To be a bit concerned about someone about someone calling my daughter this

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We were at a family party and someone that we don’t know very well (but seems was quite friendly and nice) called my daughter a ‘saucepot’. I didn’t think much of it at the time but I googled it later and found out it was a phrase to describe someone being sexy. He’ll be at another event in a couple of weeks..AIBU to find it a bit weird and want to keep more of a distance?

But you've got it all completely out of context. That's the problem.

I would take saucy to mean feisty - cheeky - mischievous - sassy - really NOT sexy! I know we have to be on guard, but come on!

Just trust your instinct and don’t encourage much contact, make sure you are supervising (don’t hand off to someone else who might not have such good boundaries). That is a completely inappropriate way for any adult to describe any child

Good grief. Didn't know it had any sexual connotation at all. For me, it just means a cheeky child (in a good way). My grandparents used to call me this all the time. All the people who are expressing shock horror and posting red flags - how come you're so quick to know that it means sexy? What on earth have YOU been doing/watching/reading? Or did you just look it up today and jump to conclusions? No wonder so many of our kids have MH problems.

Pretty much any term you can use to describe a mischievous child could be taken in a sexual way in a different context.

No it doesn't. In large tracts of the country, it just means cheeky, mostly used of little kids and not titillating at all. I actually think too many people ARE confusing saucepot and sexpot!

it was said by a person of mixed race about herself. She didn't feel like any words were right to describe her ethnicity so she just grabs & uses words she fancies. No one can say she's wrong to do so.

I think there is another meaning - meaning cheeky, as in a bit naughty and answering back but not in a bad way. I don’t think it’s meant in a sexual way at all. Perhaps it means different things to different generations or regions of the uk.
But - I’d keep an eye definitely.

I think this might have a more local meaning. My nan used to say it (and I'm 100% sure she didn't mean sexy). It used to be cheeky in a cute way (I'm from Kent).

Sometimes when children are this age , they can get a bit over enthusiastic with someone who might have been playful with them , like playing touch or peek a boo It might that but just keep an eye on the situation and if you think things are getting a bit out of hand , I would just say something like " we don't really use that saying in our house what does it mean " or "that's a new word we haven't come across that before"

On a lighter note loved the way you said he was fairly old at mid/late 40's😂

My understanding of the word was cheeky, confident, someone who would talk back to their teacher or boss.

I've never heard it used in a sexual context.

I often call my dog minx....oh no! 😂😂😂

A saucepot can mean different things so context is everything. Essentially it's referring to sauce or cheek. So for a 2 year old it might be similar to saying sassy or cheeky monkey when theyve been forward...for an adult I would say it wasnt sexy as such, more 'naughty' with sexual undertones....so eg if you said Yes please I'd like a bit, a saucepot might reply 'l bet you would!' or 'I'd like a bit with you!'....more banter than sexual, like seaside postcard humour or Carry On movies.
I'd say your friend was meaning the first example

Saucy git as said by del boy

Maybe the person meant to say "cheeky"or something similar, but he called a FEMALE toddler a "saucepot" not knowing that the context would go over your head, and he just assumed you would be familiar with the term? Most of the comments I read showed the term being used correctly:"cheeky",etc

Yeah I agree, I think this is what he meant.

Good grief, lighten up! It means funny and cheeky to people of a certain age. It must be exhausting analysing everything anyone ever says to - or about your daughter.

ALWAYS follow your instincts. Without a doubt.

For goodness sake! Read the thread!

⬆This! For goodness sake stop overthinking, people! 😟

I would say ‘saucepot’ meant cheeky, especially in a young child. I wouldn’t take it as a reference to sexiness.

Apart from the fact that some terms have different meanings in different context, some people don’t even know what terms mean, yet use them anyway. My friend used the term “turd burglar” with NO IDEA what it actually meant! Very awkward. Who knows how often she’d used it before that without actually meaning it in that way at all?….!

if there’s no other reason to think badly of this person, and they’re never going to be with your child when you’re not present, then you’re pretty much overreacting.

I’ve always thought it meant “cheeky” .🤔

As a child growing up in the 70's I was regularly called saucepot or sometimes sospot by family in the North East of England and it was just a term of affection for a small child and meant nothing more. Personally I would assume the same for this man and wouldn't let it colour my attitude to him. However, if OP is worried about other aspects of his behaviour towards the children (and isn't doing this in hindsight having Googled the term) then that's something else altogether.

I’d be contacting them immediately & telling them that their name calling was wildly inappropriate for a child & to stay away from your child at the next event!
Police would be a last resort BUT this inappropriate name calling screams ‘start of child grooming’ to me!!!