To be a bit concerned about someone about someone calling my daughter this

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We were at a family party and someone that we don’t know very well (but seems was quite friendly and nice) called my daughter a ‘saucepot’. I didn’t think much of it at the time but I googled it later and found out it was a phrase to describe someone being sexy. He’ll be at another event in a couple of weeks..AIBU to find it a bit weird and want to keep more of a distance?

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Seriously

Yes… SERIOUSLY!
Saucepot to me is something I grew up hearing adults, like my mum & dad, calling each other after a few drinks or on the TV when men were discussing a good looking woman they though was hot or they were attracted to!
The child is 2! They are not in the slightest bit ‘saucey’ like that!

I had an ex whose mother was always calling him a dirty slut, I was so shocked at first to hear her calling him that as I thought she was accusing him of sleeping around. Apparently it's an old fashioned term for a messy person like slob!

Hopefully saucepot in this instance is just an old fashioned term to mean cheeky, the kind of thing my nan would probably say as she has called me a saucy minx on occasion when I'd been cheeky.

My father who is now in his 80s used it to refer to cheekiness/backchatting, definitely not sexiness. My sister was very prone to answering back and his rebuke was usually "I don't want any of your sauce Jennifer". He still uses the older meanings of other words that now have different meanings. For example he will say "feeling queer" for unwell. He definitely isn't queer in the more modern sense.

That’s what I thought too - a bit cheeky with plenty of chutzpah!

I think it also means a bit cheeky, a bit of a character, that’s how I’ve understood it and would have interpreted it . Not ‘sexy’

It means cheecky were I come from ! Google isn't always your friend my dear.

No! It doesn’t mean sexy! My lovely old granny used to use the same word to describe someone cheeky and cute. It’s an old fashioned word and might have different meanings for different people, but in this context I’d definitely assume they thought it has the same meaning as my granny.

Literally lolling at the idea of someone going mental and calling the police because someone called their daughter a sauce pot 😂😂😂😂😂😂

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Another vote for it meaning cheeky / sassy!

Mmmm.. they either misheard 'saucepot' or 'sospot'... or the neighbour did call the kid a tosspot and was then backpedalling like mad..

Tosspot is an insult and definitely not 'cute/cheeky monkey' in the lancashire region!

Regional phrases and particularly in conjunction with accents can be lots of fun.

My home counties housemate was HORRIFIED when the old lady next door apparently called him 'a cock'... then asked him to go to the shop for her.

She didn't. She said 'oi cock...' to get his attention, short for 'cocker' ie, 'mate'... but in broad lancashire from the rather stern sort of woman who can make the term 'lady' a death threat... it didn't sound affectionate or friendly at all!

Barbara windsor in Carry on Camping is a saucepot in my book. I'm not relying on Google I'm relying on the way the word has been used, to my knowledge in the place I grew up, the place DH grew up and where we live now, all hundreds of miles apart

This does not sound creepy or weird, but your reaction is concerning. Is there more to the story? Did they look odd or behave strangely in any other way than to use an unfamiliar term, possibly intended as a compliment ?

Every personal remark can be described as offensive; and really when speaking of a two year old, almost all remarks are personal Almost none are to do with sex. Do you suppose that everyone who says "What a beautiful baby!" Is a pervert?

I don’t think I’ve heard the term ‘saucepot’ but if I heard it without context I think I’d automatically think sexy/tarty as in the 70s/80s sit com busty nurse/secretary bursting out of her tight uniform/blouse flirting with the doctor/boss etc. as that’s what the word saucy does conjur up for me. Along with it sounding like sexpot.

I have heard of the saucy = cheeky definition though of course. I remember a Famous Five book where they were searching for a boat called the Saucy Jane. I’d be surprised if Enid had meant sexy 😂 Plus they found the other boats which were called Cheeky Charlie and Merry Meg so it was definitely meant to mean lively/funny there.

So if I heard a child called this I may be a bit 😳 for a second or two but then remember the alternate meaning. I think it would be quite obvious when saying it was joking about sassiness v a creepy inappropriate comment though

Maybe it’s regional- saucy here definitely means sexy/risqué. My grandma would say ‘it’s a bit saucy’ to mean a bit blue- I.e adult sexy themes.

I would imagine he meant "saucy" - what we would now call "cheeky". I would imagine it's meant to be cute, implying that she's got character. I doubt it's meant to be anything other. I'd laugh it off.

But then, I'd also never leave my child with him.

Not read whole thread so someone may have made this point already, but from what I've seen most people are missing the point that even if it only means 'cheeky', the question you have to ask is 'would he have said this to a boy?'. Whether it's a sexualised term or not, it's still very gendered I think, a bit like 'feisty', which you only every hear applied to girls. It means they're not afraid to stand up for themselves. If a boy behaved like this it wouldn't invite comment as boys are 'supposed' to be confident.

A word can have more than one meaning, who knew?

FGS. Classic example of lost in translation. ‘Saucepot’ was an endearing name given to a cheeky or spirited child where I’m from growing up!!

44 & for me it has never been anything other than a way to describe a hot woman.
Guess we all learn something new every day.
I would still be having a word with the adult in question as their use of the word could clearly, to me, get them into serous bother!!!

Really??? To me it means cheeky - which is fine to say to a toddler. It's sad how everything is dissected these days looking for non-PC undertones.

Never heard it to mean anything other than sexy.

Like another word for sex bomb/bomb shell.

Never heard the cheeky meaning .... ever.

From NI, lived in England for a while.

Whether it's a sexualised term or not, it's still very gendered I think

Yes.
Probably wouldn't have been said to a boy acting the same.

@Blossomtoes I did, that’s why I referred to it being regional.