Ripped passports during argument, how can I get it replaced?

[QwertySmalls]

I ripped up mine and my kids passports during a major argument. I know I was stupid and foolish but I wanted to permanently do something that I couldn't undo once things went back to normal and gain some kind of power. I dont really know how this did it for me but its done now.

How can I get them replaced?

Online information about damaged passports is for minor damage such as torn pages or water damage.

Do I send them off as damaged and write that I ripped them up? Is that a crime?

How strange. If this is even real which I doubt then surely you know you can just order new ones by saying they are lost/damaged.

There has. I'm gobsmacked at the "What did he do to make you so angry" type comments.

Who has said they hope the OP can't get the passports replaced???

I'm hoping this isn't a real thread. This has got to be the most immature thing I've read in my life... I'm lost for words.

And also very glad for the choices I made in a husband. Seems like you get some crazy partners out there.

So 'stress' is an excuse for shitty aggressive behaviour that would normally get a ltb if a male dh/p ripped up the family passports in a rage fit?

Yep, read on and there they are!

A man who’d done this would be called abusive.

Why do you want NEW passports when you've only just ripped up the existing ones?

What are you planning with the new ones - bonfire in the back garden?

There was a thread years ago where a poster's husband used to take the kids' bedroom doors off their hinges whenever he was mad at them.

This is approaching the same level of cray cray.

Kids can drive you to insanity so no judgement here. Can you not just tell them you had them in your jeans pocket, forgot and put them in the washing machine? You don't need to air your dirty laundry (pardon the pun) and you can sort the problem from there.

What a fucked up thing to do.

I would seriously suggest therapy. There’s always a chance the replaced passports get ripped up again the next time you feel the need. There must be something pretty serious going on here for you to have done this.

You’re going to have to pay for your tantrum in cold hard cash. Replacements cost exactly the same as renewals. The passport office don’t do freebies so don’t really care what happened.

Oooh you’re perfect heres a medal 🏅

The “drama” is whatever caused this destructive behaviour in the first place. It needs to be looked it because it’s not ok for the kids or the family. The OP can’t be happy either. Such a destructive, impulsive act with no clear reason behind it is very odd.

You sound like my ex. That was an unhealthy relationship. I'm glad I'm out of it.
Don't get new passports. Spend that money on some serious therapy. Whatever caused that behaviour needs sorting out rather than booking some holiday. Your kids don't need to think this is normal

What a silly patronising post. 🙄

And also very glad for the choices I made in a husband. Seems like you get some crazy partners out there.

I do hope you mean the OP!

But it is bizarre. Not destroying your own and your children’s property isn’t anything to do with being perfect. It’s having some control over yourself and your emotions as an adult. If the OP isn’t able to do this, to the point of destroying things, I really getting think external help is a good idea. If her DH/DP had done this in an temper, the responses would be v different.

Yeah some people go through serious shit like kids dying, homelessness, rape you know real stuff not just ‘has my baby Harrison got an ear infection’ or ‘ I’m so stressed because my bridesmaid annoyed me’

Why do some people insist on childishly calling others 'perfect' and dishing out silly little emoji medals, whenever someone points out batshit or abusive behaviour?

That sort of behaviour should not be normalised/trivialised by pretending the only other alternative is being 'perfect'.

Oh. My. Good. Lord. Embellishing much!!???

I think people have covered the passport office side of things.

I agree that it is worrying behaviour and you may need some medical help. My exh was a bit like this I think - wanting to do something irreparable when angry. Cancel something, break some, throw something away etc. It’s not healthy. He never tore up passports though.

When I’m angry I have a little internal “handbrake” telling me not to do something Ill regret - I kind of resent it at the time, but I’m always glad afterwards!

But I also think you and your DH have some serious problems if you are getting this angry. I would like to know what the argument was about as it’s probably quite relevant to whether you should end the relationship.

I dont mind paying, 3 of them run out in August this year so were basically useless, one of them still had a few years. I have been married for 15 years, this is the first time I've done something like this and no one in the house knows.

I really wanted us to split and I knew that the argument would calm down and he would try to make things normal again and I would cave. I did it because I knew that I couldn't undo it.

Now I regret it of course and I am feeling the stress if how the hell am I going to get them replaced.

@QwertySmalls

I dont mind paying, 3 of them run out in August this year so were basically useless...

That's quite the drip feed there.

Also.....

Now I regret it of course and I am feeling the stress if how the hell am I going to get them replaced.

That doesn't add up. You literally just said 3 of them run out NEXT MONTH. So you should have been in the process of replacing them anyway. You are not making sense now.