Hospital visitors 24/7 for non-native speakers

[mfhtoeh]

My first AIBU but I’m curious as I think this could go both ways.

I’m in hospital on a ladies bay.
Visiting hours are 11am-7pm (minus restricted meal times).
There’s an elderly-ish lady that doesn’t speak English. She currently has 3 of her children with her (8.30pm) and her daughter and son have asked to remain on the ward with her 24/7. They asked for 2 blow up mattresses but were told no, but it was ok to stay in these circumstances.

I understand the language barrier is challenging. It also helps the nurses them being here to care for her.

However they talk alllll day and night. They don’t stop talking. The son uses the ladies only toilet etc. They also have the radio on at times.

Grumpy me just wants some peace and quiet. I want to sleep.

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YABU - the lady needs her family

YANBU - you should be able to have privacy & peace and quiet outside of visiting hours and men using the ladies patient only toilets is unacceptable.
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NB: She’s sick but not dying.

Ward toilets should be for patients only. There will be a visitors toilet nearby. Men should not be staying on a female ward and I would absolutely complain about that. It doesn't sound like she needs anyone staying with her.

OP do you have anyone who can bring you ear defenders or some device with earphones so you can listen to music \ audio books podcasts etc. So you can replace their noise with something tolerable.

I’m currently driving 40 minutes each way to see a relative. The public toilets near reception are out if order. He is in a single en suite room and I wouldn’t have the brass neck to use that. I drive home metaphorically cross legged.

I hear you. Im currently driving 2 hours each way to see my mum in hospital. There is a single unisex toilet on a different floor so theres always a queue to use it 😕 .... but, like you I would never dream of using the ward toilet....or taking the piss on visiting times. But unfortunately not everyone obeys the rules or gives a shit about being considerate to others.

Confession. I’ve got double standards lol

I’m now in a ward with an elderly lady. Her elderly husband is an inpatient on the same ward (mens bay). He comes every lunch time to eat together & they both perk up when together. He then leaves & they nap on their own bays after the exhausting hour together.

You can see their love!

Oh and he only stays for an hour and doesn’t pee in out toilets so bonus points for that.

I don't think that is double standards. Her DH isn't keeping you up at night or annoying you with phone alarms etc. It sounds sweet that they can perk each other up.

As I said up thread when I was in the pre labour ward one lady was allowed her friend over night even though all others had to leave unless labour was imminent. But that was fine because she needed her friend. I wanted DH but didn't need him. We can all see that exceptions to the rules can be made and as long as people are still respectful of other there is no issue.

Glad to hear you’ve made it onto a ward.
Get well soon 💐