To not work full time?

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I have two children 16 and 12. Since my oldest turned 7 months I have worked part time. I cleaned in the evening for 8 years and for last 7 1/2 years I've worked in a supermarket 4 mornings a week, 4 - 8. Obviously when kids were younger this worked out well as I was back home for the school run and partner went to work. My youngest started secondary in September, so now childcare costs aren't an issue I've had comments from partner about finding a full time job. My point is I enjoy my job and am good at it so why should I leave this job to potentially start a job I could hate? The job I have doesn't have full time hours. I contribute to the household financially, pay for two weeks of food shopping every month and pretty much pay for all of the kids needs/clothes. One example, just spent £200 on my lad for his prom, partner paid nothing. So I work and do the usual household chores cook, clean, washing etc. Partner is very money obsessed, but I feel I pay my way too. From when they were very young he's always swanned off and done his own thing, leaving me to it. Another issue with working full time is my lad will be starting college in sept and he'll need a lift to the train station which is 6 miles away and collecting, so how am I supposed to do that? Just needed an opinion. Can never reason with partner as he's never wrong.

Absolute shite. You know exactly what your smug and entitled wording suggests, and it’s deliberate to make people feel like crap mothers for going to work. But as long as you feel good about yourself!

You purposely missed out the “that” to make it look like I said “some people want to parent”
I did not.
I’ll keep it polite and repeat that it’s a disingenuous tactic.

That’s how you have taken it.
It’s not how I wrote it.

Look back at the many posts before it saying PP have had to put their kids in child care so why shouldn’t OP.

My reply was that some people don’t want to. With the emphasis on some. because no one should be forced to; it should be a choice.

I quoted you exactly @GrinAndVomit and explained how it made me feel especially with the emphasis.

Blatant lie

I’m sorry but based on your writing and level of debate, I believe you to be more than intelligent enough to know exactly how that would make people feel. And it isn’t nice.

You’ve spent the last day telling OP her contribution to her household for the last 16 was worth nothing and you’re lecturing me on how I make people feel with things I haven’t actually written?
Please

@GrinAndVomit that screenshot isn't my post.

It is the lie I was referring to which you are all pretending is what I wrote.

@GrinAndVomit a literally copied and pasted your post. I didn't lie.

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Can you quote my post where I said it’s worth nothing please? I don’t believe anyone on here has actually said that today.

The screenshot was to show the lie. Not that you told but that you are supporting

Can someone please explain to me how I've lied?

I haven't lied. I went back and found your post and quoted it. And now I've gone back and screenshot the post I was responding to.

How have I lied? In what way?

@speluncean - it seems obvious to me that missing out a word is misquoting and creates a different meaning. I think you need to re-read what you have copied and pasted, as you are being quite aggressive towards @GrinAndVomit on the back of a misquote.

I didn't miss out any words. I literally went back and copied and pasted and shared a screenshot.

I am not a liar.

I also didn't say I supported anyone else - I literally said how it made me feel

This is a screenshot of my post.

@speluncean - there is a difference between saying “some people want that to be a parent,” and, “some people want to be a parent.” The former is simply saying some people want the childcare to be done by the child’s parent and the latter is saying that those who use paid childcare are not being proper parents.

Yes and I quoted the op where she said some people want that to be a parent and explained why I found that offensive.

I didn't miss any words out.

I'm really upset. Why are people telling me I missed out any words? I've got screenshots that show that I didn't and that I explained how it made me feel - me myself not anyone else.

Why am I being accused of lying?

I have told you, repeatedly, I am not accusing you of lying.
I am accusing you of supporting and, consequently, perpetuating a lie.
I showed you the lie.
You have continued to argue that that is what I meant, even though I have proven that I didn’t write that and explained in depth both the context and the reasoning for my use of the, apparently highly offensive word, “some” yet you continue to pretend to not understand what I am saying.

It was @Sissynova who missed out the "that", not @speluncean

Thank you @EmmaGrundyForPM I'm sitting here in tears trying to understand what I missed out. And why other people are seeing missing words when I've got screenshots