I've been unfaithful and I don't know how tell DH

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I know I'm going to be absolutely annihilated for this but please believe me when I say I already feel terrible.

I was at a friends hen party this weekend at a holiday cottage with a group of about 20, on the Friday night a stripper had been hired and it was way more intimate than I was prepared for, he did a bit with whipped cream and a few of us licked off. I would never usually but I was really quite tipsy, there was a bit of crowd pressure and the whole thing was really quite arousing, I know these are lame excuses. I crossed a line and did stuff for way longer than I should.

I know I need to tell DH but I have no idea how to even go about bringing this up, he'll be crushed and I'm so disappointed in myself.

Can people not give OP advice without attacking her. She has done something daft when drunk and is here for advice not to be condemned. Can always tell the ones that would be holding the stones on here.

I would say that you have been watching too many episodes of Sex and the City, except that you are too young to know what that is.

Yes, this has been good entertainment on a Monday morning.

Fucking hell if a man visits a strip club on here everyone screams LTB but a woman giving a guy a bit of head? Not cheating at all! Forget about it, no need to tell anyone, it was harmless!

I remember a friend doing this, I was genuinely shocked that she'd suck some randoms dick. He lifted the cover to reveal her very vigorous efforts! That night was an eye opener for me.

Now is the time to keep your mouth firmly shut OP!

We can hold stones if we're not sitting in glass houses

What the hell is going on with these answers? “Don’t tell him” “It was nothing” “a bit of fun keep it to yourself”. You gave the stripper a blow job, that’s cheating regardless of his profession or reason for being there.

If your husband went down on another woman, a stripper or even a sex worker but didn’t make her cum would you consider that cheating? Or is it double standards?

Jfc.

By telling him you are assuaging your own guilt.

To me is a bit deal as would have been my DP engaging with oral sex with a female stripper.

If everything else is fine, I wouldn't want to know. Ignorance can be bliss.

It really is a make or break thing for me. Him oral sex to a female, you oral sex to a male.

I don't never been there , don't know why commenting!

Tbf, she's had a lot of advice, she's just ignoring it if it includes actually coming clean and telling her husband what she's done

You can also happily throw them, panting at the bit

Now all these other posters are suddenly forthcoming with - it must be true - I know someone it happened to. 🫤

It is bad but i don’t think I’d tell him. If a man went on a stag do and did stuff none of the other blokes would grass him up and it’s unlikely he would tell his wife. Keep it to yourself.

Exactly, but that's being ignored by the tedious 'MN has double standards' posters who have very selective reading ability!

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If only the OP had done that before she disappeared under the flag, the filthy hussy!**

God, the response would be so different if it was a man posting

Now is the time to keep your mouth firmly shut OP!

Op has a poor track record on doing that

hey Dave, i sucked off Gustav at the hen do whilst my friends listened, we're cool tho eh?

I know I need to tell DH I just genuinely don't know how

Would you be ok if your DH did similar to a woman stripper?

This 100%

Use this moment to change your ways for sure but telling the old man? NO.

You've beaten yourself up for it. Learn from it. Move on. Put it in the past. The chances of this coming up is very low. If it does, make a joke about it and then leave it. If this is the only issue in your marriage, Schtum.

For all those telling OP to say nothing would you be saying the same if she posted that her DH gave oral sex to a female stripper on a stag night? I think not, it would be totally different. OP you actually don't sound embarrassed at all you sound very proud. I would tell him because someone else definitely will.

I smell a rat. 🐀

I agree she should tell her dh, he has the right to know, and the right to decide how to proceed. I think lying by omission is as bad as the act.

Don't tell him! Nothing to be gained form it. Heard of worse things with strippers both male and female.

Fake or not this is exposing the hypocrites.