to think there's a bunch of miserable so and so's on here sometimes

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'Why celebrate your birthday?'
'I'd only go on an all accommodation and food paid wedding abroad on sufferance'

Yes, you might not like it, but other people might??

I've been wondering why people are so goady and rude. And if they are like that in real life.

It's ridiculous

You don't need that apostrophe 😉

Gosh yes. Especially the ones who hate everybody
never chat with anyone at the bus stop or a cafe
never go out anywhere
have no friends and don't want any ( my DH is my best friend)
all this would be fine if they didnt expect everyone to be the same.

about such random stuff too. On a Game of Thrones thread the other day, a poster obviously disagreed with the OP’s interpretation (which is fine) but said

‘you seem to have a lot of trouble grasping nuances. Are you sure GOT is right for you?’ I mean whhhy would you have to be so bloody patronising.

They also hate men, can’t pick up the phone, don’t answer the door either.

Everything anyone does is rude. 🤣

Ah it'd be a dull world if we were all the same!

And if we all agreed there would be no AIBU, so YABU

😁

Oh and no one else can hold your baby or even come to your house to visit until the baby is about 12 weeks old and even then you say ‘I’d feel more comfortable if I’m the only one to hold her, thanks’

Then in a few years complain your in laws don’t have much of a bond towards your children.

Over time you get to recognise usernames across threads. I’ve come to notice that a lot of the posters who post things like that have also posted elsewhere about not having a great many close relationships with others in their lives, or being lonely / socially anxious / overlooked in group situations, and often feeling quite down and sad about it. I guess that it’s easier to deal with your own loneliness or sadness that people in your life wouldn’t bother to show up for you if you convince yourself that you don’t want a birthday party anyway, and that other people don’t really have any friends either, people don’t really want to go to their wedding or their birthday party they just do it begrudgingly and probably secretly hate them.

Yes, people who say they'd never go on holiday with their in laws, or in some cases their own parents and act like the fact that some people get on with their in laws or parents as really weird.

I get some people have awful/not good family relationships. But not everyone?

I think the difference in opinions on this site is great, it would be a fucking dull place if everyone was sunshine and rainbows.

Fucking hell, people are allowed to have their own preferences, ideals and comment style. And with all due respect if you don't like it, scroll on. You don't get to police other people's opinions by calling them miserable so and so's.

If you want a more saccharine forum, there's plenty where you're not allowed to swear. However, you must reply using words like hun, hollibobs, and ending messages with xx.

I love the fact that from time to time I can be a miserable fuck.

I’m sure that much of it is, like quite a bit of what’s posted on MN, awkward bunfight-starting whataboutery for the sake of it: “well what about people like me who have four dogs they can’t ever leave alone and no passport and who don’t like flying and who are using the food bank to eat let alone having spare money to spend on travelling your wedding, eh, eh, what about that, eh??” Well, believe it or not, I don’t personally know anyone to whom any of this applies, so no: I didn’t think about accommodating those things when planning my wedding.

Some of the posts and views blow my mind and also what bothers people/they see as an issue. The “assault” in a supermarket is one of my current favourites.

The attitude towards man is also disgusting at times. It makes me laugh how people on here rail against men and view them all the same and then get upset when men (apparently) do the same.

I know. Its entertaining though!

I'm always amazed by the ones who fervently believe that if someone posts happy pictures with their DH on social media, it must all be a front to cover up the fact that they are actually really unhappy and their relationship is awful. It's such a bitter, envious world view. Some people ARE actually happy, you know!

In general, I'm always kind of baffled that some people on here really don't seem to realise that different people are allowed to like different things, and that this doesn't affect anyone else in any way whatsoever.

I take it as a general rule to take every thread with a pinch of salt, you never know what is bollocks and what isn’t. I never get emotionally involved in a thread, and if it’s becoming a bit tiresome then I just hide it.
Theres a couple of things that have historically wound me up, mostly posters not RTFT
(or at least all the OP’s posts), or people reanimating Zombie threads. I don’t let it get to me any more.

I agree. I quite like a bunfight sometimes. I only watch now though, I don’t bother to get involved.

Abso freaking lutely. Love the fact I was called socially inadequate on here because I don’t answer my front door unless I’m expecting anyone and prefer keeping myself to myself than striking up conversations with random stranger - all this despite having a large circle of friends and an excellent social life!

The older I get, the more I embrace people’s individual quirks and differences without feeling the need to judge them for not being the same as me. It takes all sorts to make an interesting world and I’m happy to sometimes resemble the love child of Wednesday Addams and The Grinch 🤣

You are right OP. The most entertaining threads on here now are usually from Trolls and obviously from Trolls.

Although I do confess to loving the ones who have someone at the door or someone ringing the door bell and they want to know who it is but never answer the door/phone if someone has not texted 15 times to say they will be ringing or calling.

It's not the difference on opinion that is the issue. It's the blanket statements that their view is fact and everyone else's is stupid. And the patronising manner these same people seem to adopt as if that will bully people into not speaking up. Honestly, if anyone has to make the other person feel small to help them force their point, they have lost the discussion

@YouCantTourniquetTheTaint you also need to mention that you have an allergy to sunshine and rainbows and why haven't people taken that into account - eh?eh?

“You sound as bad as each other to be honest.”

I’ve seen that phrase a few times this week, and I’m each instance I thought it was untrue and unwarranted. Some people just love to stick the boot in.

Haha

TBH I think people should worry more about the cohort who seem to take malicious pleasure in coming up with advice to try to wreck someone elses life/relationship than someone who is just a miserable git.

The odd bout of misery here and there is pretty entertaining.

It's easy to be a jerk when you're hiding behind an anonymous username on an anonymous forum.