to think there's a bunch of miserable so and so's on here sometimes

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'Why celebrate your birthday?'
'I'd only go on an all accommodation and food paid wedding abroad on sufferance'

Yes, you might not like it, but other people might??

Especially when you can change your name everyday.

I take it as a general rule to take every thread with a pinch of salt, you never know what is bollocks and what isn’t. I never get emotionally involved in a thread, and if it’s becoming a bit tiresome then I just hide it.

This is a good rule of thumb and I wish I'd done that with a thread yesterday! A thread about a girl bullying her French teacher went on for 37 pages until the poster was shown to be a troll and I'm really annoyed at myself for getting invested!

Some people definitely seem to delight in being as rude, petty, contrary and miserable as possible towards others on here. I get the impression some of them think it makes them look cool. It really doesn't

I see one has already entered the thread.

I enjoy robust debate, but this really isn't it.

The whole "why do adults need to celebrate their birthdays" misery-fest gets right up my nose; "Birthdays are for children surely. It's just a day like any other. As for "big" birthdays, they're only 24 hours long, just like any other" (I read the latter in the last day or so). God forbid anyone would try to inject a little fun into their lives.

Still on the birthday topic: "If you want something just buy it yourself surely." FFS, talk about missing the point.

Or (patronisingly, where the OP hasn't received a gift or acknowledgement of her birthday from DH/DP); My DP/DH treat each other well all year round. We don't wait for a Hallmark instruction to do so etc etc.

Honestly, I love my birthday (well, not the aging bit obviously!) - there's always a nice gift / card, either a dinner out or a nice takeaway with a decent bottle of vino. Perhaps a cocktail or 2. Why on earth not make a bit of a bloody fuss. Yes, it's just another day but 364 days of the year (well, not entirely) are pretty same-y, why not take the opportunity to make one or 2 of them a little different / more fun.

I like celebrating my bday in moderation. DP doesn't.

We are both right. Tbh he would fit in well in MN. He never answers the door!

OP: My DH scratches his ear in an annoying way and likes to play video games. Otherwise, he's empathetic, kind, a great dad and shares the housework.

Mumsnet: Leave the useless waster

I feel for those who believe anything they read on here.
😉😁😁

Go on the 'I hate other children intruding when I take my child to softplay' thread
Or the threads about people taking their kids food shopping
They're truly amazing

The ones calling people grim for sitting on the sofa after going on the tube are also great

My favorite was the poster who chose not to answer her front door and then was consumed by wondering who it might have been 😬

Mumsnet is a daily competition to be the least fun-loving under the guise of being a no treat-having, chicken-stretching, no rule-breaking, fanatically environmentally conscious, frugal, neurotic citizen that sobs and shakes when the doorbell rings and doesn't reply to texts because they don't owe anyone their time.

Must be an exhausting existence.

I don’t think the pugilistic posters are women. I think we have been infiltrated.🤭

I've seen that recently when a poster was talking about their abusive partner. Absolutely disgusting.

Some people try and find fault with the op even if it’s completely unwarranted. It’s like you see someone asking for advice and you must find something to criticise about them.

Absolutely. Or they'll pick up on a spelling or grammar mistake and completely ignore the content of the post.

It’s surely not hard to put your point across without being a condescending prick though, isn’t it? Even if you swear

Yes totally. An OP will detail years of abuse and then say she told him to fuck off and some obtuse idiot will say 'well I'd leave you if you told me to fuck off. Poor guy'.

The same with Mother’s Day or Valentine’s Day. It’s all ‘OMG it’s just a commercial holiday and your partner and kids should show you they love you all year round so it’s meaningless. How dare you expect a cup of tea in bed/homecard and perhaps even a cheap bunch of flowers once a year. And certainly don’t expect anything if your children are small, your partner shouldn’t do anything nice because you’re not his mum’!🙄🙄

I'm far too middle class to speak to any of you.

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I've begun to realise over the years that it's probably a small amount of posters name changing that creates the misery culture. Internet forms also attract unsociable types so you'll have a greater proportion of them on here.

What gets me are the ones with no comprehension of what it's actually like to have no money or live in a bad/dangerous area and clearly have never met a real person off the street, but simultaneously they think it's a crime against society for posters to send their kids to private school, but think nothing of gaming the system to tutor their kids into grammar schools and don't understand why people can't just solve their poverty by earning more money.

The student loan thread yesterday made my mind boggle at the amount of people who thought paying tens of thousands a year for someone to go to uni was as easy as getting another job and saving more money.

See also: "Nursery is so damaging for children I feel so sad for children in nursery" coupled with "SAHMs are terrible fannylodgers get a job you waster!"

I find it entertaining. Especially in the summer, all the folks who get increasingly wound up if any of the neighbour's have the cheek to use their own garden or even worse have friends over to enjoy a summers day/evening. One wiff of a BBQ and they are rushing around slamming the windows shut whilst retching at the smell.

It would be difficult to read without it (whether it's grammatically correct or not).
Even if you're being sarcastic...

The ones that irk me are the ones that are rude about beach holidays and esp AI's. It is not some form of moral degeneracy to enjoy a few days a year lolling on a sun lounger with a cocktail.

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I wouldn't mind but each thread has an overwhelming majority with that viewpoint, it's like some people just go out of their way to be argumentative.

As for namechanges, I NC regularly because I can't stand the "advanced search" trollhunters who find that you said your child was a boy in a post three years ago and now you say they're a girl so you must be a troll (as opposed to changing details to avoid being outed then forgetting which details you changed because MN isn't your full time job) then a pile-on ensues.