To send this text?

[jillmoan]

I have a drinking problem, as in I become really aggressive sometimes. Been seeing someone for few weeks and surprise surprise, as my story so often goes, I got drunk, became nasty and ruined things.

I haven't stopped thinking about it all week (happened last Saturday) and we haven't spoken since. Today was the first day I had the guts to go back and look at the messages. The things I were saying were really horrible, really nasty.

I genuinely am not sending this message to get anything from him, however, I really need to let him know that I know I was vile and I know my behaviour wasn't acceptable and apologise.

Do you think this message is okay to send?

Hiya, listen just wanted to apologise for my behaviour/messages/phone calls the other night. As you can probably tell I have my struggles with alcohol and have for a while, it turns me into not a nice person. Just have to apologise as I wouldn’t want anyone to think that I believe my behaviour is acceptable, I know it’s not and I need to deal with it. I’ll delete your number etc and won’t pester you again, just needed to apologise for that night and the things I was saying/way I was behaving. Thanks.

Ex friend of mine in the same situation ,no friends left ,i actually felt some of my previous feelings of anxiety reading op thread.
If you really mean to address your addiction then do it , apart from the upset of receiving drunken abuse via phone ,text etc it also becomes rather tedious listening to yet another 'genuine' apology.

are you an alcoholic? If not why would you be drinking if it turns you abusive?

Ex friend of mine in the same situation ,no friends left ,i actually felt some of my previous feelings of anxiety reading op thread.

Same here. Ex friend of mine was an alcoholic, did something unforgiveable with my data (which she stole while she was in my home), then came round to my house to see if I was alright because she hadn't seen me for a while 'and was worried about me'. Banging on the door and shouting didn't work so she went into my back garden and hammered on the window.

You’ve had some great advice on wording your apology.

I wanted to add my good wishes and to say well done for acknowledging that you are nasty when you are drunk and mean to take steps to change. There are so many who don’t, they care more about their drinking than the impact that drinking has on others. I used to work in a Magistrates’ Court and alcohol has a LOT to answer for for violent and abusive behaviour (I bet 80% or more involved alcohol - shocking fact isn’t it?)

Totally agree. Kind of shocked at the "don't send anything" brigade. If you have behaved shittily, you should apologize; isn't that basic? And given that the poor guy is probably thinking "what the heck did I do?" providing some detail about your situation seems quite reasonable. I don't see how not communicating at all is fairer on him than saying sorry.

If its a genuine apology its fair. But what about when you've heard the same apology 3 times? Or 4? Where do you draw the line?

Haven't read the full thread..but leave it..a few weeks he won't care and there's no investment..just leave it and learn from it..