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To call this an assault?

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trustyrustie · 27/06/2023 21:21

I was shopping in one of those supermarkets, that isn’t actually a supermarket but sells all the stuff that you know that you don’t know you need until you walk in today. When I finished, I approached the till area. There were a few tills with one woman on one till. the other tills were empty. I joined the queue for the till and there were three or four people ahead of me.

I had a trolley with two items in it, and I was holding the trolley with both hands. At some point the cashier left her position at the till to walk towards the customer services desk and look at two ladies working there. I didn’t realise she had done this until she yelled over aggressively to them “I’m sending some customers down to you because I’ve got plenty of them here” or words to that effect.

Without me expecting it she then aggressively physically pushed my trolley while I still had hold of it with both hands so that it spun 45° to the right in the direction of the customer services desk. My arms were pulled and my body was spun around as it went. She then turned around and went back to her till.

I think this was an assault.

I was shocked and upset… A few people that I know agree with me, and a few don’t

AIBU?

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JeminaSunshine · 27/06/2023 21:23

I would have just let go.

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trustyrustie · 27/06/2023 21:25

I didn’t have the chance to let go, because she pushed it while I had hold of it, I was already gripping it, and she pushed it really quickly and really hard

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KarmaStar · 27/06/2023 21:26

No it's not assault.
She was aggressive,you recall and I would complain to the manager of you wanted to take it further but you won't get anywhere if you were considering ringing the police.
I would put it out of your mind and move on.

Theunamedcat · 27/06/2023 21:27

Why did she push your trolley like that?

chocolatecupcake · 27/06/2023 21:28

Did you not say anything to her at the time? She was out of order. I would've complained

Infusionist · 27/06/2023 21:28

I can see how it was a surprise, but calling it assault sounds a bit OTT.

45 degrees isn’t much at all. Very hard to see how you could be hurt by that.

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trustyrustie · 27/06/2023 21:28

I am interested to know why you think it wasn’t an assault?

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GrumpyPanda · 27/06/2023 21:29

She pushed the trolley not you. That said she sounds completely unhinged.

LaBefana · 27/06/2023 21:29

trustyrustie · 27/06/2023 21:28

I am interested to know why you think it wasn’t an assault?

Because she didn't intend to hurt or upset you?

Jifmicroliquid · 27/06/2023 21:30

Why was it assault? She didn’t grab you and pull you, she grabbed the trolley and you didn’t let go.
Rude of her but not assault.

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trustyrustie · 27/06/2023 21:30

I think she pushed it because there was some internal unrest going on between her and her colleagues, and she felt that she was serving more customers than they were. In the act of her spinning my trolley, unexpectedly, very quickly and hard because she was enraged, it jerked my arms forward and spun my body around and I was left feeling quite disoriented

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Original poster
trustyrustie · 27/06/2023 21:30

How do you know that?

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Changethenamey · 27/06/2023 21:31

I would complain, but I wouldn’t be looking for compensation if that’s what you’re after (just getting that vibe from some of your wording).

sewerrat · 27/06/2023 21:31

she sounds a nutter but its not assault. if you were so away with the fairies she probably assumed you were more so resting your hands on the trolley so did it to wake you up a bit. move on

rwalker · 27/06/2023 21:32

Who was she the bionic woman

PurposefulBear · 27/06/2023 21:32

What a massive overreaction, are you always this sensitive?

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trustyrustie · 27/06/2023 21:32

Yes, somebody else said to me, it can’t be assault because she didn’t physically put her hands on you which made me think if she’d hit me with a stick would that be any different? Because she hadn’t actually put her hands on me. I was holding a trolley which she spun extremely quickly, and I had no time to react or loosen my grip

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almostoverthehill · 27/06/2023 21:32

Disorientated 🤣🤣🤣

sewerrat · 27/06/2023 21:33

interested to know why you're beating around the bush and not naming the store. was this cashier also a bodybuilder and taking steroids to make her so strong and aggressive to you?

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Jifmicroliquid · 27/06/2023 21:33

But if she’d hit you with a stick, that would have been an act of violence towards you.

She took the frustration out on the trolley, and unfortunately you were holding it at the time and didn’t let go.

What do you want to achieve from this?

Veryverycalmnow · 27/06/2023 21:33

That's awful. I don't know how she would think that was ok. I presume it hurt. Are you still hurt or just still shocked? I would complain.

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trustyrustie · 27/06/2023 21:34

@Infusionist she pushed it very hard and very quickly with rage

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dinoice · 27/06/2023 21:34

It may be a complaint, about manner.

It is not an assault, if she had pushed it into you yes, to turn it around, no, you could have let go.

Not really sure what you would like to achieve. Were you injured? Have you required time of work?

Jifmicroliquid · 27/06/2023 21:35

almostoverthehill · 27/06/2023 21:32

Disorientated 🤣🤣🤣

Is anyone else having visions of the OP and her trolley spinning round like some sort of Tasmanian Devil??