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How much is reasonable for an abroad hen?

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Mabmabdwarf · 07/07/2023 21:13

As the title says… How much is reasonable to pay for an abroad hen do?

What amount would you expect to pay for to go abroad on a hen do? Not including spending money?

This isn’t asking if people agree with hen dos abroad but just how much would you expect one to cost you.

In Europe over a weekend.

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Mabmabdwarf · 07/07/2023 22:22

TeaKitten · 07/07/2023 22:14

If you’ve been on 5, what would you say the average cost is?

Last one I went on was before covid and before everything went up so it’s not really comparable.

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lookingforMolly · 07/07/2023 22:25

Mykonos is very expensive now; I last went in 2016 for my 40th stayed in a 1 bed apartment near the beach for a week & it was a lot cheaper then! But I wouldn't be able to to go there now.

I definitely wouldn't pay £1.2k for any holiday unless it was long haul let alone a hen do, it's £850 max for a girls holiday once a year with my best mates or sister and I would expect to go somewhere for 10 days for that price!!
If I go away for a long weekend I expect to pay less.

Mabmabdwarf · 07/07/2023 22:25

Sissynova · 07/07/2023 22:17

Why are you asking other people what is normal then?

Because I want to?

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blueraininlondon · 07/07/2023 22:25

My hen party all in was about 1300, but I only invited my closest friends rather than having 15 plus people!!
Everyone was happy to pay and are in similar financial positions!

hairtodaygonetm · 07/07/2023 22:27

I'd expect around £800-1000 for somewhere decent for a few nights.
And I'd be going.
Unlike the vast majority of MN's - I love my friends and love spending time with them.

lookingforMolly · 07/07/2023 22:27

I think this year foreign travel is much more expensive. I was looking at a long weekend in Palma Majorca with a friend and just couldn't justify the cost of flights and hotel. London would've been cheaper!
But my mum is very ill so I'm not going away.

ActDottie · 07/07/2023 22:28

For a long weekend I wouldn’t want to spend more than £300

Thiswayorthatway · 07/07/2023 22:29

£0

Plunkplink · 07/07/2023 22:32

£500 for 4 nights and flights plus another £500 for meals and boat trips etc

Sissynova · 07/07/2023 22:32

Thiswayorthatway · 07/07/2023 22:29

£0

So edgy.

nirthernmoneky · 07/07/2023 22:32

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WunWun · 07/07/2023 22:33

There is no way I could afford to spend hundreds of pounds on someone hen night. Anything more than a local night out would probably be out of my price range

JustMarriedBecca · 07/07/2023 22:33

I'd expect it to cost around £500+ out of school holiday season and therefore, despite being in the top 5% income bracket, I'd not go.
It's not just the money, it's the time commitment too.

A city break in this country frees up £300 spending immediately. Somewhere like Bath, Edinburgh, York, Cotswolds. Decent spa. Good food. Drinks on tap in the house. That's my ideal hen.

Hen do should be no more than £300 all in if you share rooms in a house including activities.

Mabmabdwarf · 07/07/2023 22:39

JustMarriedBecca · 07/07/2023 22:33

I'd expect it to cost around £500+ out of school holiday season and therefore, despite being in the top 5% income bracket, I'd not go.
It's not just the money, it's the time commitment too.

A city break in this country frees up £300 spending immediately. Somewhere like Bath, Edinburgh, York, Cotswolds. Decent spa. Good food. Drinks on tap in the house. That's my ideal hen.

Hen do should be no more than £300 all in if you share rooms in a house including activities.

I live in one of the city’s you mentioned so that would make for a very boring hen do.

I went on a hen like you mentioned a couple of months ago and found it so boring. Staying in the house constantly drinking was just so dull.

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Hollyppp · 07/07/2023 22:42

all in £1000

WunWun · 07/07/2023 22:44

Mabmabdwarf · 07/07/2023 22:39

I live in one of the city’s you mentioned so that would make for a very boring hen do.

I went on a hen like you mentioned a couple of months ago and found it so boring. Staying in the house constantly drinking was just so dull.

If you were saving £££s why would you have to stay in the house?

Planetegg · 07/07/2023 22:44

I think it mostly depends on location. The popular places such as Ibiza, Mykonos etc will be close to, if not over, £1000 for a long weekend. A less popular Eastern European destination for instance, would likely be nearer £600/£700.

Mabmabdwarf · 07/07/2023 22:46

WunWun · 07/07/2023 22:44

If you were saving £££s why would you have to stay in the house?

That was my thinking but I didn’t arrange it.

The place we stayed was really nice, had a pool etc so it was decided we had to make the most of the place we stayed.

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moneymatr · 07/07/2023 22:57

Ok for 3 nights

flights £200
Accommodation £150
Spending £400

So £750 roughly

GoodChat · 07/07/2023 23:17

Realistically you need to consider the circumstances of the people you want to attend.

KingOfThieves · 07/07/2023 23:22

It entirely depends on your relationship and your budget surely. However much you a comfortable with is the right answer.

For my closest friends I’d spend £500. For a distant cousin I wouldn’t spend more than £100 so that would probably rule it out. Selfishly I would just consider, what it worth it TO ME. Not the bride..🙈

LimeCheesecake · 07/07/2023 23:33

For a long weekend away with friends, I’d assume around £600-700 for a European break. I’d normally assume around £200 for accommodation in the uk for weekends away with friends, then meals, so adding flights plus transport to/from airport etc, that sounds about right.

Add meals and drinks and it would depend on the group - so maybe another couple of hundred, given you want to get out and do stuff, not sit around and drink. If you have a bridesmaid who suddenly decides matching t shirts or fancy dress would be fun, you could be looking at quite a bit more for that too.

realistically you maybe asking for nearly a grand total spend. You know the guests, is that likely to be possible? If they are all childfree and earning decent money it’s probably fine.

Orchidgal · 07/07/2023 23:40

Personally i consider this a contradiction in terms as I do not believe Hen parties abroad are reasonable things.

However. My expectations would be:

Budget long weekend in Spain: £250 ish plus another £200 associated costs (food, drink, luggage, outfit, transport to airport etc). Total cost about £450

Middle of the road weekend somewhere like Spain or Greece: £400 ish including an activity of some sort, plus the £200 associated costs. Total cost around £600

Fancypancy holiday somewhere like Italy with an activity and treats included: upward of £800 all in.

Would I be prepared to go on any of these? No.

ThinWomansBrain · 07/07/2023 23:51

Zilch.
sounds like hell on earth

Grumpy101 · 07/07/2023 23:53

Really depends on the friendship group. I got invited to a hen do that will cost about 2k for 3 days. I didn't go as it's ridiculous but a few are going so hen is happy...