fucking Forest, you stupid boring bastard!

You probably don't need to quote the OP.

Scalottia · 09/07/2023 12:07

Hesma · 09/07/2023 11:23

I haven’t a clue what witk means????
stop being lazy and just use proper English

Did you really not know that it was supposed to be 'with?' It's glaringly obvious, well to me anyway.

Davros · 09/07/2023 12:07

This reminds me of an old family story. My SILs were in Disneyland (many years ago) and the parade was on. One says "oh look, there's Mickey & Minnie" and the other says "Mickey & Minnie who?" 😂
Cue first SIL saying "Mickie & Minnie Smith from up the road". We still often say "Mickie & Minnie who?" If someone is being dumb

arethereanyleftatall · 09/07/2023 12:09

'OP, either your partner has a learning difficulty or he’s being a pedantic, passive aggressive twat.'

This. This is your two options. He's one or the other. Pick the one that he is, then decide if that's a deal breaker for you.

OttilieKnackered · 09/07/2023 12:14

Eugh I hate this. Either superiority or rank stupidity/laziness (actual neurodiversity aside).

BathroomOnTheRight · 09/07/2023 12:14

It sounds like he's being a smart arse deliberately. Is he controlling in any ways?

GetOurraMeWay · 09/07/2023 12:21

Fight fire with fire OP!
You: tiramisu or Black Forest gateau?
Him: for the cake?
You: what cake?

ElegantPuma · 09/07/2023 12:25

My XH used to do this. His speciality was refusing to answer a question until it had been rephrased to his satisfaction, even though he knew perfectly well what I was asking. He overheard me discussing thus with his uncle's wife one day, and she revealed that his uncle did exactly the same thing. XH stopped immediately, which just goes to prove that he knew he was being a dick.

Note that he is an XH.

Knockon · 09/07/2023 12:26

GetOurraMeWay · 09/07/2023 12:21

Fight fire with fire OP!
You: tiramisu or Black Forest gateau?
Him: for the cake?
You: what cake?

😂😂😂😂😂

I’ve actually told my husband if a word in a text doesn’t make sense to him to look at the letters surrounding the letter which is glaringly wrong in english eg witk / what english word ends tk, check t or k or neighbour letters then add in the context of the sentence and tada!

ThomasinaLivesHere · 09/07/2023 12:27

It does sound very annoying. I don’t have anyone in my life like that but have people who will start talking about things and using he/she when they haven’t introduced who they’re talking about and who hasn’t been previously talked about. I have to check I’ve understood ok. I wonder if to them I come across like this.

ElegantPuma · 09/07/2023 12:27

Actually, "pedantic, passive aggressive twat" sums XH up perfectly 😂

PerspiringElizabeth · 09/07/2023 12:29

YANBU he’s being an utter twat.

thecatsthecats · 09/07/2023 12:32

I get irrationally annoyed when MNers add another comment to a thread to correct a tiny typo in their post when it's bloody obvious what they meant.

E.g. "I went to Sailsburys to pick up some milk" then two minutes later "Oops, Sainsburys".

Stop wasting room on the internet!