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There are two sexes…

635 replies

ItJustFellOutLikeWordVomit · 23/06/2023 13:34

Well just that really….I have gay, straight, bi sexual and transsexual friends and absolutely have no problem with that, very much a do what makes you happy person.

Butttt….AIBU to think the world is going a bit mad with all the non-female, cis female and whatever other labels are floating about. I’m a woman and that’s that, you are either biologically a male or biologically a female and I don’t mean that in an insensitive way dress how you like and date who you like but surely we can’t just be inventing different/new sexes and telling straight women they are no longer a woman they are now XYZ?

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theDudesmummy · 23/06/2023 18:50

Yes that is an interesting paper

theDudesmummy · 23/06/2023 18:54

On my previous point about being OK with someone with Y chromosome in my loos, as long as they are not a threat, of course it happens all the time and we are fine with it. Little boys. They don't have to be redefined as female to come in. We just recognise that they are not a threat and act accordingly.

WickedSerious · 23/06/2023 18:58

Hotsummerlatenightstrolls · 23/06/2023 15:00

She was assigned as a female from birth and has lived as a woman. She is not really male or female she is intersex and was raised from birth as a woman. You deciding she will be he and she was born with a medical condition doesn't sit well and is offensive.

He is a man though.

DogandMog · 23/06/2023 19:01

It's not the chromosomes per se which determine sex... it is the genes within those chromosomes which do. Hence it is possible (but extremely rare) for a woman to have XY chromosomes, and for a man to have XX chromosomes. The conditions are Swyer syndrome and De La Chapelle syndrome.

The deciding gene is SRY... if it is activated, then a male reproductive physiology develops, and if it is silent then a female reproductive system develops. A male reproductive developmental pathway is called a Wolffian system, and a female pathway is called a Müllerian system.

But... just as clown fish biology only pertains to... clown fish, the medical biology of DSDs only pertains to people diagnosed with DSDs. No political or sociological claims can be extrapolated out of such conditions into the general population to attempt to assert notions about the mutability of sex. In gonochoric species (all mammals, all birds & 98% of fish) sex is as binary as it gets.

Helleofabore · 23/06/2023 19:06

DogandMog · 23/06/2023 19:01

It's not the chromosomes per se which determine sex... it is the genes within those chromosomes which do. Hence it is possible (but extremely rare) for a woman to have XY chromosomes, and for a man to have XX chromosomes. The conditions are Swyer syndrome and De La Chapelle syndrome.

The deciding gene is SRY... if it is activated, then a male reproductive physiology develops, and if it is silent then a female reproductive system develops. A male reproductive developmental pathway is called a Wolffian system, and a female pathway is called a Müllerian system.

But... just as clown fish biology only pertains to... clown fish, the medical biology of DSDs only pertains to people diagnosed with DSDs. No political or sociological claims can be extrapolated out of such conditions into the general population to attempt to assert notions about the mutability of sex. In gonochoric species (all mammals, all birds & 98% of fish) sex is as binary as it gets.

Yes. Chromosomes make up one part of determining sex.

That is why the definition that I have seen about 'body formation' covers those very rare cases of the DSDs as you mention.

It is generally reliable that chromosomes will accurately categorise sex, but not always.

CampervanKween · 23/06/2023 19:10

There are only two sexes. Intersex is not a third sex. It's a disorder but still either of the male or female sex.

HermioneWeasley · 23/06/2023 19:10

At any given time there are around 600 men on the planet that have 2 penises. Nobody suggests that makes a case for the number of penises a man has being on a spectrum - is is accepted as an incredibly rare medical condition or mutation from which absolutely nothing can be extrapolated.

BMW6 · 23/06/2023 19:13

*Hotsummerlatenightstrolls · Today 15:00

She was assigned as a female from birth and has lived as a woman. She is not really male or female she is intersex and was raised from birth as a woman. You deciding she will be he and she was born with a medical condition doesn't sit well and is offensive.*

CS has FATHERED a child. With HIS wife.

He is a man with DSD. Always was a man. He has a Y chromosome.

literallyarabbit · 23/06/2023 19:17

nothingcomestonothing · 23/06/2023 18:45

And the example given re Lady Colin Campbell is interesting because according to her, there was no confusion over whether she was male or female, either to her parents or doctors. They knew she was a female with a DSD, but thought in the case of babies with ambiguous genitals that as they'd been given a raw deal in life they should get given a break by being recorded and treated as male, the superior sex. So even though she was raised as male, the adults knew she was female with a DSD. There was no confusion or mistake, but a deliberate choice to say.she was male. Because male is better.

Yes.

It's actually really sad that due to being born with a fused labia and clitoris, her true sex was ignored, and Lady Colin Campbell was raised as a boy called George. What's worse, is that during puberty, as she developed breasts and her hip widened, her father forced testosterone injections on her. Her father's attitude, not to mention his behaviour is appalling.

loislovesstewie · 23/06/2023 19:20

I wish I hadn't Googled that!

Helleofabore · 23/06/2023 19:20

ilovesooty · 23/06/2023 14:28

The Sex and Gender discussion board

I think you have tried this one enough times to realise it has become increasingly rare for MN to move a thread to the Feminist chat board if there is a poll and the OP does not wish the thread to move.

I know that you and others find these threads as irresistible as can be that you simply cannot scroll past and ignore them. And you feel compelled to attempt to either shame OPs for starting them or get them moved.

This is a discussion that I believe stemmed from current news items about a teacher who declared that there were three sexes. It is relevant as this is a concept that is being taught in our schools.

I think the poll results are rather conclusive that this is an important discussion and that the majority of posters are here for it. And we are all learning along the way.

By all means, scroll on past it or hide it.

viques · 23/06/2023 19:27

Sceptic1234 · 23/06/2023 14:58

I'm afraid I think it is wrong to refer to Caster as "him" despite my scientific understanding (I have been involved in research into steroid hormone action....now retired).

DSD cases are very rare and very, very difficult to live with and I think it is important to respect the perspective of an individual who finds themselves in that situation. Carter's situation is very difficult and very complex

But Caster presents as a man , so although they have continued , despite verified medical evidence, to claim to be a woman ( no doubt because they want to keep up the pretence of being an international female cheat athlete) they clearly live their life as a man. Which is what he is.

viques · 23/06/2023 19:29

viques · 23/06/2023 19:27

But Caster presents as a man , so although they have continued , despite verified medical evidence, to claim to be a woman ( no doubt because they want to keep up the pretence of being an international female cheat athlete) they clearly live their life as a man. Which is what he is.

And yes, DSD is a rare condition, which is why it is a statistical puzzle about why it appears so often within the already niche population of middle distance female runners.

loislovesstewie · 23/06/2023 19:33

Not being scientific I don't think it's difficult. Caster is male, the fact that at some point he 'claimed' to be female isn't enough to 'be' female.

GailBlancheViola · 23/06/2023 19:39

Women want trans women to not use their toilets, because they think its a man.

Not think, know.

However, it isnt as simple as having the trans woman using the mans toilets, because, by identifying as female, she will be at risk in those toilets.

You can't identify as female, female is a biological reality. TW, who are male, using the female toilets puts women at risk and also results in some women having to self exclude from their own toilet space. That's discrimination.

There is ZERO evidence that TW are at any risk using the male toilet facilities yet there is evidence of risk and harm to women with TW using the female facilities.

Newrumpus · 23/06/2023 19:40

CatchYouOnTheFlippetyFlop · 23/06/2023 13:41

It actually isn't. It's super regressive, stereotypical bullshit.

Yes. Woke nonsense

Bookist · 23/06/2023 19:41

There are only two sexes.

As for what gender people choose to identify is there's male/female and Other. And I'm too old, tired and menopausal to give the slightest shit about anything happening with the Others.

ItJustFellOutLikeWordVomit · 23/06/2023 20:17

Well the people who have decided my post is in the wrong place, I don’t think it is because I’m asking if my opinion reasonable or not hence the AIBU poll.

Same goes for the “ooh how original”/“not this again”

You are clearly annoyed at the thread for whatever reason…the title doesn’t mislead if you don’t like the title of a thread don’t click it? 😑

I think it’s an important subject that needs to be recognised and addressed, if you don’t then don’t involve yourself.

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Rainbowshit · 23/06/2023 20:26

LimitIsUp · 23/06/2023 13:54

@Rainbowshit - don't embarrass yourself love. Look up intersex

🤭 🤭

Love, you're the one that has embarrassed yourself here. Could not be cringing more for you.

Intersex is a misleading, outdated and offensive term as many many others on this thread have said. Hope you have realised what an arse you have made of yourself

Every single human even those with a with a difference of sexual development is either male or female.

Helleofabore · 23/06/2023 20:31

ItJustFellOutLikeWordVomit · 23/06/2023 20:17

Well the people who have decided my post is in the wrong place, I don’t think it is because I’m asking if my opinion reasonable or not hence the AIBU poll.

Same goes for the “ooh how original”/“not this again”

You are clearly annoyed at the thread for whatever reason…the title doesn’t mislead if you don’t like the title of a thread don’t click it? 😑

I think it’s an important subject that needs to be recognised and addressed, if you don’t then don’t involve yourself.

Yes OP. There is a group of posters who have little impulse control or who expect MN to curate a board just for them. It is always the same posters.

If you thread is moved, do ask for it to be moved back. But that will remove the poll. Still, it has been an important thread with lots to learn. So thank you.

Stillcountingbeans · 23/06/2023 21:41

Are there any cases of human chimeras who present as male? Or are these people always female (on the pathway to produce large gametes, to use Kathleen Stock's very helpful definition).

ditalini · 23/06/2023 21:49

Stillcountingbeans · 23/06/2023 21:41

Are there any cases of human chimeras who present as male? Or are these people always female (on the pathway to produce large gametes, to use Kathleen Stock's very helpful definition).

Yes. 45X/46XY does have a spectrum of phenotypical presentation from normal male through ambiguous to normal female.

ditalini · 23/06/2023 21:52

And I say "normal", obviously it's normal for the person whose body it is - there's a wide range of normal for human bodies. Typical would be a better word.

Stillcountingbeans · 23/06/2023 21:52

ditalini · 23/06/2023 21:49

Yes. 45X/46XY does have a spectrum of phenotypical presentation from normal male through ambiguous to normal female.

So how does one determine the sex of such a person? Is it just by phenotyping?
What gametes do they produce (if any)?

ditalini · 23/06/2023 22:07

Stillcountingbeans · 23/06/2023 21:52

So how does one determine the sex of such a person? Is it just by phenotyping?
What gametes do they produce (if any)?

Not a doctor, I should imagine if the phenotype is typically male then they will be raised male, possibly not even diagnosed but almost certainly infertile.

If phenotypically female then the same - also possibly not diagnosed until puberty, almost always infertile.

I don't know what the investigation and decision making process will be for vey ambiguous genitalia and possibly streak gonads. Still not a third sex, probably no gametes.

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