AIBU school uniform

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Am I being unreasonable to refuse to buy new shorts?

The school uniform states plain Black shorts for PE but the teachers have been commenting on my child’s shorts and telling them they are not appropriate.
They are proper ‘sports’ shorts and not that it matters but they are not cheap, they’re good quality, good fit, they don’t fall down etc.
I just don’t see what the problem is and what infuriates me is that they keep telling a 4 year old rather than telling me why there is a problem…after all, it is me who is buying the uniform and not my child.

Also, are we not supposed to be building children up, not making them feel self conscious?

Oh very good. Very very good.

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Post a picture of them and let's see what the fuss is about. I work in a school.

Yes, if you have a tall slim child and size down in rugby type shorts it would still be fine, just more leg below the shorts. It's still the same length inseam. Likewise, these shorts would be too short to wear on their own on any child.

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I see no problem with them. They've asked for plain black shorts and that's what you've put him in. Wait to be approached, or approach them and ask what's wrong with them.

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But they're PLAIN BLACK SPORTS SHORTS

Not grey, lycra too-short cycling shorts.

Shorts shorts shorts

Boys wore shorts like those when I was at primary school 20 years ago 🤷🏻‍♀️ Can’t see the issue!

Regardless, either the school or the teacher are shit. They should not be bringing it up with a 4 year old

School requests

• black
• shorts

OP buys

• grey
• hot pants

FML

Do they cover the bum? They look like pants.

Have you checked they still fit him? At our school the P. E. kit only comes home at the end of term and I realised at sports day just how very small DS's kit now was on him... If your child has grown, those might be very tight/uncomfortable... (and would explain why it's only coming up as an issue now since presumably your child has been wearing these at least all this term..)

Just an observation but why is everyone assuming the child is a boy?

The OP hasn't clarified whether they have a son or a daughter as far as I can see?

So you’ve put your son in grey, tight, very short, girl’s yoga/cycling shorts.

Those are not anywhere near boy’s plain black PE shorts. The reason there are boys shorts and girls shorts generally is that they are made to fit the body anatomically. So it makes no sense that you are putting him in girls shorts on purpose plus it’s against the dress code, they’re not PE shorts at all. If they were girls shorts but loose gym style then you’d be fine, but you didn’t do that.

You're trying to skirt (no pun intended) around the dress code by claiming that they’re black (debatable) and plain. Op, they have to be the loose gym shorts meant for PE. Very simple. Not tight and very short, ridiculous. The fold over band gives them the look of maternity yoga shorts too 😂

She literally posted one several pages ago. Click "view all" from OP.

I think the shorts would be inappropriate either way because they’re very short tight cycling/yoga shorts so not to code for either a boy or a girl. Loose PE gym shorts is what the dress code is.

They are not black and they are girl's shorts.

So what if they're "girl's" shorts? I can't see that op has stated the sex of the child?

@EmeraldFox wouldn’t they say that on the uniform list though? Ours says plain black p.e shorts- there are kids in cycling shorts/football shorts/skorts/sweatshirt material knee lengths baggy shorts/short shorts… so long as they are black it’s fine.

These are standard school PE shorts. And only £3.50

You really need to speak to a teacher about this.
Yes they're shorts
Yes they're plain
Yes they're black.
(But imo they do look very short for school shorts.)

If the school are going to say certain shorts aren't suitable then they should really clarify the type of shorts, e.g plain black football shorts, plain black cycling shorts to the knee, etc etc

They look like girls modesty shorts and nothing like boys sports shorts at all.