Ripped passports during argument, how can I get it replaced?

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I ripped up mine and my kids passports during a major argument. I know I was stupid and foolish but I wanted to permanently do something that I couldn't undo once things went back to normal and gain some kind of power. I dont really know how this did it for me but its done now.

How can I get them replaced?

Online information about damaged passports is for minor damage such as torn pages or water damage.

Do I send them off as damaged and write that I ripped them up? Is that a crime?

What's wrong with your life? Why would you come onto a forum designed to help mothers, and rather than offer words of wisdom, or any meaningful advice, you just stick the boot in?

@Grumpusaurus to be honest I think you're worse than OP. At least OP is looking for help, whereas you're just scouring the internet looking for people to kick.

Oh OP. You lie of course! Just say that you had them all together ready to renew, and then you lost the bag they were in. Simply report them lost NOT damaged (for the sake of your ego if nothing else) and apply for new ones.

WOULD he? By who? You? Abusive for ripping up his OWN passport and his children’s passports? In private? Do you know how f*cling pathetic it is that literally EVERYTHING is deemed abusive on MN these days? It’s actually offensive to real victims of abuse.

What OP did was an act of emotion, yes - even a temporary loss of control. But it was minor, nobody was hurt, nobody was traumatised, nothing irreplaceable was damaged.

Grow up. People feel strong emotions somethings and even do stupid things. I bet you have done something stupid or emotional in your life for goodness sake. Not everything is such a bloody drama. Mumsnet is so full of drama llamas making everything into an enormous deal.

Well said 👏

You're so helpful. Fml.

Replacing the passports is actually the simple bit, and only a short-term fix.

The difficult bit (which you haven’t addressed at all so far) is working on yourself and recognising that this is not normal behaviour at all. If you want to leave your husband then leave. But ripping up passports (and other similarly bizarre actions) won’t help at all and definitely doesn’t address your real problems and feelings. How are you going to get long-term help with this?

Guys, she had a major argument and was not thinking rationally at all. It was obviously stupid and now she’s regretting it. People can do the most ridiculous and stupid things in the heat of the moment.

OP, just say you lost all three, they don’t really need the details as to what really happened.

I can’t believe the number of people trying to excuse OP’s behaviour.

I’m not here to stick the boot into OP. But if your husband destroyed your and your children’s passports, would you really say “sometimes people do emotional things / oh dear what made you do that / what’s done is done”

If you would, your expectations around adult behaviour are shockingly low.

We’re you trying to prevent your husband from taking your children away?

I am just here for further glorious drip feed and posters acting like batshit behaviour in women is just totally normal thing

Doesn't make sense, she wouldn't have been able to book a summer holiday with passports expiring in August. I've reported the thread anyway.

She literally said it wasso ahe wouldn't book holidays.

Woman fucks up - ooooh ig must be some movie worthy drama with evil husband causing it😱

Stop giving trolls ideas

Cakesandbabes · Today 07:00
MrsSkylerWhite · Today 06:46

We’re you trying to prevent your husband from taking your children away?
She literally said it wasso ahe wouldn't book holidays.

Woman fucks up - ooooh ig must be some movie worthy drama with evil husband causing it😱

Stop giving trolls ideas”

Well that’s me told 😁

No she’s getting new passports, she was just in a temper and decided to do £100s of damage….

Op you know your situation better. But when I got to the feeling that I was sick of the mind bending arguments and didn't want to forget how much I was hurt and distressed I realised the relationship was over, I started making preparations for divorce, decided i wouldnt be the .usual apologetic, trying to resolve it person in the relationship any more. Getting those proverbial ducks in a row ... when I felt calm again. You know your situation properly, but all the luck.

Exactly this!! Causes £100s of damage (oh yeah some were due to expire, doesn’t make it right), so let’s make an excuse that she was trying to stop a man doing something.

Same here. Some of the responses on here are absurd.

MN at it's finest.

Report as lost and you'll get new ones nbd

You say you ripped them up for control - is your DH threatening to take kids abroad and are you scared?

Because it seems daft to me that you can just rip up a passport & then get a new one!

OP, from your posts it sounds like it's a repeated occurrence that you get to a point of wanting to leave your husband, but he essentially talks you out of it or minimises things and you end up not leaving. So this time you wanted to do something that would remind you of how upset you were so it couldn't be minimised?

Yet you don't seem to have received your own message. You want out of this relationship.

I'd recommend posting to the relationships board.

Just read on. It's all here.

Sort your temper out, utterly unacceptable behaviour.

Sort your rudeness out before you point the finger.

OP

What's done is done; next time you are so angry rip up a magazine/punch a cushion.

Do you hold your emotions in and fume silently then explode?