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I need your help with sneaky DH

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SniggleSnarf · 06/07/2023 08:57

Took rings off last night left on side of the kitchen sink.
Came down from work and engagement ring has disappeared....mild panic.

Sneaky DH has hidden the ring. I've feigned disinterest but the stakes are high - we now have a game and I have all morning to find it.

All I've been told is it's somewhere in the kitchen. I've had most of the cupboards out and looked in all the glasses etc.

We have young DC so it's nowhere they would be able to find it.

All very petty and I was on the verge of texting for a clue....

I just can't get over his smug face coming and showing me where it was. It will be somewhere obvious I know it.

AIBU to ask for any suggestions? Please help - I need a win today

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INeedAnotherName · 06/07/2023 09:21

Washing machine drawer

Notamum12345577 · 06/07/2023 09:22

Lacucuracha · 06/07/2023 09:13

Why wouldn't you put that in your OP?

Engagement rings don't really hold their value, unless the diamond is the size of a rock.

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I would assume she was joking!

Thisismeyeah · 06/07/2023 09:22

Be careful clearing out stuff as you may accidentally throw it away as well.

GalileoHumpkins · 06/07/2023 09:22

Softoprider · 06/07/2023 09:18

So many women come on here asking for help with genuine problems that are awful to read and this?? Really there was no need. I apologise for calling her a twat but not for the rest

Nee naw, née naw. Hands up everybody, it's the thread police!

Codlingmoths · 06/07/2023 09:22

Softoprider · 06/07/2023 09:18

So many women come on here asking for help with genuine problems that are awful to read and this?? Really there was no need. I apologise for calling her a twat but not for the rest

Since when are we only limited to having REAL PROBLEMS on mumsnet? Making up new mumsnet rules and having a go at posters breaking your imaginary rules is … twattish.

BellaJuno · 06/07/2023 09:22

If it was me, I’d hide it in the rice bag or something similar

tidalway · 06/07/2023 09:22

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crazeekat · 06/07/2023 09:22

i would eat the ring next time and make
him search it out ur next shite if he wants u to keep wearing it. what a controlling dickhead. sorry op the point of him doing this is??........

Rubychews · 06/07/2023 09:22

on the handle of a kitchen utensil in the drawer?

Quiverer · 06/07/2023 09:23

On top of high cupboards or the boiler? Inside something you don't use often (in my kitchen it would be the pressure cooker)? Back of the cutlery drawer? In a bag of flour?

Neekoh · 06/07/2023 09:23

Fuck me there are some stupidly joyless people here. FGS lighten up! It's obvious that this is bit of fun.

alittleadvicepls · 06/07/2023 09:23

OP what about in the soap dish? I always leave my ring in the kitchen when I clean it and DH usually puts it away in the soap dish under the sponges/brushes. If he’s being annoying he’ll put it in the key bowl at the front door.

FallopianTubeTrain · 06/07/2023 09:23

On top of the door frame?

Neekoh · 06/07/2023 09:23

Codlingmoths · 06/07/2023 09:22

Since when are we only limited to having REAL PROBLEMS on mumsnet? Making up new mumsnet rules and having a go at posters breaking your imaginary rules is … twattish.

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Yes quite.

RunningAwayToJoinTheCircus · 06/07/2023 09:23

Take the children and go out somewhere. When he texts to see where you are,tell him you're in a&e because one of the children choked on, then swallowed something and you're waiting on the consultant to see if they need surgery to remove the object or just have to wait for it to pass through their system...

Lachimolala · 06/07/2023 09:23

Sunnydaysarentagiveneveninjuly · 06/07/2023 09:07

My ex used to do similar..
Exh..

Mine too. Also Ex.

Glad I don’t have to navigate the bizarre controlling ‘games’ designed to scare and embarrass me anymore . .

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 06/07/2023 09:24

EezyOozy · 06/07/2023 09:03

What?!

He has hidden your rings for a laugh , despite you not finding this fun, and is being all smug and won’t tell you where they are ?

id be telling him to fuck off , grow up and stop being such a smug cunt…. And /or hiding his phone / keys / something that will stress him out “just for a bit of fun”. 😡

Are you okay hun?

Original poster
SniggleSnarf · 06/07/2023 09:24

Yeah I'm having a lot of fun. Sad really.

Tins have all been checked. Butter dish.

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SpringleDingle · 06/07/2023 09:24

This is stupid, I wouldn't entertain this rubbish.

willWillSmithsmith · 06/07/2023 09:24

Oh well if you’re doing it for fun. Have you checked through bags/jars of pasta or rice? Could it be under the leg of a chair or table? Under a pet bowl?

Notamum12345577 · 06/07/2023 09:24

All these people who don’t understand this is a game they both play!
Its good to have fun in a marriage 👍

RichardsGear · 06/07/2023 09:24

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Jesus Christ.

JustLurkingAway · 06/07/2023 09:25

Wow why's everyone so serious this morningGrin

In between 2 stacked bowls maybe?

Bellaboo01 · 06/07/2023 09:25

SniggleSnarf · 06/07/2023 08:57

Took rings off last night left on side of the kitchen sink.
Came down from work and engagement ring has disappeared....mild panic.

Sneaky DH has hidden the ring. I've feigned disinterest but the stakes are high - we now have a game and I have all morning to find it.

All I've been told is it's somewhere in the kitchen. I've had most of the cupboards out and looked in all the glasses etc.

We have young DC so it's nowhere they would be able to find it.

All very petty and I was on the verge of texting for a clue....

I just can't get over his smug face coming and showing me where it was. It will be somewhere obvious I know it.

AIBU to ask for any suggestions? Please help - I need a win today

This is surely a jokey post.

I would have enough going on than search for something that my H has 'hidden' for me to find especially sorting out getting ready for work/sorting kids etc out.

My H would never do this as sounds so odd but, if he did, i would just carry on my day without the rings (unless this is something that you guys do) which i suppose you just carry on looking!!?

Hiphopopotamus · 06/07/2023 09:25

Whoa - it’s actually really depressing to see where a lot of people on this forum are coming from with their perspectives on things. When you’re in a fun loving relationship these kind of little games can actually just be a bit of fun…they don’t have to be symptoms of a controlling narcissistic man playing mean pranks to be manipulative. They can just be light hearted fun.

OP this is absolutely something my DH and I would do (including me spending way to much time on because of not wanting to admit defeat!) Do you have a tv in the kitchen - is it on top of/behind that?