to ask what's rudest/most bizarre wedding behaviour you've known of?

[PinkStarAtNight]

Lighthearted thread, inspired by the mention of wedding politics on another thread...just interested to know if anyone out there has experienced/known of any weddings/wedding related behaviour more bizarre/rude than the one I know of. Wedding guest behaviour, bride/groom behaviour and weddings that were just bizarre in general all welcome...

So, I'll start:
Couple getting married were on a very low budget (so much so that their centrepiece wedding cake was actually just cardboard with icing and decorations over it) but they still wanted a 'nice/fancy' wedding with sit down meal and servers...so they hired a town hall for an 'afternoon tea' luncheon type thing just after the wedding, with only close friends and family invited. They then asked other, less close, friends to 'have the privilege' of serving them at this 'high tea' event, free of charge, as a favour, instead of an invite to the wedding (not even the evening party that came later).
It was actually phrased as 'would you like to have the privilege of serving us at our wedding?' and people who were asked were very much expected to see it as an honour. Apparently it's somewhat of the 'done thing' in their circle.

These friends/servers were given waiter/waitress uniforms to wear. Just another reminder- they were NOT being paid. One of the people asked to do it was a friend of mine. She actually thought she was quite close to the family, had known them years and been round for dinner and things like that, but realised they obviously didn't see her that way when instead of a proper invite to the wedding she was asked to do this.

She said that she accidentally split tea whilst pouring it out for someone at this 'luncheon' (I mean its not like she was a professional server!) and the bride's father snapped at her. Everyone at the table treated her exactly like a professional server, not making wye contact, not even thanking her, barking orders at her etc, even though she had known all of them for years and spent time at their house for gatherings...all the servers were 'thanked' a few weeks after the wedding with a box of basic Cadbury chocolates, the type that cost about £5 from Tesco. These boxes of chocolates were elaborately wrapped up and sent with thank you cards. Once opening the box, my friend realised they were all white...looked at the sell by date and they were years out!! 😂

Now, it wasn't really anything to me because I wasn't close to couple (knew them, had mutual friends but never expected to be invited in any capacity) so didn't affect me at all, but I think the whole thing was completely bizarre and such rude and entitled behaviour towards people who were supposed to be their friends. Apparently being asked to dress up in a waitor outfit and take orders/serve people is an immense honour. I didn't, and still don't, have words 😂

Anyone else got anything to top this?

Mt husband's cousin. The nonsense started long before the wedding.

Immediately, she became The Bride, and any comments about weddings/marriage were obviously directed at her. At Christmas lunch, her fiance's sister commented (in an entirely separate conversation not involving The Bride) that she and her boyfriend would probably just have a quick signing papers marriage on graduation because they wanted to save money for a house. The Bride overheard, and became deeply offended because she felt that she was being judged for wasting money on a wedding and sulked in the garden for the rest of the meal.

The Bride and The Groom are very into local theatre and horror, which is great. Hobbies are fun. But they decided to make their wedding a non-optional fancy dress party. Anyone not wearing a costume would not be admitted. His mother was very uncomfortable wearing a costume, but decided eventually to wear a man's suit and fedora and go as one of the Blues Brothers. Bride threw a massive temper tantrum because the costume didn't MEAN enough to her MIL. She was apparently supposed to use the fancy dress wedding to express her inner self and dress as what she had always dreamed of being. Anything less was "not supporting our vision."

Instead of invitations, we got booklets of instructions on how we were expected to behave on the day. It included a page on how quirky and individualistic the Bride and The Groom are. No actual information there, just a reminder that they're so very quirky.

When we arrived, the venue was decorated like a crime scene where a murder had taken place. Fake blood everywhere, entrails draped over the tables, etc. The Bride spent the evening accosting guests and demanding that they tell her how brave she was for having such an offbeat event and how much better it was than a traditional wedding. If their response wasn't as effusive as she wanted, she'd run back to The Groom, who would come over to berate the guest for hurting his wife. Even if you praised her on command, if she didn't think you really meant it you got a telling off.

She also invited the local paper to the wedding, and disappeared for nearly an hour to interview with them. The interview included complaints about everyone who she felt hadn't supported her vision, from some online wedding forum to The Groom's family (the paper quoted her complaining about MIL's outfit, among other people.) The Groom took advantage of her absence to get absolutely pissed and vomit in mumtiple places. It was not immediately obvious that this had happened because of the way things were decorated, so there was time for the stench to permeate everything before anyone noticed and cleaned it up

In response to the dummy cake confusion, I have seen this done as standard at family weddings (Romany travellers) to create a more magnificent display. I would however add that there was always an enormous real cake with dummy cakes around it for that extra oomph.
Not cheekiest wedding but most disastrous I went to was when the awful comedian made a joke about old people at weddings telling single people that they would be next and then the single people saying the same thing to old people at funerals. A table of 12 elderly ladies got up and left.

My father went to a wedding many years ago when congratulatory telegrams were still a thing and read out by the best man. One was a spoof one supposedly from a woman, something along the lines of, cannot understand your message. See you later for fun and games. Random female name. Dad thought this was hilarious and did the same for every wedding he attended afterwards. It was not funny, caused raised eyebrows, and he couldn’t see what was wrong with doing it. It would be described as bants now

We had one. Top thee layers were decorated polystyrene the bottom layer was fruit cake. The real cake was pre cut and in the kitchen. This is really common now but you would never know to look at the cake. It is so they can serve it much quicker and so the pieces of cake are presented well and evenly sliced which for 200 people is a big ask if also under time pressure

More a funny story but also bizarre bride behaviour.

My cousin married a “lovely” lady in 2018 (now divorced) and paid a reasonable amount for their wedding that neither of them actually truly wanted, but his bride really wanted her big white dress moment.

Now, my cousin had burnt his bridges with a lot of his friends and was asking almost anyone and everyone to be apart of his wedding party. One of the brides cousins decided to step in and be a groomsman.

I had just turned 18 around the time they got married and ended up chatting to the groomsman (brides cousin) at the bar and he would’ve been in his late 20s. Nothing flirty was happening but he asked if I wanted to go for a smoke and I did, so, off we went together. Now, neither my parents knew I smoked, so we decided to go around the back of the hotel so I wouldn’t get caught as my mother was a smoker. Her family caught wind of us leaving together and presumed we were off to sleep together!

The brides family told mine and said to my father (in his 50s) they think we are going to shag… well he was both horrified and mortified!

Next thing you know there’s a search and rescue party out looking for us both. Both of our phones were at our tables, unknowingly blowing up, with people calling trying to find out where we were.

So, we ended up walking back in together after our smoke, and the bride attacked me! Calling me all sorts of names from whore to bitch, while her family bought the groomsman a pint. She ended up asking me to leave the wedding party, so I did, along with my family who were still red with anger (as they presumed I had also slept with him and still do to this day).

So I asked, as did other cousins ask, why I was kicked out for going for a smoke with the groomsman (still no one believing we didn’t have sex and he didn’t care to explain we didn’t either) and it was because “our family is bad news”………

While….. she had just married into our family……

The groomsman was a dick and didn’t refute to anyone saying we slept together. He sent me a message on FB a few days later saying “hope I didn’t get you into too much trouble 😉” and I shared this with the bride and my family, again, explaining we went for a smoke not a shag but it got me nowhere.

I was at a wedding evening 'do' where the mother of the bride started acting like a rampant dog on heat going after men at least half her age in front of everybody including their partners, the bride and groom, all her family and her husband who looked mortified. Apparently she was very gropey and making it extremely clear that she was 'available'. She had no takers but nobody stepped in to stop her so she carried on as the dance floor emptied. It was really awkward and cringey and I felt for my friend, the bride.

You are probably right OP, it was bazaar behaviour, but your post sounds sneery and unkind to a couple who clearly were struggling with money and wanted to have a nice wedding so tried to make it unique but didn't have good social skills to realise how they came across. I'd say that was sad. They were disadvantaged, but as you say you hardly knew them and it didn't affect you so you've started a Jeremy-Kyle type thread to take the piss.

Not a good look.

Oh my, I worked with a bride to be and had the pleasure of listening to the wedding updates for the many months leading up to it. The most memorable moment...

After the wedding, telling me and others (all guests who had gifted) that they were very excited to have made a PROFIT ON THEIR WEDDING from all the cash gifts (that they had requested).

This was on top of months of telling us that they were going to keep a spreadsheet of who gave them what, how much everything was costing, ditching a young bridesmaid because there would be an odd number of groomsman and bridesmaids for photos, asking me (I was not a bridesmaid) to organise the hens because she wasn't happy with the work of the bridesmaids, her mum crying at the hens because she didn't like who her daughter was marrying, and more...

My husband's aunt made our cake. It was £170 for ingredients only. This was 5 years ago. It would be double that now!

There was a thread on here about a similar wedding to the one upthread, with someone being invited to the service and then the evening do. It was in a country house so effectively the lower tier of guests were chucked out while the top level folks enjoyed the wedding meal. The others had several hours to kill! Some people suggested they explored the nearest town (oh yes, go round Primark and sit in Costa in your wedding finery), but I suggested just staring in the windows like Dickensian orphans.

One of my colleagues is getting married in October - the invitations instruct all guests to wear blue so that the photographs "look coordinated" 🙄

I worked in a nice hotel years ago. One quiet Sunday morning we had people turning up saying they were 'here for the wedding.' Function manager starts panicking as there's nothing in the book. It transpired the B&G had put '1130-1230 drinks at the Grand Hotel' on their invites. Meaning guests buy their own drinks in our bar for an hour while B&G get photos done then met them at the actual venue. Issue was our bar didn't open until 12. We could have let them use the residents bar which was open but our manager was a cow. She made them wait outside (of course it was raining) for 30 minutes until the public bar opened.

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I'm lolling at the magician who couldb't do any tricks

When rationing was in place yes!

I think the bride choosing very expensive bridesmaid dresses then asking us to pay for most of them (when we didn't even get a say in it) was very cheeky. I wish I'd said no but I was only very young and not very assertive!

A full on fight broke out at the evening reception of one I went to. It was at a nice venue and the couple were lovely but one of the tables got very drunk and were throwing things at another. Someone took exception and a full on brawl ensued where the police ended up being called. The bride had blood smeared on her shoulder after trying to break things up. Never seen anything like it!

we we’re invited to my husbands, brother’s old school friend’s wedding, which was weird enough in itself as we had never met them. My husbands parents were invited too and it was clear enough when we got to the church we were making up the numbers. It was December and I was 5 months pregnant at the time and I really didn’t want to go but we felt bad so we did. The church service was absolutely miles away from the reception and the bride and groom had an argument after the service so we waited hours for them to surface after the ceremony in the hotel bar. When they arrived we assumed we were being told that it was time to go in for the food and speeches etc but the hotel employee announced ‘The delorean is here’ could you please form a queue outside. I had no bloody idea what a deloran was but imagine my dismay when I realised that they had hired that car from back to the future and we all had to queue outside (5 months pregnant in December) to have a look at the car. We waited for 20 minutes, both stared in silence at it and then said, “right, lovely, see you inside”.

Nothing major, but when I was younger was invited to a close friends wedding as a bridesmaid. Was invited to a bridesmaid dress fitting/choosing thing. All going great, bride wanted handmade and hand tailored dresses so we all had fittings done, chose the fabric from a selection of silks etc she had picked out. Then when the dressmaker said what the cost would be, bride looked at us all and said, "so you'll need to send me that soon so I can pay". We were all like, wait, what? You want US to pay for this? She hadn't said anything, and being UK (and having been to many weddings before), not one of us were used to the American thing of getting bridesmaids to pay for their own stuff. I couldn't afford it.

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I don't drink and several years ago I was single and having terrible luck with men. At a mutual friend's wedding I was asked to be a bridesmaid, a friend asked me if I was going to be like that girl out of 27 dresses, always the bridesmaid. I put it down to being drunk but it was quite hurtful.
Another friend, drunk again, decided to try and boss me around. She just said to me 'Go and get me a drink.'
I was like, ermm.. no?
Then she decided to do that annoying and childish thing where she'd blame me for everything. With that fake 'Look at what you've done now! That's your fault!"
Yeah, I left that one early

Was it a church family? Because that doesn't scream eccentric to me. If you marry in a church it has to be one you have a connection with- you live in the parish, or attend regularly. Outside the church where pictures were traditionally done is the graveyard. You aim for nice corners, or up against the building, but that is normal.

it's about the marrying not the event, then celebrating the whole thing family style in your family church seems ok to me. As does having a solo.

I find the big performance style weddings stranger.

I had to argue with my mum- she kept trying to bling our wedding up, when what I wanted was a very modest, low key, family style celebration.

I don't think I could go for a bring and share buffet though. Unless I had to.

I think you experienced a very old fashioned English wedding rather than an eccentric one.

Oh whatever love.

One of DHs friends planned to propose at our wedding!! Luckily his other mutual friends who were seated at the same table intervened and told him it was a bad idea. He then had a blazing row with his soon to be fiancé that lasted most of the evening. I remember walking out to my first dance between the two of them yelling in the doorway, luckily I was oblivious to things at the time. We haven’t spoken much since.

It was written in the wedding order of the service home printed A4 sheet folded in the middlein capitals "MORWENNA SINGS SOLO", I kid you not.

Wow, that sounds rather embarrassing. Fair enough it had been a child in the family who had a really lovely voice and they wanted to give them a chance in the limelight, but not so much a mature adult wanting to bust some choons!

"As for you, Mary, you must get on top of your tendency to gossip. It was unkind of you to tell your friends about Jonathan's embarrassing skin condition when he'd asked you not to."

Somebody who clearly doesn't get the concept of irony in the least...