Ripped passports during argument, how can I get it replaced?

[QwertySmalls]

I ripped up mine and my kids passports during a major argument. I know I was stupid and foolish but I wanted to permanently do something that I couldn't undo once things went back to normal and gain some kind of power. I dont really know how this did it for me but its done now.

How can I get them replaced?

Online information about damaged passports is for minor damage such as torn pages or water damage.

Do I send them off as damaged and write that I ripped them up? Is that a crime?

@QwertySmalls

I dont mind paying, 3 of them run out in August this year so were basically useless...

That's quite the drip feed there.

Also.....

Now I regret it of course and I am feeling the stress if how the hell am I going to get them replaced.

That doesn't add up. You literally just said 3 of them run out NEXT MONTH. So you should have been in the process of replacing them anyway. You are not making sense now.

As someone else said it might be easier to say they are damaged rather than lost. You coul say a young child did it. I think thats what I would do.

Just replace them as damaged. Don't blame the dog and don't blame the children. It's not a good example to set.

Yes but replacing them I have never done, I have renewed a lot and just looking online it days that they can check whether they looked tampered with if they don't have slight damage.

I even read the .gov notes they provide for the passport office. I just posted because I wanted to know if they would replace passports that were obviously ripped up vs minor damage that I'm guessing they mean by 'damaged'. I also wasn't sure if it was some kind of offence to destroy a passport.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/damaged-and-faulty-passports/damaged-british-passports-accessible#definitions-of-damage-or-fraudulent-tampering

You will probably just have to tell them they were ripped up if they ask how they were damaged.

Agree with this.

OP that's completely mad behaviour. And I say this as someone who can fly off the handle & over-react myself. But this was really quite deliberate - you were upset, so deliberately found & destroyed the passports.

Please get some help (like counselling I mean, something to help you with how you are feeling in your marriage)

Just apply in the normal way online or through the post office and send back the damaged passports - and just say you ripped them up because they were nearly out of date or something ... I don't think they're going to care

I really wanted us to split and I knew that the argument would calm down and he would try to make things normal again and I would cave. I did it because I knew that I couldn't undo it.
I think you should post on the relationships board op, this really doesn't sound like you are happy, it's sounds as if you went / were pushed into 'self destruct" mode. It sounds absolutely miserable. I think you are getting an unnecessarily hard time on here.
You say you really want to split, and there are lots of very helpful posters on the relationship board who can give you advice.

Maybe get some counselling?

Maybe you shouldn't replace them yet. If you ripped them up as a way of making a big statement/ending the relationship then perhaps it would be better to focus on that rather than rushing to replace the passports and put everything back to normal.
Can you speak to someone about your relationship? It doesn't sound healthy.

"they got ripped accidentally".
Doesn't imply it was you,dh,dc, or the dog!

But I can't see how this is empowering. You really need to address this. Very odd behaviour.

I really wanted us to split and I knew that the argument would calm down and he would try to make things normal again and I would cave. I did it because I knew that I couldn't undo it.

So have you ended things yet?

Or are your kids still having to deal with this toxic relationship and mood swings?

it's sounds as if you went / were pushed into 'self destruct" mode.

Well you've certainly made up your mind about who the victim is in the relationship, haven't you?

It doesn't sound as if the OP was 'pushed' into anything given the scant information provided.

You've had plenty of good advice on the practicalities of replacing passports.

I agree with other posters suggesting to post on the relationships board. You've said enough on this thread to make it clear you're not happy and as you no doubt know already, destroying your own property, and that of your children, is a pretty extreme as well as pointless reaction, as the only person you've caused a problem for here is yourself.

There's no judgement here from me. I don't know what's going on in your relationship. And to the many people who are questioning "what if the roles were reversed" I would say, "if the roles were reversed and a man came on here looking for support, I would offer it to him too". Sometimes, it's better to listen without judgement, rather than form an opinion based on a few sentences.

This makes no sense whatsoever and sounds like a toxic relationship.

you need a divorce and a bit of therapy more than you need passports.

Can you wait until August then when they run out and say you destroyed them because you were planning on disposing of them as they were expired but accidentally destroyed the one that was in date also?

Just tell them you were getting rid of some old papers and ripped them up by accident as you thought they were expired ones. Then replace as "damaged",

toxic feminity

Ripped passports are the least of your worries!

You seriously need some help because this is so far from being rational behaviour! Please get some help with your mental health!

Hope it costs you a fortune to replace to teach you a lesson!

Not really helpful is it?

There's clearly more going on here. You're ckearly not the sharpest tool in the box.

I too hope it's time consuming and expensive to replace them, so that you have reason to stop and think if you find yourself wanting to do this again. Deliberately defacing someone else's passport is a terrible thing to do, you need to get help very soon.

No, not intended to be helpful! What Op did was disgusting and completely unhinged.