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To think my parents are batshit

207 replies

IHateLegDay · 08/07/2023 12:59

My parents don't own drinking glasses and never have.
Every single drink from tea/coffee to water or wine is served in a mug.
When I was growing up it seemed normal but when I moved out at 17 (I'm in my 30s now) I realised how odd it was.
I've now gone the other way and own far too many glasses for every occasion.

AIBU to think that my parents must be psychopaths?? 😂😂

Does anyone else's parents/family have odd quirks like this?

OP posts:
bonzaitree · 08/07/2023 17:20

HarridanHarvestingHeldaBeans · 08/07/2023 15:17

I'm like your mum. I don't like water. I do drink cold drinks too, but I find tea quite cooling in hot weather. I don't have any pictures on my walls because I don't want to. Art doesn't interest me, and I know what my children look like. Precious family pictures are kept in albums to prevent fading.

Mum? 🤣😂

pinklama · 08/07/2023 17:20

When I was going A levels I took part in a 2 day hiking challenge. I was going to get a water bottle - no my mother said, we have loads. What did she (eventually) produce - a 'thoroughly washed' Timotei shampoo bottle. Yep - water tasted like shampoo and was unusable.

IHateLegDay · 08/07/2023 17:25

pinklama · 08/07/2023 17:20

When I was going A levels I took part in a 2 day hiking challenge. I was going to get a water bottle - no my mother said, we have loads. What did she (eventually) produce - a 'thoroughly washed' Timotei shampoo bottle. Yep - water tasted like shampoo and was unusable.

Omg 😂🙈 this is the type of stuff my parents did!!

OP posts:
AcidTest · 08/07/2023 17:31

Allthings · 08/07/2023 15:14

It’s not a generational thing. My Grandparents born around 1910 all had glasses of varying descriptions, as did my parents and as do I (I am likely to be old enough to be a parent of a lot of posters on here). My husband’s family also had glasses. I can’ ever recall being at a friend's house as a child/teen and been given a cold drink out of a mug. So they had glasses as well.

No you misunderstood my post. I don't mean not owning glasses is a generational thing. I mean not drinking water or soft drinks so much seems to be a generational thing. My PIL were brought up on tea. They're from yorkshire, if that makes a difference, and drink a lot of tea! And possibly werent so hot on drinking water for health and hydration as younger people are today with their constant water bottles in school etc. They certainly don't drink soft drinks like soda or squash, but they will buy it in for my children.

JulieHoney · 08/07/2023 18:29

AcidTest · 08/07/2023 17:31

No you misunderstood my post. I don't mean not owning glasses is a generational thing. I mean not drinking water or soft drinks so much seems to be a generational thing. My PIL were brought up on tea. They're from yorkshire, if that makes a difference, and drink a lot of tea! And possibly werent so hot on drinking water for health and hydration as younger people are today with their constant water bottles in school etc. They certainly don't drink soft drinks like soda or squash, but they will buy it in for my children.

You might be right - my parents and in-laws are in their 70s/80s and only drink from small glasses. They would rarely finish a 250ml glass of water, but endless cups of tea.

My young adult children drink water by the pint; juice or pop in 330ml glasses.

I hate hot drinks in glass - I have to remember to ask for a mug in the places that serve lattes the stupid tall glasses.

Coffee needs a good mug, tea needs china (whether a mug or a cup) and alcoholic drinks are nicest in their respective glassware.

Your parents are very, er, eccentric, OP

HollyBookBlue · 08/07/2023 18:35

Why don't they go the full hog, ditch the mugs and drink out of the cereal bowls

Waterfallgirl · 08/07/2023 20:29

RiseYpres · 08/07/2023 14:18

I need to know more about the sandwich baskets. How did she keep them clean? Did she line them with paper napkins? If not, did years of increasingly mouldy crumbs line the bottom like a garnish?

It is reminding me somehow of a woman years back on 'Come Dine With Me' who refused to wash oven trays so she just threw them out each time after use and bought others. For some reason I was thinking about this in the middle of the night this very week when i could not sleep. Just about the sheer waste of it.

@RiseYpres yes lined with kitchen roll (she wouldn’t buy paper napkins - too expensive !) and yes crumbs would inevitably collect in spite of the kitchen roll liner which is one of the reasons found it so grim - I hated it ! She didn’t throw away oven trays though!

PriamFarrl · 09/07/2023 08:05

gemstoneju · 08/07/2023 15:17

Tbh I don't think OP's parents are as weird as women of my mum's generation, who kept a gigantic sideboard of posh cups, saucers and glasses that were never, ever used. I have to downsize her house right now and have no idea what to do with them.

I once heard a story that Queen Victoria was visiting some town and asked if she could have afternoon tea at a local house. A suitable family was found and she took tea in the front parlour. In the parlour was a dresser with a beautiful tea service on it and the Queen commented on it. ‘Oh yes, it’s beautiful isn’t it’ came the reply. ‘We save that for best’.

Nordicrain · 09/07/2023 08:09

Very odd. Drinking water out of a mug makes me feel ill. This I associate it with being a hungover student.

mrlistersgelfbride · 09/07/2023 08:39

I agree that not drinking many cold drinks may be a generational thing, in the north.

I've never seen my mum have a drink of water or squash at home. All she drinks is tea.
They bought a couple of glasses when we were kids and still have these 30 years later 😆 I think she keeps them for DD.
Plus all wine glasses are tiny.

Yoyonono · 09/07/2023 08:56

I don't know if it's a class/ generation thing. My parents are working class, one is teetotal and always pretty much has been, the other used to be a beer drinker but now also teetotal. Growing up we had one glass in the house, a branded beer pint glass. Otherwise drinks were in mugs. I've always hated drinking water out of mugs, so would always drink my water from that pint glass. My brother also hated drinking water out of mugs so when we got back from school we would race to see who would get the glass first (usually me as I'm older).
They have glasses now but still only drink out of mugs. They don't really drink cold drinks though, it's usually tea and coffee, which up until the past few years was always fully caffeinated.

Yoyonono · 09/07/2023 08:57

That said I do think we had a couple of sherry glasses.

WandaWonder · 09/07/2023 09:02

I have known people do this Sure we don't do it but not the craziest thing I have no problems drinking out of mugs

baconcrisp · 09/07/2023 09:21

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Gooniesnecersaydie · 09/07/2023 10:52

I've bought glasses just because I thought I should and for guests.

But I drink everything out of a water bottle or a mug so it's a bit of a waste of cupboard space to be honest.

zingally · 09/07/2023 11:41

Haha! My parents are/were the same! Although wine IS served in proper wine glasses (they are VERY occasional social drinkers - we're talking single-figures drinks a year).

Everything else is served in mugs. Want some squash with your dinner? It'll come in a mug! Drinks for all the diners are made, and then carried through to the table on a scabby old wooden tray that's older than I am!

I only really realised it was unusual when I started eating meals at other peoples houses. I wonder if it harks back to when my sister and I were small and more likely to drop things?

welshmoose · 10/07/2023 13:50

There are two types of people in this world… those who taste drinks differently depending on which mug, glass etc their drink is in and weirdos! Although, I’m pretty sure they will all think it the other way around too!! 😂

If my dad FaceTimes me on a Friday night he frequently asks why I’m drinking wine out of a fishbowl, because although they have wine glasses they’re more like wine thimbles!!

IHateLegDay · 10/07/2023 14:07

I genuinely believe that drinks taste different depending on the vessel but am now wondering if it's all in my head 😂
I'm going to put water in a mug, a glass and a beaker and taste them all to see if there's actually a difference!
For science!!!

OP posts:
Manthide · 10/07/2023 14:22

cocunut · 08/07/2023 13:27

My DM refuses to own tea towels. I genuinely have no idea how any of them dry their hands.

I hate using tea towels and generally don't have any in my kitchen and if I did I wouldn't dry my hands on them! I tell my kids to shake, shake, shake. I airdry my plates etc.

dancinfeet · 10/07/2023 14:25

I partially severed a tendon in my finger washing up a crystal wine glass that broke in the bowl, since then I no longer keep wine glasses in the house, just chunky short whisky type glasses and some
fairly solid tall drinking glasses for juice from ikea.

Manthide · 10/07/2023 14:28

mrlistersgelfbride · 09/07/2023 08:39

I agree that not drinking many cold drinks may be a generational thing, in the north.

I've never seen my mum have a drink of water or squash at home. All she drinks is tea.
They bought a couple of glasses when we were kids and still have these 30 years later 😆 I think she keeps them for DD.
Plus all wine glasses are tiny.

Yes, I'm from the North and when visiting relatives if I ask for a cold drink it is normally put in a children's tumbler or something similar. When I used to visit my nana the few glasses she had were generally dusty from non use.

JulieHoney · 10/07/2023 14:31

IHateLegDay · 10/07/2023 14:07

I genuinely believe that drinks taste different depending on the vessel but am now wondering if it's all in my head 😂
I'm going to put water in a mug, a glass and a beaker and taste them all to see if there's actually a difference!
For science!!!

There have definitely been studies on how foods taste on cutlery made from different materials, so I can perfectly easily believe how we perceive drinks can be influenced by the drinking vessel.

I also remember an article about why caviar spoons are traditionally made from animal horn or mother of pearl - metal spoons made it taste bitter.

https://flavourjournal.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/2044-7248-2-21

The taste of cutlery: how the taste of food is affected by the weight, size, shape, and colour of the cutlery used to eat it - Flavour

Background Recent evidence has shown that changing the plateware can affect the perceived taste and flavour of food, but very little is known about visual and proprioceptive influences of cutlery on the response of consumers to the food sampled from it...

https://flavourjournal.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/2044-7248-2-21

Hibiscrubbed · 10/07/2023 18:18

IHateLegDay · 08/07/2023 13:14

@Butchyrestingface they always give vague answers.
Usually 'oh yeh, I'll get round to getting some one day'.

It's been 33 years.

Why the fuck did they bin the ones you gave them? Weirdos. Ungrateful, wasteful weirdos.

wendyjoy · 10/07/2023 18:50

I had some old neighbours who thought it weired drinking tea/ coffee from a mug.. they always used glasses ( they were Indian).
But hey each to their own..

TotheletterofthelawTHELETTER · 10/07/2023 19:04

My parents did this and I never realised it was unusual until I moved out to go to university. They had tiny sherry glasses or mugs. And the sherry glasses only came out for use at New Year. They had a great social life but never drank at home so mugs for everything it was!